joel Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 i'll tell u background info for me 24 yr old asian guy, during college i asked like 3 girls out in 2 yrs but not all in the same period -all spread out. not much yea. no luck with either of em. the first girl i actually really liked, and i thought she liked me-glances ,looks, and was quite responsive when i talked to her and asked her out and got NO. couple of days later i got smiles and smirks from girls and even some guys who were in my class, small colllege. now i'm not in collge-workin this semester, all guys at work like maybe 3 girls out of 40 guys. i have tried online dating like with a lot of girls most of em just plain out talk. one girl serbian girl told me she works at XXX mall told me to drop by one day and i might someday go out and meet up with her lets see what happens. she like 18 or 19. i thought POF would actually make finding a date or girl easier but -not really and not at all. its free so why not. i'm gettin the feelin that if i don;t make changes fast i be like a 30 or even older guy without a gf. i turn 25 in dec and tell u the truth i never had a gf. i had freind which was a girl recently but never attrated to her -overweight and big. we hung out a couple of times and then lost contact. she was my first freind who was a girl at 24. i see a lot of couples in going to the malls-that are around my age or younger and i really feel left out-being single and all. just havin a girl to go out with is nice. i really feel i'm destined for bachelorhood. i use to think that gettin a gf was easy -hey jsut a girl who;s a freind right but back then i wasn't even interested in girls or dating as i get older i am right now. and its harder than u think it is, i got a feelin that as i get older most of the girls would be married or have bfs well most of the good ones will be taken by then. how will i even find a gf or even date. how many girls in their 20's would even want a inexperienced -never had gf kind of bf in their lives anyways. i might go back to college to finish my program and from there i might ask 1 or 2 more girls out leets see what happens. i don;t go clubbin or bars-no friends to go with and i don;t really drink.
Horse Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 i don;t go clubbin or bars-no friends to go with and i don;t really drink. Why not? What do you do for fun, that a woman would be interested in doing? I'm not saying you should be out clubbing or drinking all the time, but you should at least have friends that you can hang out with. People like to be with fun people. If you are sitting at home playing video gams or watching TV every night, you won't be as attractive to date. Yeah there are women who like staying home and watching TV, but their all sitting in their apartment wondering why they are still single. Also.. Are you an Engineering student? You aren't going to meet any women if you go from your sausage-fest job to your empty appartment. Consider taking a part-time job at a restaurant or the mall, somewhere where girls actually work. A lot of guys haven't had girlfriends by 24 and a lot of girls don't see that as a bad thing. Worry about the things that you can change.
Author joel Posted August 29, 2005 Author Posted August 29, 2005 no i am not a engineering student. i took computing courses at a Community college and now was taking a business management program at another CC college-more gals in the business, but no luck. ask like 3 over a spread of 2 yrs no luck and no date , nothing
Pendawn Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 I would be more concerned with the fact that you don't have friends to go out with, than you don't have a girlfriend. IMo it ssems to me you need to open yourself more up to having friends including female friends, rather than dating. Sign up for some clubs - sports, hobbys, political affiliations, whatever.
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