Ice Man Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 (edited) Last week (May 20th) I started talking to someone I met on a dating app. We talked for hours and picked up the next day, in which she gave me her number to text more. We talked every day all throughout the day all last week and asked questions to get to know each other better. She said she was beginning to like me. She would even text me good morning, and send me selfies. She told me some of her hobbies and how she is an aunt to a 4 year old and loves it. We settled on going out for coffee this past Sunday. When Sunday came, she told me we had to reschedule due to her niece being sent to the ER the night before for a fever of 101. She said her sister needed help as her niece was being very clingy and wasn't resting. I told her no problem I understood, as I had a family cookout to attend to in the late afternoon anyways. We talked for a bit yesterday and she said didn't know when her next day off would be, but she said we could possibly meet up after she gets out of work on Thursday. She seemed a bit distant, and we didn't talk for the rest of the day at all. I decided not to text her today to give her space, but I am bit confused as to why she suddenly switched up on me. We have been talking here and there but it was nothing like it was before. Ironically, a female friend of mine knows her and offered to do some recon for me. She told her she's talking to me, and one other guy, and think the other guy is super attractive. However, she told her she's iffy with the other guy. I've decided to back off at this point. I am keeping my options open and am talking to other people, but she is on my mind. What do I do? Edited May 31, 2018 by Ice Man
alphamale Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 What do I do? fire up the dating app and look for more chicks
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 Last week (May 20th) When Sunday came, she told me we had to reschedule due to her niece being sent to the ER the night before for a fever of 101. She said her sister needed help as her niece was being very clingy and wasn't resting. Unless a head injury, compromised immune system, or dehydration from a stomach virus is involved, nobody takes their 4 year old to the ER for a 101 fever. She's very luke warm. I'd cease contact.
alphamale Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 Unless a head injury, compromised immune system, or dehydration from a stomach virus is involved, nobody takes their 4 year old to the ER for a 101 fever. She's very luke warm. I'd cease contact. excellent detective work CO
Author Ice Man Posted May 31, 2018 Author Posted May 31, 2018 Unless a head injury, compromised immune system, or dehydration from a stomach virus is involved, nobody takes their 4 year old to the ER for a 101 fever. She's very luke warm. I'd cease contact. Yeah I stopped texting her because I'm not going to be someone's runner up. It's too bad because I was liking where this was going. 1
Romantic_Antics Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 Yeah I stopped texting her because I'm not going to be someone's runner up. It's too bad because I was liking where this was going. There's always the option that you compete for her affection, but pursue other women while you do so. She may start to gravitate towards you as you start to pull away. It's worth considering and it keeps your options open while not completely scrubbing her from the picture.
Author Ice Man Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 There's always the option that you compete for her affection, but pursue other women while you do so. She may start to gravitate towards you as you start to pull away. It's worth considering and it keeps your options open while not completely scrubbing her from the picture. So should I still text her? I figured I would just ignore her.
JeanGray Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Perhaps the niece being sick was an lie/excuse so she could go on a date with the other guy?
Author Ice Man Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 Perhaps the niece being sick was an lie/excuse so she could go on a date with the other guy? Part of me felt that way. If that's the case, it's messed up. She could have just said, "sorry, Sunday doesn't work for me." 1
carhill Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 Ask the next woman on a date sooner, presuming you feel mutual interest. The only way to know for sure is in person. This also lessens the chance for being strung along as an attention-portal. Cut to the chase. Using this woman as an example, when she provided her phone number, I'd have called her (not text) and asked her on a date. At that point you'd already spent hours in contact with her. Good luck!
smackie9 Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 well if you are the type that wants to be the winner out of the gate, ditch her and keep looking. No one likes being someone's option.
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