Art_Critic Posted May 27, 2018 Posted May 27, 2018 Instead of handing something to her and leaving I think at this point you should actually talk to her, I know it can be tough but this wont go anywhere unless you converse with her, call her if you can to help the ease of anxiety that you both are feeling over talking about going out. You need to be proactive and take the lead, no more poems or written word, the spoken word from here on out good luck
coolheadal Posted May 27, 2018 Posted May 27, 2018 I should note that about a month after she gave me her a poem I gave her one back that said "roses are red, violets are blue, I would love to go see the avengers with you". I did this because at one point she did ask if I would go see a movie with her. I kind of just handed it to her and walked away because I was going home. I heard some screams from her but besides that didn't hear anything back until yesterday when I found out from a girl that was there when I gave her the poem that she wasn't sure if I was joking or not. She told her not say anything to me because she didn't want me to be embarrassed. That doesn't even make sense. Why would I be embarrassed? Boy that's a good one in the poem wording.. But you need to confront the woman and talk to them. I did the same at work and today I live with woman in my house here. Not going to be easy smooth road but in time things will work out. You need to date, and if you are strong and a confident man you better be after all the help here on LS. You should be okay to date the boss. If she likes you enough you can. I work at huge company again what I've come across is that the other managers are asking me when are you two getting married. I have wing-it at times. They already know she lives with me and I take her to work with me. So cutting time has to be at the same time. I do not want to wait for anyone, then others say to me where is your gf? Oh boy! But in your case you got it made. You have everything a woman wants in a man. You got a job, yours smart you write poems but cool off on those. Take her to the movies and see your Avenger's. By-the-way it's a good movie!
Author rkc2 Posted June 14, 2018 Author Posted June 14, 2018 I went on vacation about a week ago and decided to message her on snapchat and let her know I left behind a snack in a specific spot where she would only be able to find it. She responded back by saying that I should have said something earlier that day because she was there all day and wouldn't be going back until this week. Well its Wednesday and I haven't heard anything from her about it. I returned to work today to find the snack missing but haven't heard anything from her about it. I did post some things to my story while I was on vacation and her behavior as far as watching my stories is sort of odd. I posted two songs from a concert I went to. The first was 40 seconds long and snapchat only allows 10 second videos so when you post it to your story it posts 4 separate videos. The second song was 30 seconds long and comprised of three videos . She watched the first in its entirety then didn't watch any of the second until later in the day when she watched just the first of the three and finally later that night watch the last two videos when the 24 hours was almost up. The only reason why I think this is significant is because when you watch a story your name gets moved to the top of the list for the person to see. So if she would have watched my story in its entirety from the get-go she would've been at the bottom of the list but since she waited and watch my story in segments or spaced it out, it allowed me to see her name pop as one of the last to watch it. Is this significant? I'm not sure.
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2018 Posted June 15, 2018 The methods you two are using in this extremely awkward mating dance you two seem to be doing are straight out of middle school. Stop with the poems, the snapchat & the snacks. If you don't have the maturity to speak to the woman face to face you deserve every second of uncertainty you are wallowing around in. 3
Kelliousme Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 The methods you two are using in this extremely awkward mating dance you two seem to be doing are straight out of middle school. Stop with the poems, the snapchat & the snacks. If you don't have the maturity to speak to the woman face to face you deserve every second of uncertainty you are wallowing around in. ^I agree. This entire situation sounds so immature. Since you explained that you guys work retail then I guess it doesn't really matter that she's more "superior" than you. I don't really see it as sexual harassment. Just seems to me that you two are high school kids playing games with each other. If you like her, tell her. Obviously she is romantically interested. She gave you the poem and was upset that you didn't read it. It was very rude of you. Anyways, if you are interested in her, then tell her and let her know. Seems like she's going to be extra more cautious and will "pretend" she's joking when in reality she's interested in you. If you're not interested in her, then simply let her know. You guys are adults...... 1
Author rkc2 Posted June 24, 2018 Author Posted June 24, 2018 Would've posted sooner but I've been busy. So it turns out that somebody found the snack(ate it) before she got back there the following week . When I saw her earlier in the week she seemed normal but didn't mention anything about what I left for her. Coworker- Allison Girl that gave me the poem- Madalyn On Thursday I was talking with a coworker (the one that was around when she gave me the poem) about different customers that I thought were attractive. She at one point asked me what I thought about Madalyn to which I completely dodge the question and changed the subject to something else and she called me out on it saying how I completely dodged the question. Which is probably a mistake.
Logo Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 I can’t tell if you’re enjoying this game of cat and mouse or are not interested in her, shy or what. She’s 27? Why don’t I come over and ask her out? I love poems. Drink an energy drink and go ask her out next time you’re at work because this thread is becoming painful to read.
Author rkc2 Posted June 24, 2018 Author Posted June 24, 2018 She's actually 28. I guess I'm a bit shy and just don't want to get hurt. I feel like some things just don't line up. For example, when I gave her my poem she told the other two girls who where around that they shouldn't say anything to me about because she doesn't want me to be embarrassed. She also hasn't brought it up either. She did ask them if she thought I was serious so I don't know
Logo Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 If you keep over analyzing and over thinking things, your 20s are going to be one tough ride. Part of relationships is getting hurt. That’s just the way relationships are when they don’t go well. Every human being goes through it. But if you don’t try at your young age, you’re going to find yourself in your 40s wondering where your youth went and envying all those young guys. So do yourself a favor and just ask her out if you like her. By the way, no offense, but when you write that you just don’t want to get hurt you make it sound like you’ve been through a few relationships and maybe a marriage. You’re 23. You should be living it up. Why be shy? One day when you’re talking to her and there’s no one around, ask her out. Agree on a day and time and tell her you’ll pick her up. Done. Go and have fun. These are the best years of your life. Just do it. It pains me to read your posts, the way you’re twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to analyze things.
Poutrew Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 Ya 'know, if I want to show complete disinterest in a girl, I'll 'absent-mindedly' pick my nose while I am talking to her... it works every time. When you pocketed her note, you not only gave her the equivalent of a classic nose-pick, but also a snot ball flick thrown in for good measure At this point you have nothing to worry about...
Author rkc2 Posted June 28, 2018 Author Posted June 28, 2018 Ya 'know, if I want to show complete disinterest in a girl, I'll 'absent-mindedly' pick my nose while I am talking to her... it works every time. When you pocketed her note, you not only gave her the equivalent of a classic nose-pick, but also a snot ball flick thrown in for good measure At this point you have nothing to worry about... You have to understand though that she gave me a poem in front of other people. I have received poems/letters before but they were usually left behind for me to find later. This one was handed directly to me during a work shift (which is cool I'm deeply flattered) in front of other people and I just felt so much pressure regarding it. It was easier for me to just throw it in my pocket and continue on with my task at hand then read the poem and worry about its contents. Not to mention that I thought she was messing with me because it was done in front of other people. I would think something serious like that (if it is serious) should be passed off in private? I don't know. I'm not so sure about having nothing to worry about. The other day she came up to me and used one of the phrases I use all the time and then ran off. I had to go somewhere on break to take care of something and when I got back she asked how it went and was just generally concerned about it. The coworker has also been bringing her up in conversation more.
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