mixwell Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Okay I met this girl at a club a couple weeks ago and we danced and what not i kissed her on the cheek and she kissed me back. we made out for like5 seconds.. got her email address and what not.. Well we talked through emails and I got this email from her this past friday. :::EMAIL::: Ok, I feel so dramatic saying this, but it's only fair I do. I totally want you to hang out with us tomorrow & (friends name) and I were both saying how cool & funny you were when we were talking about last Friday. We were saying what a great addition you would be to our club'n nights. But the thing is, I just want to be friends. I am not saying I don't think you are cute, because you are. I am not saying this because their is something I don't like about you, because you're totally cool. I am saying this because I didn't want you to think that tomorrow we were gonna be hooking up all night or something, because we're not. We will go, we will all hangout and have fun, ect.. I just hate a bunch of drama & would feel bad if I gave you the wrong impression and then disappointed you. I would really like it if you did what you did on Friday, and that is treat (friends name) and I the same. We're all just friends. For now, anyway. ::: okay so I went with them to this other club this past saturday and the same thing.. we kiss a little bit and what not.. well after she and her friend drop me off and whatever.. so about 10 minutes later she calls me and says she dropped her chick friend off at her guys friends house who lives by me and she asks if she can come over for a little bit.. Well basically we hooked up and had sex. This chick was really good in bed and knew what she was doing. I asked her when the last time she had sex was and she said it had been a while. Now I know i cant take what she says as gold so i dont know . She seems really into me and asks me a lot about my interests.. she called me yesterday morning and i talked to her for like 10 mins.. Then she called and left a message later on to see if i wanted to go out wit her and some friends to have some drinks but it turned out it didnt fall through.. Now one of my friends said shes really into me and "is in love with me" so to speak.. Another friend thinks she could be.. I mean after all i have only hung out with her twice and she does go out clubbing a lot and she is good in bed.. So I just want some more input on this.. what do you all think ?? or maybe I am over analizing the situation? The thing is that this chick is really cool and if she has the personality and is cool like she has been I could see dating her but its obviously way to soon to tell. ok im out. Thanks in advance Peace
alphamale Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 So I just want some more input on this.. what do you all think ?? or maybe I am over analizing the situation? you are over-analyzing MIXWELL....don't look a gift horse in the mouth. Oh and remember to be aloof and not desperate and make sure you act like a man. Make her chase you!
JS17 Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Sounds to me like she's into you but she's trying to hold herself back so that she doesn't get too attached or into you before you two know each other. She probably hasn't had sex in a while and it was hard for her to hold back in that area. Don't analyze so much and just get to know her if you're interested in her and it sounds like you are. Why do you think she's a slut?
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 But the thing is, I just want to be friends. I am not saying I don't think you are cute, because you are. I am not saying this because their is something I don't like about you, because you're totally cool. I am saying this because I didn't want you to think that tomorrow we were gonna be hooking up all night or something, because we're not. This sounds like the sort of thing you say to a guy that you think will make him want you more. Not a deliberate tactic, by any means - probably something more on a subconscious level - making herself appear to be someone to be pursued, rather than appear to be someone who is just making herself available. Unless you start getting the "lets be friends" wishy wash job followed by unfriendly cold behavior, don't read too much into the 'beginning'. Just focus on her actions at any given time in the present. I have found that past words have very little to do sometimes with present and future actions.
Cecelius Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 No, it makes her just like every other fairly young woman on the planet. So that she DOESN'T feel easy or skanky she informed you that you would be getting nowhere. After that, whatever happens is not her fault -- you clearly had the right attitude and it worked. Now, this doesn't mean she's your g/f, or that it will happen again, but it was better than you thought it would be. Whenever a woman assures you that she is not going to hook up with you, a lot of the time she is trying to assure HERSELF more than you. Once she's off her own emotional/guilt hook for whatever happens, she usually goes with her gut anyway. As to her skills, that's different. A girl can have skills without having been around the block a million times. Only time will tell whether she has a background that you don't care for. At the moment that's unripe because all you have is one event.
Author mixwell Posted August 29, 2005 Author Posted August 29, 2005 Thanks for the adivice all of you. she did mention something to me that she liked the way I responded to that email.. I basically said its cool and that i wanted to go to the club wit them. I told her also that maybe she could help me find a hot girl at the club then. So she said she liked that because she thought that i was going to stop talking to her after the email. Yeah I will let her chase me. I think her interest level in me is pretty high.. I dont want to mess it up.. Thanks again guys !! Makes me feel better. Only time will tell what becomes of this but as for now i am just going to go with the flow.. Im out. peace
Author mixwell Posted August 29, 2005 Author Posted August 29, 2005 She probably hasn't had sex in a while and it was hard for her to hold back in that area. Why do you think she's a slut? Or it could have been that im such a sexy stud she found me irresistable.. haha. I guess I was thinking she was because my friend was like dude she goes out to clubs all the time and shiz.. he was like look what happened with you two, you dont think shes done what she did with you before meeting some guy in a club. So it had me thinking thats why.. Its okay though Im not going to worry bout it.
JS17 Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Or it could have been that im such a sexy stud she found me irresistable.. haha. I guess I was thinking she was because my friend was like dude she goes out to clubs all the time and shiz.. he was like look what happened with you two, you dont think shes done what she did with you before meeting some guy in a club. So it had me thinking thats why.. Its okay though Im not going to worry bout it. Well I'm glad you're not worrying about it. I think people put too much emphasis on where the other person has been sexually prior to their meeting. I personally couldn't care less, I mean sleeping with 300+ men/women would throw up some red flags but other than that. You're friend may be right and he may be wrong. Maybe she was just trying something out or going through a phase, many women do. If I had to guess, she doesn't do this all the time.
Cecelius Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 Mix, that was freaking brilliant -- I remember the last time a girl LJBF'd me, so I told her that I was relieved and that now she could introduce me to her hot[ter] friends... For the moment, just chalk her eagerness up to your mad skills. If the skeletons start coming out of the closet, there is plenty of time to bail later.
JS17 Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 Mix, that was freaking brilliant -- I remember the last time a girl LJBF'd me, so I told her that I was relieved and that now she could introduce me to her hot[ter] friends... Heh, I do the same thing
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