my gf asked her ex to meet up basically

[d0nnivain]

3 months with you vs. however long & continuing with him.

 

She asked to meet him. That's just wrong & you know it.

 

Glad you are finally waking up.

[BluesPower]

You should have...

 

Woke her up, handed her, and told her to GTF out now.

 

Then you lose her number and never, ever talk to her again.

 

Anything less, and you are a chump...

[Zahara]

thanks < i shes giving me the run around with answers so thats my cue

 

If you chose to stay, she's going to take it underground and better hide her future interactions with him. But the worse thing that's going to happen is that you will teach her that you tolerate poor behavior and that opens the door to more of it.

 

Been there done that. When you see the red flag, and this is a big one, walk away. It's a very young relationship and the sooner you exit, the sooner you get over it and move on to someone that has better boundaries and respects you as a partner. If you don't, you send a message to her that she can play you for a fool.

[stillafool]

She's lying. She asked to come see him. Nobody does that by accident. Sounds like they are speaking regularly and seeing each other regularly. Doing what? Who knows, but since she seems to be keeping it a secret, it's probably not good. I'm sorry.

 

Not only this but the ex bf's response was as if this is a normal thing they do. He didn't seem surprised that she was coming by at all. She's lying to you.

She's seeing both of you and not feeling guilty one bit.

Edited May 31, 2018 by stillafool

[preraph]

"When can I see you" is simply not the way you phrase things with a person who is only a friend. Have you ever said "When can I see you to one of your platonic male friends?"

 

I'm sorry. The disrespect is the worst part of it.

[Twelve9]

After trying to break up today for the amnesia disrespect she finally admits " I wanted to meet up but,changed my mind"

[Twelve9]

pretty sure she felt guilty and decided not to

[Marc878]

Run !!!!!!

[phineas]

I didnt know she still talked to him, until I went through her notifications.

 

Fair enough, but you need to state your terms before you agree to be BF/GF.

I let women know at that point what I won't tolerate because I won't do it and expect the same.

 

if they walk then so be it.

If they stay then I am prepared to walk if they break those terms.

 

It really isn't that hard to stay away from ex's and orbiters when you are with someone.

[Decorum]

She is playing you.

Do you really need to come on the internet to figure this out?

 

Move on to someone who is honest and respects you.

 

Someday you may be lucky enough to be with a woman who is mature and really loves you.

You will shake your head at how you are being treated now.

 

That is unless you miss out on that woman because you are tied up with Miss Drama.

Edited June 1, 2018 by Decorum

[ExpatInItaly]

pretty sure she felt guilty and decided not to

 

Oh, please. She only "decided" not to when she got caught red-handed.

 

End it now or hang around for more disrespect and pain. This girl isn't with you for the right reasons and it won't end well for you.

[bachdude]

After trying to break up today for the amnesia disrespect she finally admits " I wanted to meet up but,changed my mind"

 

How many versions of the story has she gone through now? I lost track.

[preraph]

I'm sure she feels very remorseful that she got caught.

[Daisy-oliviaWentcher]

One of my exes randomly wanted to meet up with me while I was in relationship. I said no, even though I'm not in a relationship with either of those men anymore. I don't regret my decision.

I feel there is this window of time and space to meet up with an ex if you need to apologise for anything and/or the ex does.

If it's a "lets meet up for coffee and lunch for the sake of it" I don't care if its been 20 years, I still find it inappropriate.

Meeting up with exes are tricky things. I feel clean breaks are the responsibility of the person, needing to move forward. If my boyfriend felt the need to catch up with an ex, especially if he didn't tell me, I would end things then and there.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

The writing is literally on the wall, you can't get any more concrete evidence,

She's banging both you and her ex and apparently she think's you're pretty dense,

You bought her excuse, and now she's had ample time to come up with a story,

Get out of this relation**** as quickly as you can before it becomes gory!