Author drdre Posted September 13, 2018 Author Posted September 13, 2018 Ok. I looked over your old thread and this one. Got some thoughts to share with you but keep in mind that my....methods are a bit unorthodox. When it comes to breakups and moving on. Breakups are hard, man. I feel your pain, truly I do. IMO, breakups like yours are the worst. You both obviously care deeply for one another, but you guys just can't seem to get past your problems. She wants to get married like, yesterday, and you are the type to take your time. She wants to have these long, drawn-out conversations when you are pissed off, and you just wanna get some sleep and talk about it later. Since there is no meeting in the middle with you guys, you've broken up. That's why your breakup is so hard. If she would just cheat on you with your best friend or something, the resulting anger would carry you through the rough times. As it stands, you just have sadness over the fact that you care for her but can't seem to make it work. That sucks. Your messages to one another about her getting her things back weren't breadcrumbs, y'all were throwings out loaves of bread. First off, I think she left those things back at your place on purpose. She may have left you, but she left a lot of stuff back at your place. MY experience has been that when a girl wants to really move on, they move on for real. Your house wouldn't have a trace of her left in it. She left those things at your place to keep the doors of communication open. She would have to come back and get them. The texts back and forth make me think that she is willing to try and work things out with you as well. I think she wants you to say you miss her and want to work things out. Just my hunch, but I have been there and had conversations just like that with a few different women. That's how it always was for me. I don't have any real advice for you, buddy. This is your life and your decision. I do think the door is open for reconciliation, ar at the very least, a great night of angry makeup sex when she comes over to pick up her things. If you aren't interested in any of that with her, and you just wanna move on with your life, I think you need to really move on. Paint your house. Sell some furniture and pick up some new things. Watch the type of movies and tv shows that she didn't like. Date some new girls. Override those old memories of her with new memories. Don't let a breakup stop you from living fully. That's about all I have. Thanks enigma, I really appreciate you reading my past threads and sharing some compassion and understanding. You nailed it. Im just sad that as much as we care for each other that we couldnt make it work. Im not ruling out reconciliation forever, but for right now, I think I just need to let her go and try to move on. If we come back around, we have to have had enough time to learn from this experience and actually change. People dont change in a few months. I left everything out at the porch during my lunch break and texted her. It was a lot of stuff. She said thank you and that she would come by in a bit. Havent heard from her anymore. Im gonna try to slowly override those memories like you said but it will take time. Virtually all of my house and furniture has memories since she was there from day 1 and helped pick just about everything. I cant afford to replace it all neither would I want to - I like the stuff in the house. I just need to create different associations. Anyways, thanks again! 1
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