CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 I don’t cook with meat (I am vegan) and he never eats meat when we are together. It would be a bit weird if i would cook meat for him now, although he does still eat meat from time to time. I always feel very insecure when cooking for him because he is such an amazing cook and he makes the best dinners. But i think in the end i will try to find a nice recipe and cook for him anyway. I hope it will not go wrong. He will appreciate the effort no matter what. Let him take a long nap while you cook a nice dinner. Ask a friend for help if you need it. Just be quiet .
Romantic_Antics Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 The problem is all these things are way too extravagant. We only have the city where we live at our disposal and i May be overthinking but i want it to be special. I don’t want it to be something anyone could throw together (for example, dinner at a restaurant is too average for me for this anniversary). Btw he doesn’t like hotels. Well damn. That sure was messy between the weird grammatical errors in my post that I was unable to edit and having all of my ideas shot down. Next time I'll just hand you a bazooka and you can save me the trouble. If hotels and restaurants are off the table, you could cook him his favorite food and have a candlelight dinner with wine. Afterwards you could go some place that meant something to you on a previous date (where you first met or where you had your first date) or just polish off the wine and relax with a movie or going through some of your old pictures together.
Happy Lemming Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 I don’t cook with meat (I am vegan) and he never eats meat when we are together. It would be a bit weird if i would cook meat for him now, although he does still eat meat from time to time. I always feel very insecure when cooking for him because he is such an amazing cook and he makes the best dinners. But i think in the end i will try to find a nice recipe and cook for him anyway. I hope it will not go wrong. Ooops... didn't know you were vegan. How about a "veggie pasta".... Cream of mushroom base?? Cream of Celery base?? Add Spinach, carrots, peas... I also make a mean Tofu Fried Rice. I use my big WOK and add lots of veggies. The leftovers are fantastic!!
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 I think they are called "sleep blinders"... thank you. I will bring them.
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 Ooops... didn't know you were vegan. How about a "veggie pasta".... Cream of mushroom base?? Cream of Celery base?? Add Spinach, carrots, peas... I also make a mean Tofu Fried Rice. I use my big WOK and add lots of veggies. The leftovers are fantastic!! Yeah i wasn’t also thinking that he has much better kitchen equipment than i do, so it will be easier to cook there. I only have one rusty pan, lol.
preraph Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Does he live with you? Because I am thinking you just want to go to your own home after a trip, not a hotel, not someone else's place. So you might consider doing it at his place if you're not living together, and that means maybe only baking and getting some takeout. I agree you must talk about it first. He can't very well prepare for an anniversary while on vacation, so you may need to put it off until the following weekend.
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 Well damn. That sure was messy between the weird grammatical errors in my post that I was unable to edit and having all of my ideas shot down. Next time I'll just hand you a bazooka and you can save me the trouble. If hotels and restaurants are off the table, you could cook him his favorite food and have a candlelight dinner with wine. Afterwards you could go some place that meant something to you on a previous date (where you first met or where you had your first date) or just polish off the wine and relax with a movie or going through some of your old pictures together. I appreciate your efforts. I am indeed a pacifist
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Ooops... didn't know you were vegan. How about a "veggie pasta".... Cream of mushroom base?? Cream of Celery base?? Add Spinach, carrots, peas... I also make a mean Tofu Fried Rice. I use my big WOK and add lots of veggies. The leftovers are fantastic!! I don't think "cream of" anything is on a vegan menu! Doesn't that take dairy and/or eggs?
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 Does he live with you? Because I am thinking you just want to go to your own home after a trip, not a hotel, not someone else's place. So you might consider doing it at his place if you're not living together, and that means maybe only baking and getting some takeout. I agree you must talk about it first. He can't very well prepare for an anniversary while on vacation, so you may need to put it off until the following weekend. Nooo we don’t live together. So i was thinking of picking him up from the airport and then going to his place. I know he has not prepared anything and it is all up to me. But i am ok with that. I just want to prepare things really nice and romantic. Something he wouldn’t expect, is all.
Romantic_Antics Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Get yer mind outta the gutter, RA . I meant the.....heck, I still can't think of the name. Sleep mask? My mind may be like my bowling game - always in the gutter - but it wasn't there this time. I just thought it was adorable. Now we know where *your* mind went on the comeback though.
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 I don't think "cream of" anything is on a vegan menu! Doesn't that take dairy and/or eggs? You can make creamy pastas with non-dairy creams, for example rice cream. The vegan world is endless I think i will go for baked potato with veggies!!!!
Happy Lemming Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 I don't think "cream of" anything is on a vegan menu! Doesn't that take dairy and/or eggs? You are probably right, I've cooked vegetarian, but never vegan...
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 I vote for the massage! Noted. I will take my lavender massage oil and see if it will come to use. He has had back problems lately so perhaps the plane ride will make it worse and i can do something good for him. And then a blow job. Oh my god i can’t wait. lol.
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 I like the baking a cake idea. I think that's sweet. What are his top love languages? Need more info about him... though I bet when you give it, you may find the solution yourself Can you respond to this one? I am super intrigued. What are love languages?
Romantic_Antics Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 I don't think "cream of" anything is on a vegan menu! My mind did hit the gutter with that one though. It's your fault. It was a set up. *Edit: I can't find a single decent looking clip of the Wayne's World "cream of sum yung guy" food order. They all look like they were recorded with a toaster.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Sleep mask? My mind may be like my bowling game - always in the gutter - but it wasn't there this time. I just thought it was adorable. Now we know where *your* mind went on the comeback though. Hahaha! Yes, sleep mask .
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Can you respond to this one? I am super intrigued. What are love languages? I will respond . Author Gary Chapman wrote a book called The Five Love Languages. Basically, we all have a primary love language through which we receive love, but also give love (which is often the same). The premise of the book is to find out what your partner's love language is and to show them love through that language, even if that language is not how YOU receive love. The five languages are: 1. Physical Tough 2. Receiving Gifts 3. The gift of time (spending time together) 4. Acts of Service 5. Words of Affirmation You and your partner may have different "love languages" (the way you mostly feel loved), but it's important to "speak" your partner's love language if it is different than yours. For example, if yours is acts of service, but his is words of affirmation, make sure you're affirming him with your words even if it doesn't come naturally to you.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 My mind did hit the gutter with that one though. It's your fault. It was a set up. *Edit: I can't find a single decent looking clip of the Wayne's World "cream of sum yung guy" food order. They all look like they were recorded with a toaster. Haha, I did NOT set that up.
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 I will respond . Author Gary Chapman wrote a book called The Five Love Languages. Basically, we all have a primary love language through which we receive love, but also give love (which is often the same). The premise of the book is to find out what your partner's love language is and to show them love through that language, even if that language is not how YOU receive love. The five languages are: 1. Physical Tough 2. Receiving Gifts 3. The gift of time (spending time together) 4. Acts of Service 5. Words of Affirmation You and your partner may have different "love languages" (the way you mostly feel loved), but it's important to "speak" your partner's love language if it is different than yours. For example, if yours is acts of service, but his is words of affirmation, make sure you're affirming him with your words even if it doesn't come naturally to you. Thank you!!!!! My best friend actually told me about this. She read the book. I just did the test on the website (for myself and also for him, sort of based on what i think he would pick؛ i like to think i am not too much off). For ME it said: 10 physical touch 9 words of affirmation 5 receiving gifts & quality time 1 acts of service For HIM it said: 12 quality time 9 physical touch 4 receive gifts & words of affirmation 1 acts of service How shall i interpret this? Interesting to learn about this tho. I will definitely ask him to do the test for real when he is back. But i don’t think it will be too different from what i picked for him (i like to think i know him well).
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Thank you!!!!! My best friend actually told me about this. She read the book. I just did the test on the website (for myself and also for him, sort of based on what i think he would pick؛ i like to think i am not too much off). For ME it said: 10 physical touch 9 words of affirmation 5 receiving gifts & quality time 1 acts of service For HIM it said: 12 quality time 9 physical touch 4 receive gifts & words of affirmation 1 acts of service How shall i interpret this? Interesting to learn about this tho. I will definitely ask him to do the test for real when he is back. But i don’t think it will be too different from what i picked for him (i like to think i know him well). Well, you definitely need to have him take this himself, but if you're correct, I think giving him a very low key day on the day he returns is going to speak his love language the best . See my previous suggestions. I will say sometimes you can be surprised to learn about other's love languages. I recently went to a ladies (only) retreat at my mom's church and we did this "test." I was shocked that my aunt's love language was physical touch. She's such a *&^%$% ..... I would have had no clue she desires physical affection!
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 Sex, Sex and more Sex....oh.. did I say Sex ? That’s a given
Author heavenonearth Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 Well, you definitely need to have him take this himself, but if you're correct, I think giving him a very low key day on the day he returns is going to speak his love language the best . See my previous suggestions. I will say sometimes you can be surprised to learn about other's love languages. I recently went to a ladies (only) retreat at my mom's church and we did this "test." I was shocked that my aunt's love language was physical touch. She's such a *&^%$% ..... I would have had no clue she desires physical affection! Yes I was not surprised by the result. He surely is someone who enjoys just being together with no one else interrupting and he likes to focus on only us when we are together. I am currently crafting a jellyfish lamp for him. Out of paper.
d0nnivain Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Well he does know it’s our anniversary. He is coming back on that day for exactly this reason He knows i have something planned because he knows i am the one and only romantic overlord or romance forever romance. Lol. Baked potatoes are a good idea!!!!!!!!. As long as he acknowledges the anniversary too. I just don't want you to go crazy & have him disappoint you. If he's getting home at 8 a.m. Pick him up, drive him home & climb into bed with him. When he falls asleep you get up & start to deal with this meal you are planning. I have to ask though if you are vegan, don't cook, own 1 rusty pot, what exactly do you eat? Make that I guess. You can't just serve baked potatoes. At the very least make baked sweet potatoes because they are healthier & serve a side salad. Read through recopies on the internet & find something you think you can make. What the love language thing means is he just wants you there You need him to touch you, even hand holding, while you are together. All in all it's easy for you two to speak each other's languages because they are impossible to do apart.
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