ImpulsiveDriver Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 After being divorced for a year and a half, I am thinking about getting into the dating scene again. Soon after getting divorced, I went out and did something impulsive and bought a brand new 100K Mercedes convertible since had I never ever even owned a new car in my life, which mainly sits in my garage. The car that I normally drive is a 96 Saturn which has water leaks and mold on the floor. I wanted mainly the input from the women on the forum whether they thought it would be better to have a first date in the Mercedes or the Saturn. Quite frankly, I am planning to sell the Mercedes because it is just not me, and I am not looking for someone who is interested in me for my car or income. At the same time, my Saturn probably is not really representative of who I am either since I could obviously afford a nicer car, but I am NORMALLY very practical, and choose to use it for daily use.
RecordProducer Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Definitely the Mercedes! Would you like a woman to be dressed in a hot Versacce dress and taken care of in the best beauty center or would you prefer if she were dirty, stinky, and neglected her body shape? You probably want her to be something in the middle. Well sell both cars and buy a decent car that will represent your personality, life style, and income accordingly.
Art_Critic Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 From what you're saying, neither car is really "you," now Why not sell the Benz AND the Saturn and get a car that really is you?? Perfect advice If a woman makes her decision based on the kind of car you are driving then I would think you wouldn't want that type of girl. I'm 42 and drive a new Seqouia.. and I wouldn't dare date a woman that looks at a depreciating asset as to who I am or what I am like.. It is exactly that a depreciating asset and not your identity I think SG's advice about selling them both is great advice.
RecordProducer Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Perfect advice If a woman makes her decision based on the kind of car you are driving then I would think you wouldn't want that type of girl. .. and I wouldn't dare date a woman that looks at a depreciating asset as to who I am or what I am like.. Yeah, she will tell you right upfront that she's dating you because of your car!
kitkat826 Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 I agree with getting a new car all together. But if you HAVE to pick, then go for the mercedes, and explain that its really not "you" and your intentions to get something different. I think that that would impress me more and be more believable than the guy who picks me up in the moldy Saturn and tells me its just "temporary" and hes going to get something nicer very soon...
quankanne Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 I'm with SG on this one: sell both and use the money to finance a car that fairly screams "OMG! This is so ME!!!!" Edmund's has a really good site on general vehicle information –*I spent several months there looking at cars I liked that were more whimsy, as well as the "I need to be practical and get something that not only rides smooth, but gets good fuel economy for the amount of time I spend on the road." one thing that I kept in mind was the insurance premium I'd be paying on the new car, and because of the safety features that VW offered on their cars, I went with that brand (my bow to whimsy is that it's a bright green Bug). sure I'd love to have gotten the Xterra to run around in the mountains or on the beaches; even better would have been the "Sting Edition" Jaguar, but those really wouldn't have suited my practical needs. In the end, I found the car that did what I needed it to do, and most of the people who ask me about it either talk about their first Beetle, or the great gas mileage, or the quality of car I'm getting by going with VW. Mostly it's other women (of all ages) who like my car, though I've seen some middle-aged men grin when they see it, so I'm guessing they find it appealing in its own way ...
animo Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 Well... The goal is to make a presentable appearance and this involves everything about you, the way you look and dress and also how the stuff you own is maintained... A filthy car that is badly maintained gives people the idea that you neglect things in your life and are kind of a slob...that's not good So i guess since your saturn is kinda filthy and stuff it's better to take the Benz out for a spin with your date. Personally i have no problem with this kind of car because it fits into my picture, it says the things i want it to say about me... I love cars and i don't mind spending some $ on them, it's classy and comfortable, luxurious and drives like a dream... But for you things might be a bit different. You don't seem all that 'into' your car seeying as you got it in the garage almost constantly. I think you would be much better off with a more modest model, a more 'rational' choice in a car... something that has low costs, and is still clean and comfy. That seems to fit you much better since you don't really seem to care about cars all that much... I think if you show up with a car like that it says one of these things about you 'i'm trying to show off howmuch money i have' or ' i love this car'. Which one it is will shine through in how you handle the rest of the date basically
Art_Critic Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 Yeah, she will tell you right upfront that she's dating you because of your car! The signs will be there RP .. Even if it's in the comments. Women that value a guys car are not hidden about how they feel
mixwell Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 Why would you give a toss about it ?? If a woman is that shallow to judge you by her car then f**k her.. It would be sad also that you want your car to help you get a girl.. Thats what personality is for. when you say 100k you mean price or miles on it ? I know you want to make a good impression.. how about this.. DRIVE WHATEVER CAR YOU LIKE AND WANT TO TAKE OUT, NOT WHAT YOU THINK SHE WANTS TO RIDE IN... Seriously you should worry about more than what car to drive on your first date. thats just me though.. good luck Peace
Outcast Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 Why would you give a toss about it ?? If a woman is that shallow to judge you by her car then f**k her It's not shallow at all to decide that a guy who'll pick you up in a dirty, smelly car is not polite enough to offer you a decent ride, especially for a first meeting.
animo Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 Why would you give a toss about it ?? If a woman is that shallow to judge you by her car then f**k her.. It would be sad also that you want your car to help you get a girl.. Thats what personality is for. when you say 100k you mean price or miles on it ? I know you want to make a good impression.. how about this.. DRIVE WHATEVER CAR YOU LIKE AND WANT TO TAKE OUT, NOT WHAT YOU THINK SHE WANTS TO RIDE IN... Seriously you should worry about more than what car to drive on your first date. thats just me though.. good luck Peace Hi, welcome to the real world dude Shallow? This isn't about their 'values', this is about first impressions. You get them, i get them...we all get them and they are hard to change afterwards. Showing up in a filthy, stinky car means you are a slob who probably has a hygene problem that doesn't only extend to his car. Since your car stinks, it's only logical to conclude your place is just as messed up and stinky. This also pretty much translates into you being completely out of control and having absolutly no take on your own life... See where this is going? They aren't shallow, they are just responding to signals they get fromt he impression you give them. You're right though it's about personality. But do you want your personality to be something that makes up for being a slob with a hygene problem? Or you want your personality to be just another one of those great things about you, next to you being on top of your life and being neat? That being said, taking them out in a 100k car doesn't exactly send them all the signals you want either. Unless ofcourse you are just that rich and cars happen to be important to you (no shame in being rich), but as the thread starter said himself, hes not really that into the car and he bought it merely on an impuls. It's not 'him' and i even get the feeling like impulsivedriver doesn't feel comfy taking that car out because it's just not his style...
RecordProducer Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 The signs will be there RP .. Even if it's in the comments. Women that value a guys car are not hidden about how they feel Honestly, I couldn't care less about the guy's car, but I would say "What a nice car!" out of politeness, just like I would say compliments about his home decoration. I do like successful men and I don't hide it, but not because of their money, but rather because I like lions, not mice. I would rather admire a guy who has created a fortune with his bare hands and lost it all than someone who got millions on lottery, but is incapable of doing anything in life.
Art_Critic Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 Honestly, I couldn't care less about the guy's car, but I would say "What a nice car!" out of politeness, just like I would say compliments about his home decoration. I do like successful men and I don't hide it, but not because of their money, but rather because I like lions, not mice. I would rather admire a guy who has created a fortune with his bare hands and lost it all than someone who got millions on lottery, but is incapable of doing anything in life. Ahh.. But you are not the type of woman I'm talking about.. Going with what you posted about the type of guy you would be with I have a similar statement that I like to believe "I'd rather be with a girl who has big dreams and no money than a girl with no dreams and big money. " and that really is how I feel ..
FataMorgana Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 "I'd rather be with a girl who has big dreams and no money than a girl with no dreams and big money. " and that really is how I feel .. Unfortunately somehow they tend to help each other in real life don't they? I'm just picking up the new car I bought this coming Friday so my dream of spending 2.5 months travelling through South America this year had to be put off until next year because of the finances going to the new car. just kidding, agree with you AC and RP.
RecordProducer Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 "a girl who has big dreams and no money" That's me!
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