Gaeta Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 He just responded saying that he is used to calling them freckles which I don't believe still. But then he promised he is only texting me and no one else and that I could look at his phone if I don't trust him. That made me laugh. Every liar have said that sentence when caught. What exactly would you be able to see on his phone? nothing. If I were you I'd be thinking he's laughing at me. 2
RecentChange Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 He just responded saying that he is used to calling them freckles which I don't believe still. If you don't believe him about the freckles, why do you believe everything else he says? You don't know him from Adam. 4
Prue Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 That made me laugh. Every liar have said that sentence when caught. What exactly would you be able to see on his phone? nothing. If I were you I'd be thinking he's laughing at me. Exactly. A liar can easily hide his tracks, it’s as simple as deleting a text! Years ago someone I was dating looked at my phone without my permission and now I always delete important messages that have personal information. It’s just my habit now. 1
Zahara Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 I could look at his phone if I don't trust him. He knows that's a ridicilous statement. You're halfway across the country! How will you "look at his phone?" Anyone can delete history on their phone. Must be his go to line. 4
Prue Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 If you have sex with this suspicious guy, use a condom! I don’t trust him whatsoever.
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 Thanks for the replies! A lot of them are irrelevant to my question but thanks anyway. Like I already mentioned I have no issue with trusting him or about my safety. I cannot tell you why I am so sure of this for his anonymity and mine, but I am. I am probably more safer with him than by my self. Anyway I have let the freckle thing not be a huge issue since he doesn't really seem to care what it is called. And I've decided to meet him. Whether we end up being lovers or just friends id be happy either way.
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 (edited) I do not mind him seeing other women if he is .I go on dates myself. I'm not committed to him yet and neither is he. What my question was, was that he should keep the texts straight and not mix up girls otherwise it is disrespectful to me. Do you guys even read the original post or just always give opinions based off what you think the question maybe about ?! Edited March 13, 2018 by Exoticbeauty Typo
kendahke Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 This is what he TELLS you. You're believing everything he tells you. Years ago a friend said "you don't know me - you only know what I've told you". That was an eye opener. Yep... I've always said "you only know as much about a person as they've let you know about them..." Ask Julie Baumeister
kendahke Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 (edited) he promised he is only texting me and no one else and that I could look at his phone if I don't trust him. You're assuming he's only got one cell phone. What if he's got two that he keeps locked in his desk at work, where you can never get to it? I've read where a betrayed spouse discovered her hsuband's second phone in the trunk of the car, but let her roam free with his other phone. You don't know this guy and your hope for him to be someone he's probably not is dangerously strong. Edited March 13, 2018 by kendahke 1
Prue Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 Thanks for the replies! A lot of them are irrelevant to my question but thanks anyway. Like I already mentioned I have no issue with trusting him or about my safety. I cannot tell you why I am so sure of this for his anonymity and mine, but I am. I am probably more safer with him than by my self. Anyway I have let the freckle thing not be a huge issue since he doesn't really seem to care what it is called. And I've decided to meet him. Whether we end up being lovers or just friends id be happy either way. You trust someone you’ve never seen before? This is a recipe for disaster. OP, be realistic and careful. No one here is trying to rain on your parade (heck, read the thread I just created!) but none of us want you to get hurt... I don’t want another woman to get heartbroken because it’s a horrible feeling. I sincerely mean that, I wish you the best and that if he’s a good guy that it works out. 2
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 You trust someone you’ve never seen before? This is a recipe for disaster. OP, be realistic and careful. No one here is trying to rain on your parade (heck, read the thread I just created!) but none of us want you to get hurt... I don’t want another woman to get heartbroken because it’s a horrible feeling. I sincerely mean that, I wish you the best and that if he’s a good guy that it works out. Sorry for coming off defensive. I will definitely keep an eye out for any possible negative signs. If anything it has put me on guard and that's a good thing instead of being too naive becusse when you are love blinded it's hard to see the otherwise and that's where you guys come in. So even though I said it's irrrelavent I take that back, because it will definitely make me more careful. So thank you! 3
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 Very well. Please update us. Good luck. Thank you! Appreciate the feedback
Prue Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 Sorry for coming off defensive. I will definitely keep an eye out for any possible negative signs. If anything it has put me on guard and that's a good thing instead of being too naive becusse when you are love blinded it's hard to see the otherwise and that's where you guys come in. So even though I said it's irrrelavent I take that back, because it will definitely make me more careful. So thank you! I’m just like that, when I like someone all lights go out and only one light comes on and it has his picture and mine on our wedding day! I can even hear my practical logical part in the background but I’m so headstrong to FORCE it to work because I’m so stubborn. I wouldn’t even know what I want once we actually make it... maybe in the end I wouldn’t even want that relationship, but I’m so stubborn. When you meet try asking lots of questions and get lots of answers. Real answers! 1
Yosemite Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 Like I already mentioned I have no issue with trusting him or about my safety. I cannot tell you why I am so sure of this for his anonymity and mine, but I am. I am probably more safer with him than by my self. I guess you’re trying to date a basketball player or football player or some famous person and you think that his fame protects you from physical harm. I wouldn’t be so sure, there are plenty of stories in the media about professional athletes/famous people committing crimes against women. Have you Skyped with him to be sure that you’re speaking to who you think you’re speaking to and aren’t being catfished? It sounds like you’re dead set on going and will most likely sleep with this guy. Well go for it if that’s what you want, but try to keep your head on straight and keep in mind that he’s using lines on you that he uses on all the girls. So, keep your heart protected and don’t be surprised if you don't hear from him again after your trip is over. 3
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 I guess you’re trying to date a basketball player or football player or some famous person and you think that his fame protects you from physical harm. I wouldn’t be so sure, there are plenty of stories in the media about professional athletes/famous people committing crimes against women. Have you Skyped with him to be sure that you’re speaking to who you think you’re speaking to and aren’t being catfished? It sounds like you’re dead set on going and will most likely sleep with this guy. Well go for it if that’s what you want, but try to keep your head on straight and keep in mind that he’s using lines on you that he uses on all the girls. So, keep your heart protected and don’t be surprised if you don't hear from him again after your trip is over. We have Skyped and FaceTimed.. let's hope he's real in real life I'm sure he has the same doubts about me. We ll see how this goes...
stillafool Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 Those of you saying he's going to try to have sex with her are correct but OP is a grown woman and would be disappointed if she flew 3000 miles and he didn't go for it. After all they already had sex the first night. Me thinks she's wanting it also. OP don't fall in love with this guy too fast; with the distance and his notoriety you could get hurt really bad. Have a safe trip.
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 My theory is this If he sleeps with me I'll lose respect for him. And yes I'll def use a condom if I bang him Becusse It means he sleeps with all the girls he invites And then I'll dump hiss ass myself after I leave. 1
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 Those of you saying he's going to try to have sex with her are correct but OP is a grown woman and would be disappointed if she flew 3000 miles and he didn't go for it. After all they already had sex the first night. Me thinks she's wanting it also. OP don't fall in love with this guy too fast; with the distance and his notoriety you could get hurt really bad. Have a safe trip. Naw I'm def cautious of that. I used to wear my heart on my sleeves not anymore. Now I know how to handle fckboys. Reverse it on them, and use them for sex, if I want it or never see them again if I don't again ever.
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 Those of you saying he's going to try to have sex with her are correct but OP is a grown woman and would be disappointed if she flew 3000 miles and he didn't go for it. After all they already had sex the first night. Me thinks she's wanting it also. OP don't fall in love with this guy too fast; with the distance and his notoriety you could get hurt really bad. Have a safe trip. You are right, on the other hand if he didn't try to have sex with me I'd feel like he's not attracted to me
Yosemite Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 My theory is this If he sleeps with me I'll lose respect for him. And yes I'll def use a condom if I bang him Becusse It means he sleeps with all the girls he invites And then I'll dump hiss ass myself after I leave. Can you answer this? Is he famous? If the answer is yes, then I can understand wanting to go just to see what happens, and sleeping with him if you’re feeling it in the moment. If he isn’t famous, then going and seeing if he will sleep with you as a test, doesn’t really work. Because you’re rewriting the rules but you’re the only one who knows that you’ve rewritten them. Are you trying to get a relationship out of this or have fun? on the other hand if he didn't try to have sex with me I'd feel like he's not attracted to me Exactly. You can’t put people in a no-win situation…If he does try to have sex with you, he’s a f-boy and failed your test and you don’t want him anyway. If he doesn’t try to have sex with you, it must mean he doesn’t find you physically attractive. If you’re just there to have fun because he’s famous, OK, do whatever and have fun. But, if he’s not famous and you want a genuine relationship, don’t put him in a no-win situation. 2
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 Can you answer this? Is he famous? If the answer is yes, then I can understand wanting to go just to see what happens, and sleeping with him if you’re feeling it in the moment. If he isn’t famous, then going and seeing if he will sleep with you as a test, doesn’t really work. Because you’re rewriting the rules but you’re the only one who knows that you’ve rewritten them. Are you trying to get a relationship out of this or have fun? Exactly. You can’t put people in a no-win situation…If he does try to have sex with you, he’s a f-boy and failed your test and you don’t want him anyway. If he doesn’t try to have sex with you, it must mean he doesn’t find you physically attractive. If you’re just there to have fun because he’s famous, OK, do whatever and have fun. But, if he’s not famous and you want a genuine relationship, don’t put him in a no-win situation. He is well known on media, but not an athlete. Yeah I do want a lot with him but it all depends on how things go this time. Our chemistry etc. I'm going in with no expectations.
Maggie4 Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 Naw I'm def cautious of that. I used to wear my heart on my sleeves not anymore. Now I know how to handle fckboys. Reverse it on them, and use them for sex, if I want it or never see them again if I don't again ever. Oh dear... you are as bad as the person you think he is. How about trusting the man that you really like? Treat him with respect and understanding. Stay in a hotel. If he says the text was meant for you, maybe it was.
Author Exoticbeauty Posted March 13, 2018 Author Posted March 13, 2018 (edited) Can you answer this? Is he famous? If the answer is yes, then I can understand wanting to go just to see what happens, and sleeping with him if you’re feeling it in the moment. If he isn’t famous, then going and seeing if he will sleep with you as a test, doesn’t really work. Because you’re rewriting the rules but you’re the only one who knows that you’ve rewritten them. Are you trying to get a relationship out of this or have fun? Exactly. You can’t put people in a no-win situation…If he does try to have sex with you, he’s a f-boy and failed your test and you don’t want him anyway. If he doesn’t try to have sex with you, it must mean he doesn’t find you physically attractive. If you’re just there to have fun because he’s famous, OK, do whatever and have fun. But, if he’s not famous and you want a genuine relationship, don’t put him in a no-win situation. Oh dear... you are as bad as the person you think he is. How about trusting the man that you really like? Treat him with respect and understanding. Stay in a hotel. If he says the text was meant for you, maybe it was. Clam down it's a protective defense mechanism. If I feel like someone fcked me I have every right to hand it back to them. I have every right to. If he treats me like his lady I treat him like my man. Don't be a hippocrite. If a man treats me like junk there is no way in hell I would treat him like my king. This is where girls go wrong and start being taken advantage of. Read the whole thread. I said I'd do that only if he did that to me when someone else mentioned it Edited March 13, 2018 by Exoticbeauty
Prue Posted March 13, 2018 Posted March 13, 2018 My theory is this If he sleeps with me I'll lose respect for him. And yes I'll def use a condom if I bang him Becusse It means he sleeps with all the girls he invites And then I'll dump hiss ass myself after I leave. I’m siding with you on that. It’s usually men who use women and they come out untouched. Not saying all men are bad but usually it’s us chickas that get burned even by nice guys. I’ve been used and blindsided and I was so burnt that I told the guy well it was a bad sign that you couldn’t make me orgasm anyway. HA. Tell him you ain’t chasing UNICORNS! You know what I mean? You ain’t chasing a fairytale, you want something REAL. 1
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