Numbergang18 Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 (edited) Hey guys, just going through a bit of a dilemma. Recently my boyfriend of 2 years broke up. He had time to think after a slight argument/me not being around as much and also not staying to discuss a matter. Said he is feeling broken and just doesn't think it will work. Been almost 2 months and I still feel a bit all over the show. I know he has mentioned to someone that if we get back together again, hes scared that we will break up again and is scared of going through the pain again. We've broken up before but seemed to have gotten back together. What are the chances of someone giving a 3rd chance? I just feel it was a bit of a stupid reason to actually part ways. In my opinion at least. I've tried talking to him briefly but he doesnt seem to hold a conversation anymore and seems rather cold. Edited May 31, 2018 by Numbergang18
d0nnivain Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 I suppose stranger things have happened, but my Q is why do you want him back? You already broke up twice. This latest go 'round was the 2nd chance. It didn't work. Perhaps you need to acknowledge that this relationship isn't meant to be. Yes, it's painful now, but in time you will be happy again & free to pursue something that is working.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 Chances are slim that he will come back and stay back. Two break-ups is already too many. I think it's time you accept this is over so you can begin to heal. You two tried, but it didn't work. You will be so much happier when you eventually meet a special guy who wouldn't dream of letting you go even one time.
Author Numbergang18 Posted June 1, 2018 Author Posted June 1, 2018 My reason for wanting him back is that I miss him - and not just the feeling of relationship but actually him as a person. While it does hurt a lot less now, hes always on my mind. I am starting to think that chances are slim. But there is a tiny bit of hope at the back of my mind. It has been the first serious and long term relationship he has been in, hence why I think the breakup could've been avoided had there been better communication to get through it. Age wise we are 26 and 30.
bummer Posted June 2, 2018 Posted June 2, 2018 What have you changed about yourself and your communication skills that would foster a new relationship with this guy? What has he done? Are any changes long-term growth and true character improvements or quick-fixes to feed the craving? I'm sorry for your pain after 2 years, but 2 months will become 6 months and you'll hopefully miss him less and less with each day. I'd cherish the good and continue to work on the bad by yourself. enjoy your own company and how special you are to yourself.
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