PRW Posted May 23, 2018 Posted May 23, 2018 By the way, the "I'm nervous about the date" text from her end was a sign that she may have been planning on flaking anyway. Very very likely to be true.
SevenCity Posted May 23, 2018 Posted May 23, 2018 Very very likely to be true. Agreed. Although a little nervousness can pop up when they like you, most interested woman say they look forward to meeting you.
Author cheersbar Posted May 28, 2018 Author Posted May 28, 2018 Went to some races with this girl last night and tonight, I was so awkwardly shy. Well sort of Like we talked but I wasn't myself. I really enjoyed my time with her, I just clamed up a bit Her dad was at the races and we ran into him and he kinda hung out with us and talked For me that was really really awkward. This was my first time meeting her and i'm also meeting her dad? I had no idea what to say. She spent alot of time talking to her dad, which is fine, but I could just feel myself losing it lol I mean it seemed like she HAD a fun time with me but I don't think I made a great impression
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 28, 2018 Posted May 28, 2018 Is this the same girl to whom you said you were nervous and also drunk texting?
Author cheersbar Posted May 28, 2018 Author Posted May 28, 2018 Is this the same girl to whom you said you were nervous and also drunk texting? yes it was
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 28, 2018 Posted May 28, 2018 yes it was I don't really think you blew it. I think it's a bit odd that her dad was there....I mean, she probably knew he was going to be so why not suggest somewhere else to go? Also, it sounds like you saw her two days in a row? That's not really a bad thing, right? Meeting a girl's dad on a second date has to be unnerving! Even if she didn't understand your nervousness, I'm sure her dad did.
Author cheersbar Posted May 28, 2018 Author Posted May 28, 2018 I don't really think you blew it. I think it's a bit odd that her dad was there....I mean, she probably knew he was going to be so why not suggest somewhere else to go? Also, it sounds like you saw her two days in a row? That's not really a bad thing, right? Meeting a girl's dad on a second date has to be unnerving! Even if she didn't understand your nervousness, I'm sure her dad did. I had already purchased the tickets for us lol. Yes 2 days in a row but again I purchased tickets for those two days She does seem really close to her dad which is fine but yea It was a bit awkward
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 28, 2018 Posted May 28, 2018 I had already purchased the tickets for us lol. Yes 2 days in a row but again I purchased tickets for those two days She does seem really close to her dad which is fine but yea It was a bit awkward What kind of racing? (Just curious, has nothing to do with your post) So, did she seem nervous? Did you like her?
Author cheersbar Posted May 28, 2018 Author Posted May 28, 2018 sprnts not as nervous as me. yea i do like her 1
PRW Posted June 3, 2018 Posted June 3, 2018 (edited) Went to some races with this girl last night and tonight, I was so awkwardly shy. Well sort of Like we talked but I wasn't myself. I really enjoyed my time with her, I just clamed up a bit Her dad was at the races and we ran into him and he kinda hung out with us and talked For me that was really really awkward. This was my first time meeting her and i'm also meeting her dad? Your awkwardness is due to insecurity. You seem to feel that you don't "deserve" to be with her,...and that gets broadcast by your behavor/demeanor. It will destroy your chances every time with anyone. So get a handle on that. For Adults, seeing someone you just started seeing twice in two days back to back is too much. It should be once a week for a couple weeks. After a few weeks it can be 2-3 times. You should never be together "all the time" until you are exclusive and are "officially" boyfriend/girlfriend. Women fall in love with a guy when they are NOT with them. It is the way the psychology works. If you are around them too much you just "get in the way"of the process. If you are in Junior High or High School then it doesn't matter much since the relationships aren't likely to mean much. You are just basically each other's "shiny object" that you just discovered. College is a grey area since it is in the transition period between a "school kid" and an adult,...in that case it depends on the maturity of those involved but I generally treat the college age group more as adults. Edited June 3, 2018 by PRW
lakerman34 Posted June 3, 2018 Posted June 3, 2018 Here are my .02. I think a PERFECTLY fine response to a girl saying she's nervous for a first date is to say something along the lines of "Oh thank god, I'm nervous too. Well, lets just have a good time and see where things go?" I think that's SUCH a good response, that I'll have you know that's the exact convo my girlfriend and I had prior to our first date. It did two things: 1) Calmed her nerves knowing I, too, was nervous. 2) Showed that I was a confident man because I said it was a RELIEF to know she was also nervous, and that we should "see where it goes" (it ended up in her bedroom) However, my thoughts about the whole father thing are these: 1) At the beginning of the relationship, initially you are looking for sexual compatibility. You NEED sexual compatibility for a relationship to be successful (at least in the early stages). No sexual compatibility = friendzone. With THAT being said, any lady interested sexually would avoid her father LIKE THE PLAGUE if she's on a date. I think she may have called him there to act as a buffer. 2) I don't think she's into you, man. I could be wrong, but maybe she took that conversation the wrong way? When a date goes well, you just KNOW it does. There is no second guessing. You can sense it. The fact that you don't, it probably didn't go so well. Sounds like she already decided she wasn't interested prior to the date. 1
PRW Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 It did two things: 1) Calmed her nerves knowing I, too, was nervous. 2) Showed that I was a confident man because I said it was a RELIEF to know she was also nervous, and that we should "see where it goes" No it does not do that. It just makes it sound like there is no one that can take the lead, no one that is confident or knows what they are doing. Now you have two people in a "fearful" state instead of one. The insecurities of each person will be amplified by the other, feed off each other, and get ready for the "drama" to begin. When the woman says she is nervous about the date that is her way of saying that she is unsure of you, unsure of your "quality", your character, unsure of her attraction to you. If you initially came across to her as solid, confident, and competent,...she would be saying how she is excited about getting together and can't wait to see you.
newyorker11356 Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 Here are my .02. I think a PERFECTLY fine response to a girl saying she's nervous for a first date is to say something along the lines of "Oh thank god, I'm nervous too. Well, lets just have a good time and see where things go?" I think that's SUCH a good response, that I'll have you know that's the exact convo my girlfriend and I had prior to our first date. It did two things: 1) Calmed her nerves knowing I, too, was nervous. 2) Showed that I was a confident man because I said it was a RELIEF to know she was also nervous, and that we should "see where it goes" (it ended up in her bedroom) However, my thoughts about the whole father thing are these: 1) At the beginning of the relationship, initially you are looking for sexual compatibility. You NEED sexual compatibility for a relationship to be successful (at least in the early stages). No sexual compatibility = friendzone. With THAT being said, any lady interested sexually would avoid her father LIKE THE PLAGUE if she's on a date. I think she may have called him there to act as a buffer. 2) I don't think she's into you, man. I could be wrong, but maybe she took that conversation the wrong way? When a date goes well, you just KNOW it does. There is no second guessing. You can sense it. The fact that you don't, it probably didn't go so well. Sounds like she already decided she wasn't interested prior to the date. Agreed. Also, you can say you're nervous as well, but not really mean it. Use it as a way to have her think you're also nervous (when that's not really the case). Like you said, you'll know one way or another if the date is going well or not most likely.
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