Coworker is flirting with me at my work

[Crow795]

Recently the management where I work hired a new girl.

She is a 22yo cute and an intelligent girl with a bf.

From the first day we met she started to flirt with me.

At first i thought to myself that it was an innocent flirt to get liked by her coworkers,

So I flirted a little back as well.

But later I found out that she only flirts with me and ignoring all other male coworkers.

And as we got to know each other better, She started to send more bold hints

that she wants some thing more.

When i bring up her bf, she is not very happy about it and always tells me that she wants

to brake up with him but because they have history together then it is difficult.

Also she always teasing me and trying to get closer to me when we are in the same room, letting me into her personal space.

We do have a good chemistry between us and we have a lot in common.

She always compliments me and interested in my thoughts about stuff.

 

The things is, I don't really know what to make out of this.

Is she just playing games with me, testing her teasing powers on me?

Or is she really wants some thing else?

Since we are coworker, I can't really talk about it with her.

 

Currently I told her that I met a girl and started to ignore her flirting and teasing, so she stopped being so bold but she still very nosy about me and the imaginary girl.

 

I am not very happy about the whole situation, I do like her

but I am not into hitting on coworkers and especially the one who have a bf.

 

How should I behave?

 

I admit that I really like her and If she was single then I would ask her out.

[d0nnivain]

When & if she breaks up with the BF, ask her out. Right now at most she's setting you up to monkey branch but she may just be a garden variety cheater.

 

Either way until she makes an independent decision, you need to steer clear. Otherwise personal drama will spill into your work place & may cause your employer to develop a negative opinion of you.

[Crow795]

When & if she breaks up with the BF, ask her out. Right now at most she's setting you up to monkey branch but she may just be a garden variety cheater.

 

Either way until she makes an independent decision, you need to steer clear. Otherwise personal drama will spill into your work place & may cause your employer to develop a negative opinion of you.

 

You are probably right and this is why I don't like such affection.

Should I ignore her?

Or hint her that if she would dump her BF then I would ask her out.

[stillafool]

I think you should ignore her and definitely not get involved with someone you work with. It's just not a good look in this sexual abuse climate. There are too many girls outside of your work and you seem like a good catch so I'm sure you aren't lacking. You already see this girl at work has poor boundaries. She just got the job and is already flirting even though she has a boyfriend. She isn't good girlfriend material so ignore her.

[rickwman]

Seems as if she was flirting with you; maybe unsure of her current BF. Honesty and understanding each others expectations are very important to a relationship. You need to hear from her and understand her current BF situation. If it's not settled now, you'll be wondering when he's going to show up in her life or she'll compare you with him and maybe go back to him because it's easier. I'll pray that you will find a great girl and express honestly; expectations, truth and love.

[marky00]

Can't believe you made up an imaginary girl. why did u do that? You say you like her yet u told her a lie. That could backfire on you later.

[JustAnotherLostLove]

All is fair in love and war, so steal her if you want. I've done it many times myself, especially at work. Just know tho, the same could always happen to you one day, and if it does, accept it as part of the declaration of love and war.

[Highndry]

A wise person once said: "If they'll do it with ya', they'll do it to ya'."