wolf123 Posted March 10, 2018 Posted March 10, 2018 have you ever met someone online who seemed like everything you wanted in a mate, and they liked you a lot too, but you have doubts and werent sure if it would work? i mean you dont really know someone until you meet them in real life, all you have is bits and pieces...text, phone calls, pics, vids, etc. im currently in this position and i dont know if i will like them when i meet them. they might not even like me. i dont wish to hurt anyones feelings...dont want to get mine hurt either. i really want to love this person but i just dont know. its been over 2 months, we havent met yet but i think she is head over heels for me...i like her too but im filled with doubts and paranoia. maybe just give it time? i think i wont know for sure until we meet.
Flame Aura Posted March 10, 2018 Posted March 10, 2018 Can't say Ive ever met someone online and had any sort of feelings for them until at least meeting them in person. I live in the real world not virtual world. 1
SevenCity Posted March 10, 2018 Posted March 10, 2018 Huge red flag that someone is in love with you without having ever met you.
act00 Posted March 10, 2018 Posted March 10, 2018 It's a risk, sweetie. You have to keep an open mind and don't build up too much fantasy. You don't want to hurt her. She doesn't want to hurt you either. She's suffering the same anxiety you are, and she's also taking a risk. You have to meet. If you're local and you haven't met yet, you need to cut bait if she's refusing. She's a sexy pen pal...nothing more. Long distance? This takes a lot more work since distance is an issue...you have to meet. You have to plan to meet more often. In between, phone calls on "date night" or video chat, and more texting/emails. No meet, no text. I've had plenty of times where things go well on text, even some calls, but never a meet. It goes well...but no meet, no plan to meet, no ability to meet...this is a pen pal. I tried the long-distance thing once, and I couldn't get phone calls out of him during the time on weekends we were supposedly both free...often he would disappear. He was also very flowery and promising, "I want to marry you." Really? We haven't met and no phone call? No "date night?" I don't think so...next. You can penpal til the cows come home with all the butterflies and rainbows, but a tangible relationship is where the real connection happens. She's not in love for real. She hasn't met you yet.
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