GemmaUK Posted March 14, 2018 Posted March 14, 2018 OP, I'm curious what age each of you are? Your username is middleagedman and you call this lady a girl, not a woman. Was there an age difference here? For me that ILY would have come a bit too soon. I, like she would have given it some more time, seen how things went, seen whether I felt that feeling was beginning to grow in myself but also would have listened to see if it came out again (at a time when we hadn't just done the deed) or was a heat of the moment thing. I would weigh all those things up but if I knew the feeling wasn't beginning to grow within me then I would end it. Having said all that though she had some personal stuff that had been going on and then her reason was actually her son and herself so maybe those were the actual reasons. Sometimes people have reasons which really are reasons. Maybe her son is having a difficult time of things in some way and she needs to be there for him. Sounds like she was a bit full on too in the beginning which without setting boundaries for herself possibly became too much too sustain or even withdraw from. Anytime there is a thread on here where someone asks for a bit of space there is almost always the auto-conclusion that they're seeing someone else instead of maybe they are struggling to keep up with looking after themselves in terms of chores/life/work/childcare etc. 1
Highndry Posted March 14, 2018 Posted March 14, 2018 You'll never know "why." We could speculate all day long. You got the standard "I'm not ready for a relationship," "I need to work on myself," etc. In my opinion, it's almost ALWAYS another guy. Women realize it's difficult to land a good man. She felt she had better prospects. GIGS.
newyorker11356 Posted March 14, 2018 Posted March 14, 2018 You'll never know "why." We could speculate all day long. You got the standard "I'm not ready for a relationship," "I need to work on myself," etc. In my opinion, it's almost ALWAYS another guy. Women realize it's difficult to land a good man. She felt she had better prospects. GIGS. In some cases? Sure, it's true, but it's definitely not almost always the case, though.
newyorker11356 Posted March 14, 2018 Posted March 14, 2018 Her ex is back on the scene. Don't know that for sure. It doesn't mean an ex is back in the picture (a lot of times, that isn't even really the case).
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