Patricia5827 Posted May 30, 2018 Posted May 30, 2018 So I recently went out of town for a friends bachelorette party. I’m single and told myself I would never use tinder again, but since we were out of state and I was with all my girlfriends I said screw it and downloaded it. Matched with a guy, we met up but didn’t have as much time as we thought so we just walked around the city and said our quick goodbyes. I thought I would never talk to him again, didn’t have feelings like that. Weekend goes by and I go home, and he texts me pretty much saying I want to come visit you, I’ve started getting feelings for you. Weird because I started catching feelings before he texted me that. So he looked at flights, is flying here soon , and we started talking more and more. But in the past 4 days, he just has barely talked to me. Now usually I’m okay with not talking for like a day or two, I’m busy he’s busy I get it. But 3-4 days ? No one is away from their phone that much. I was ballsy and double texted and he immediately responded but then went back to waiting. Am I overthinking things?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 30, 2018 Posted May 30, 2018 No, you're not overthinking. Did he actually book a flight? If not, I'd guess he's not going to and it has just fizzled out for him because of the distance.
Gaeta Posted May 30, 2018 Posted May 30, 2018 For all we know he took a flight to see someone else and he's having a great time (that's why he's silent). You don't know this man, he's probably a big waste of your time. I would not even go grab a coffee with a man that didn't speak to me for 4 days so you can forget about me picking him up at the airport.
d0nnivain Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 I'd be more freaked out about the announcement that he's catching feelings for you. It was 4 days over a holiday weekend. Kind of understandable that he isn't responded. I wouldn't do anything else. If he gives you another message with flight info meet him for dinner but make sure he doesn't think he's staying at your place. 1
smackie9 Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 he's just looking to slam you. You know they type...telling you what you want to hear..."I have feelings for you", "I have never met anyone as amazing as you", "I must see you again, I can't stop thinking of you." "I know this sounds crazy, but I felt something when we met" etc etc etc. If it doesn't fee right, it's not. Keep your guard up! 1
mortensorchid Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 I hate it when you encounter a player like that. They get you interested and then go poof or come up with an excuse as to why it ain't gonna happen. Plus the circumstances around it? Just move on. It's not that deep.
JeanGray Posted June 1, 2018 Posted June 1, 2018 If there's no flight booked, chances are he caught feelings for someone else and has moved on.
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