Lotsgoingon Posted May 26, 2018 Posted May 26, 2018 Great point. If you were experienced, you might stay the heck away from her because you would know she was only trouble ... unavailable confusing trouble. But if you were experienced and just looking for an occasional good physical time ... you might (not necessarily) interact with her on those terms. But you would know how to keep your heart honest ... and not get emotionally involved with her.
Romantic_Antics Posted May 26, 2018 Posted May 26, 2018 (edited) i wished so much for things to work some friends told me that she lost interest in me because i was clumsy that night , she wanted sex but i screwed up do you think they are right? No. If someone is genuinely interested in you they won't lose interest just because you were clumsy. I was clumsy and inexperienced in my first intimate relationship and my girlfriend didn't lose interest in me because of it. Likewise, I dated a gal about 5 years ago who was less than great in the bedroom and I didn't lose interest in her. She was very sweet, albeit a bit shy, and that's all that mattered. If somebody does lose interest because of a blown sexual opportunity then you can bet that's pretty much all they're interested in. Not that there's anything wrong with somebody who just wants to have sex, unless it's with virtually anyone, but if you're wanting more than that you might want to think twice and focus on the facts. They're in your post. Reread it. Edited May 26, 2018 by Romantic_Antics 1
Author imnottheone Posted May 27, 2018 Author Posted May 27, 2018 No. If someone is genuinely interested in you they won't lose interest just because you were clumsy. I was clumsy and inexperienced in my first intimate relationship and my girlfriend didn't lose interest in me because of it. Likewise, I dated a gal about 5 years ago who was less than great in the bedroom and I didn't lose interest in her. She was very sweet, albeit a bit shy, and that's all that mattered. If somebody does lose interest because of a blown sexual opportunity then you can bet that's pretty much all they're interested in. Not that there's anything wrong with somebody who just wants to have sex, unless it's with virtually anyone, but if you're wanting more than that you might want to think twice and focus on the facts. They're in your post. Reread it. well her explination for stoping contact with me was that she is in a relationship and cant have sex and if we would continue to meet things will most likely lead to sex . Maybe she was telling the truth. Maybe she just wanted some attention especialy that it was christmas its hard to be alone for the holidays . Whats most confusing its that some guys say that Guy A has sex with her some say that he just goes with her everywhere like a little puppy hoping it might turn into something but never will . I mean they were hanging out from october 2017 , if there was something im guessing it would have become official by now . She didnt even let him vote her pictures with heart like
Author imnottheone Posted May 27, 2018 Author Posted May 27, 2018 Great point. If you were experienced, you might stay the heck away from her because you would know she was only trouble ... unavailable confusing trouble. But if you were experienced and just looking for an occasional good physical time ... you might (not necessarily) interact with her on those terms. But you would know how to keep your heart honest ... and not get emotionally involved with her. i proposed to her that with these exact words " Look i think you wanted sex last night , did i go wrong somewhere ? " she said "No dont worry about it the massage was enough " i said " if you want we could just have sex without letting it be a big thing , just sex to feel good " her response was "You cant have sex without developing feelings for eachother its imposible , thing like this you should do with someone your in a relationship with "
Chilli Posted May 27, 2018 Posted May 27, 2018 (edited) l dunno wth. There's other people involved man, wtf you want with someone that puts you out in the garage until she may or may not need you later while she's messing around with other men. wtf ? Are you happy being second or third back up choice ? Man it doesn't matter what she wants , that's not you , or she'd be with you , there'd be no other guys . It doesn't matter when they fall apart and she comes knocking on your door , your back up 2nd or 3rd choice anyway. Wth would you even wanna be that after these other guys of her choosing. lf your not number one, no ifs, no buts, you walk. Wth are you settling for that garbage, meet other girls and that'll only send her running back to you anyway but please, close the door in her face when she does. Have some pride for christ sakes. Edited May 27, 2018 by Chilli
Author imnottheone Posted May 27, 2018 Author Posted May 27, 2018 l dunno wth. There's other people involved man, wtf you want with someone that puts you out in the garage until she may or may not need you later while she's messing around with other men. wtf ? Are you happy being second or third back up choice ? Man it doesn't matter what she wants , that's not you , or she'd be with you , there'd be no other guys . It doesn't matter when they fall apart and she comes knocking on your door , your back up 2nd or 3rd choice anyway. Wth would you even wanna be that after these other guys of her choosing. lf your not number one, no ifs, no buts, you walk. Wth are you settling for that garbage, meet other girls and that'll only send her running back to you anyway but please, close the door in her face when she does. Have some pride for christ sakes. i have met with other girls , no problem there . I think she wants her boyfriend to be honest i mean they have been toghether for 5 years she complains about him but doesnt wanna break up with him . She once said "i bet he is waiting for me to break up with him so that he wont look like the bad guy in our parent's eyes And the other coworker well they hang out since october - november last year i think they would have been toghether by now if she rly liked him I understand what you are saying i just loved spending time with her , time was passing so fast and we felt great we would cuddle for hours and massage eachother's hand i guess it was never real for her
coolheadal Posted May 27, 2018 Posted May 27, 2018 i have met with other girls , no problem there . I think she wants her boyfriend to be honest i mean they have been toghether for 5 years she complains about him but doesnt wanna break up with him . She once said "i bet he is waiting for me to break up with him so that he wont look like the bad guy in our parent's eyes And the other coworker well they hang out since october - november last year i think they would have been toghether by now if she rly liked him I understand what you are saying i just loved spending time with her , time was passing so fast and we felt great we would cuddle for hours and massage eachother's hand i guess it was never real for her You won't let her go and she well doesn't know what to think. She's so young as adult woman. Why are you rushing things. Just maybe she'll come around and accept you for you. If she doesn't then she's just a friend that you can sleep with, do deep tissue massages, maybe cook dinner watch and move and hangout. I don't think she's really into you sexually or she could ever see you more than just a friend. The way she's carrying on is like she just looking for attention, flirts, tease, trying to be cute. Wants to know what other men think about her. Does that sound like a girl that is head over heels in love with you. She's not even give you 100% thought. You want her no matter what she does or say to you. Have you come to this level, are your ready for more of the same each day. Think about that and get back then get back to us all her If it was me push to the friend-zone and go and find a real gf to love, have sex with be able to put your hands on her butt like you had wanted. When they pull your off they're saying "NO I DO NOT WANT YOU TOO BECAUSE I NOT REALLY INTO YOU THAT WAY"
Author imnottheone Posted May 27, 2018 Author Posted May 27, 2018 You won't let her go and she well doesn't know what to think. She's so young as adult woman. Why are you rushing things. Just maybe she'll come around and accept you for you. If she doesn't then she's just a friend that you can sleep with, do deep tissue massages, maybe cook dinner watch and move and hangout. I don't think she's really into you sexually or she could ever see you more than just a friend. The way she's carrying on is like she just looking for attention, flirts, tease, trying to be cute. Wants to know what other men think about her. Does that sound like a girl that is head over heels in love with you. She's not even give you 100% thought. You want her no matter what she does or say to you. Have you come to this level, are your ready for more of the same each day. Think about that and get back then get back to us all her If it was me push to the friend-zone and go and find a real gf to love, have sex with be able to put your hands on her butt like you had wanted. When they pull your off they're saying "NO I DO NOT WANT YOU TOO BECAUSE I NOT REALLY INTO YOU THAT WAY" You are right . So my friends divide in 2 groups ))) 1. The ones that say she wanted sex but i screwed up and she is having sex with Guy A until her boyfriend comes home 2. The ones that say she just likes to flirt and recieve attention from other guys because she is insecure . So yesterday she was constantly laughing at me , it didnt matter what i was saying she was joking with me , teasing me , telling me she loves to make me mad . All of this after she said she wanted distance . So i told her "You know i like you and you told me you want to stay just friends so why are you acting so flirty do you wanna **** with my head ? Look there are other guys that give you attention , why do you need mine ? " she said "i act like this with everybody" i said "and do you think its a good thing ? You know inviting guys over in your car late at night or at your place while having a boyfriend isnt a good thing . And you were asking me if i think your boyfriend is cheating on you while you were in ****ing bed with me ? You better wake up " she said "It looks like your nuts . You should mind your own business" and she blocked me . Sooo i guess its DONE . THE END Hope i acted right
coolheadal Posted May 27, 2018 Posted May 27, 2018 You are right . So my friends divide in 2 groups ))) 1. The ones that say she wanted sex but i screwed up and she is having sex with Guy A until her boyfriend comes home 2. The ones that say she just likes to flirt and recieve attention from other guys because she is insecure . So yesterday she was constantly laughing at me , it didnt matter what i was saying she was joking with me , teasing me , telling me she loves to make me mad . All of this after she said she wanted distance . So i told her "You know i like you and you told me you want to stay just friends so why are you acting so flirty do you wanna **** with my head ? Look there are other guys that give you attention , why do you need mine ? " she said "i act like this with everybody" i said "and do you think its a good thing ? You know inviting guys over in your car late at night or at your place while having a boyfriend isnt a good thing . And you were asking me if i think your boyfriend is cheating on you while you were in ****ing bed with me ? You better wake up " she said "It looks like your nuts . You should mind your own business" and she blocked me . Sooo i guess its DONE . THE END Hope i acted right You finally got the answer you needed to drop this person (I'll say it nicely)..This is not a friend to even have on your list of friends. She's selfish doesn't have a care for you at all. The End Yes but you have learned about a woman like this too. Now you can help others or just avoid them like the plague they are really.. BAD B... (I'll say it nicely).. Good luck my friend!
Author imnottheone Posted May 27, 2018 Author Posted May 27, 2018 You finally got the answer you needed to drop this person (I'll say it nicely)..This is not a friend to even have on your list of friends. She's selfish doesn't have a care for you at all. The End Yes but you have learned about a woman like this too. Now you can help others or just avoid them like the plague they are really.. BAD B... (I'll say it nicely).. Good luck my friend! thanks , and thanks to everyone for advice you really helped alot
act00 Posted May 27, 2018 Posted May 27, 2018 Drop her...I know it's done (for now), but the advice remains the same...no matter what happens, don't bother with her. Even if she breaks up with her LDR, or he breaks up with her, she's not going to be ready to dive into a new relationship right away. She says she acts like this with everybody. No she doesn't. Does she flirt and play tease with her female platonic friends? Does she invite them over for movies, wrestle, and grind on top of them? Allow fondling? My guess is no. She behaves this way with men, and will continue this with men who express interest. There are probably some guys she tried this with who see right through her and won't give her the time of day. She has A the orbiter. They may have slept together...maybe once six weeks ago and she's put the full stop on that until she decides to give in again...she keeps him around and he keeps sniffing after her, hoping for more, and she likes it. She likes the physical contact and someone to spend time with, though she's playing this "I have a boyfriend" card and not going all the way...yet flirts and allows kissing, touching, wrestling, fondling, and heavily flirts in a come hither manner, making sure her admirers are around when she wants...but it's platonic...she does this with everyone...no, she does this with boys who are interested in her. No. If her boyfriend saw this behavior with her "friends," he would hopefully have the mind to dump and run. It is inappropriate and unacceptable. You would have serious issues with this "friendship" she has going with A if you two were a couple. This is not platonic, buddy behavior. And you know how she acts when she's one-on-one with you. Cuddling in bed, wrestling, letting you touch and kiss her, flirting. HINT: Platonic friends don't spoon. You deserve better. When she figures out what she wants and she's ready for something serious, maybe you'll be available, maybe not. She likes you as an orbiter...nothing more. You can go with what she has to offer, maybe screw, but don't get attached and don't consider her girlfriend material...or just don't get involved with her at all. She has the potential to break you, as she leads you on; makes you think there could be more...some day.
Author imnottheone Posted May 27, 2018 Author Posted May 27, 2018 Drop her...I know it's done (for now), but the advice remains the same...no matter what happens, don't bother with her. Even if she breaks up with her LDR, or he breaks up with her, she's not going to be ready to dive into a new relationship right away. She says she acts like this with everybody. No she doesn't. Does she flirt and play tease with her female platonic friends? Does she invite them over for movies, wrestle, and grind on top of them? Allow fondling? My guess is no. She behaves this way with men, and will continue this with men who express interest. There are probably some guys she tried this with who see right through her and won't give her the time of day. She has A the orbiter. They may have slept together...maybe once six weeks ago and she's put the full stop on that until she decides to give in again...she keeps him around and he keeps sniffing after her, hoping for more, and she likes it. She likes the physical contact and someone to spend time with, though she's playing this "I have a boyfriend" card and not going all the way...yet flirts and allows kissing, touching, wrestling, fondling, and heavily flirts in a come hither manner, making sure her admirers are around when she wants...but it's platonic...she does this with everyone...no, she does this with boys who are interested in her. No. If her boyfriend saw this behavior with her "friends," he would hopefully have the mind to dump and run. It is inappropriate and unacceptable. You would have serious issues with this "friendship" she has going with A if you two were a couple. This is not platonic, buddy behavior. And you know how she acts when she's one-on-one with you. Cuddling in bed, wrestling, letting you touch and kiss her, flirting. HINT: Platonic friends don't spoon. You deserve better. When she figures out what she wants and she's ready for something serious, maybe you'll be available, maybe not. She likes you as an orbiter...nothing more. You can go with what she has to offer, maybe screw, but don't get attached and don't consider her girlfriend material...or just don't get involved with her at all. She has the potential to break you, as she leads you on; makes you think there could be more...some day. when Guy A voted one of her pictures with heart like she told him to turn it into a simple like . I talked to him once and asked what going on between them . He said "we hang out we go eat toghether go for walk but i hope maybe it will turn into something serious " Once we were at the gym Me , her , Guy A and 2 other male friends and after we finished we exited the guy Guy A and her were still in and A exited rly mad and was cursing but to himself . Later on i found out why and she told me "He kept pushing me for a relationship , he started to send me private messages even if i wasnt online and i told him to suck dick " And yeah she kinda acts flirty with everyone laughing alot , wrestling and sometimes guys even hug her in a joking way. She said that she is just a very sociable person . She always notices guys checking her out when we used to go out . For example once at a gas station one dude came over and told her that her front tier need air and she said "did you see how he looked at me if we would have stayed any longer he would have offered to fix it himself " stuff like that
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