thisjourney1 Posted May 28, 2018 Posted May 28, 2018 Recently a guy that I was seeing broke things off with me. I have been going through some hurtful times in my life and on the road to healing from some things that happened in my life and he told me that he’s not willing to wait for me to heal and that he wasn’t able to give me the attention that I needed and deserved from a partner. He also mentioned that my situation was more than what he wanted in his life. Do you think that is a pretty fair reason to break things off, just curious. Thanks for reading my post.
Purrrfect Posted May 28, 2018 Posted May 28, 2018 At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter the reason Please don’t beat yourself up over it. Focus on you and feel better before you start dating again. Good luck.
Mrin Posted May 29, 2018 Posted May 29, 2018 I believe it's a fair reason to break up. Some people just don't have the capacity or inclination to support somebody going through difficult times. If anything - it was good of him to go ahead and let you know rather than half ass it. It also probably means that he wasn't that into you or haven't grown feelings of significance.
fredflint Posted May 29, 2018 Posted May 29, 2018 Recently a guy that I was seeing broke things off with me. I have been going through some hurtful times in my life and on the road to healing from some things that happened in my life and he told me that he’s not willing to wait for me to heal and that he wasn’t able to give me the attention that I needed and deserved from a partner. He also mentioned that my situation was more than what he wanted in his life. Do you think that is a pretty fair reason to break things off, just curious. Thanks for reading my post. Are you trying to decide whether he is justified in his decision? Someone is always justified in breaking up, if they want to, for any reason, or even no reason at all. Marriage vows can sometimes make people believe differently but that defies the reality. Of course its still nice if they handle the breakup with kindness and compassion.
Author thisjourney1 Posted May 29, 2018 Author Posted May 29, 2018 that's a very fair reason to break up At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter the reason Please don’t beat yourself up over it. Focus on you and feel better before you start dating again. Good luck. Thanks I did feel kind of bad about it
coolheadal Posted May 29, 2018 Posted May 29, 2018 Recently a guy that I was seeing broke things off with me. I have been going through some hurtful times in my life and on the road to healing from some things that happened in my life and he told me that he’s not willing to wait for me to heal and that he wasn’t able to give me the attention that I needed and deserved from a partner. He also mentioned that my situation was more than what he wanted in his life. Do you think that is a pretty fair reason to break things off, just curious. Thanks for reading my post. My child your still in pain, yet that man told you the truth, as most never get the real answer. Take the time now and heal not by what he said but the other hurtful times you had so far in your life that need to be put to one side once you can bring yourself to a final peace.
act00 Posted May 29, 2018 Posted May 29, 2018 I do think it is reasonable. The length of time you were involved, dating, boyfriend/girlfriend, long-term, casual, engaged, married...how long and how involved...these things play a role. I don't know how easily I could stay and tackle major life issues with someone I don't really know that well and not involved in a relationship at a level of love and commitment leading to marriage...so I think it's valid. There are so many factors involved in this type of vague question, and no matter what, someone is coming out of it looking like a jerk, uncaring, selfish...but I do think it is valid to exit a relationship if the circumstances are such it cannot be maintained, and especially valid when you walk into a new relationship only to find you're dealing with past demons and baggage.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 29, 2018 Posted May 29, 2018 Yes, I think it's a very fair reason to break up. He did the right thing by being honest that he cannot take on the role you'd wished. It is better for him to have ended it definitively than slowly disappeared without explaining why.
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