Am I paranoid or is she disrespecting me majorly?

[soundman97]

And yet, as soon as you were gone:

 

 

Clearly, making googly eyes at each other all day meant nothing to her.

 

 

 

You don't know her.

 

You know what she wants you to know about her. Big difference.

 

If you think it's wrong, then it's wrong.

 

I don't think you need to tell her anything--just vanish. She's got more than enough men to fill the void. She won't miss you and you will be far better off.

 

Oh, and BTW--she's F-ing the doctors, too.

 

I agree with much of what you said. Although I don't want to be so jaded to say she's definitely ****ing the doctors too. Although it is a possibility.

[soundman97]

Come on heaven - you don't see what a 34 year old man sees in a 21 year old attractive woman? We may try to be gentlemen but we aren't dead. Now, if you mean it's hard to check your ego and see the writing on the wall sometimes, I agree...in fact, I am dating someone 12 and a half years younger than me and I think it's going great but maybe I'm wrong! I hope not (I'm in my 40s and she in her 30s so that's different). I'm sure OP wants to believe it too.

 

The fact that she's 21 likely means that she's practically a child. But lots of people date younger because they like it or because they're deceiving themselves.

 

To the OP, I would probably text her and tell her it wasn't going to work out. It's not so that has the benefit of being true.

 

She's been sweet enough to me that I don't want to just disappear with no words. The only wrongdoing I have proof of is that she called homeboy Dr. Handsome with a blush face. If I end this, I will do it proper. I will try to keep it short. I"ve been fighting the urge all day to send her the final message. But I am having restraint until I think of the perfect thing to say or do.

[soundman97]

Discussing her behavior with her will not make her change her behavior. It will make her do these very same things behind your back. You can explain all you want. It won't change anything.

 

You're right. She will tell me she's sorry and she won't do it again. But she will...just in secret.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I think it's super weird that she has your name in parenthesis with hers after ANY length of dating time, let alone this early. It has nothing to do with her feelings, it's all for show. Maybe she is trying to make her boss or someone else jealous. People tend to become much more attractive the moment they become taken.

[soundman97]

I think it's super weird that she has your name in parenthesis with hers after ANY length of dating time, let alone this early. It has nothing to do with her feelings, it's all for show. Maybe she is trying to make her boss or someone else jealous. People tend to become much more attractive the moment they become taken.

 

I will admit. At first I looked at it as an awesome sign. I was like, wow! She likes me so much that she is proud to show me to all these thousands of people on her FB. But after reading all these comments maybe it is a little strange. And I agree about the more attractive thing. I've been single for two years. I posted a picture of her and I last week. So many girls reached out to me after that photo and were jealous. Maybe she really is using me as her cover photo and in her name to make somebody else in her life jealous. Maybe I am just the rebound. We have spent over a month talking. We made a pact where everyday we ask eachother 5 questions. I mean, I think she sincerely really really likes me. But my gut instincts say that. although I believe she likes me, she has bad tendencies and needs male attentions.

[Highndry]

It's never a good sign when a woman moves this fast, and an even more ominous one when you find her overtly flirting with other guys. Histrionic/BPD flags flying everywhere.

[Noproblem]

Are you super handsome or super rich?

 

Because that explains her behavior

 

She is showing you off not because she likes you but because you are a catch

and like others suggested to make someone else jealous!

 

 

 

She is a kid, don't let her lure you in.

 

Also, what kind of a messed up hospital she works in?

 

I would report this lousy shady hospital as soon as possible!

[soundman97]

Are you super handsome or super rich?

 

Because that explains her behavior

 

She is showing you off not because she likes you but because you are a catch

and like others suggested to make someone else jealous!

 

 

 

She is a kid, don't let her lure you in.

 

Also, what kind of a messed up hospital she works in?

 

I would report this lousy shady hospital as soon as possible!

 

I would consider myself average looking. I saw picture of her ex. He was way more handsome than me. For sure he was way more muscular and better dressed! She can get a guy way more handsome than me and thats for damn sure. But I think she is looking mentally for what I have to offer. But without loyalty I ain't offering her ****. I have a decent amount of money. But to be honest she actually paid for some of my stuff when we hung out last weekend. THe only thing I paid for, for her, was some of her drinks one night. There was a real connection, a deep connection. But for all I know she shares that same connection. I'll never know and that's not for me to worry about because I don't have proof. I guess I have to access the whole Dr. Handsome thing. It's a trust violation - major.

 

Yeah the hospital sounds shady. I heard many Tijuana clinics do it. The doctors sleep with the prostitutes so that the prostitutes don't have to pay for their weekly HIV exams.

 

And yes, she is a kid. The words she says to me are perfect. Like all the words, as a man, you would want a woman to say to you that you love. But I have to be prepared to accept and acknowledge it could be fake as ****. I think there is real interest. But I always wonder if her ex messaged her out of the blue would she go back. I am certain she probably would.

[Yosemite]

You’re a much older, average looking, US citizen who makes good money and you’re wondering if an Instagram-hot 20 yr old from a poor country is genuine when she says all the right things and puts you on her Facebook? Come on.

 

How do you know that she’s not one of the sex workers sleeping with the doctors? Her behavior says that she is. But even if she isn't a prostitute, even you said that the only way to get days off is to sleep with the doctors. And surprise surprise she had 2.5 days off to spend with you.

 

But even if you believe every word that she’s said about the clinic and her role in it, that should be enough to scare you away from her…Prostitutes sleeping with doctors for free to avoid an HIV test. Why avoid an HIV test unless you have HIV? Why sleep with a doctor for free when you normally charge money for sex? Your friend is clearly sleeping with the doctors who sleep with the prostitutes who are trying to avoid HIV tests/detection. Seems like the most prudent thing to do is to keep your penis far, far away from that situation.

 

It probably feels nice to believe that a super hot 20 yr old is genuinely interested in you, but don’t delude yourself. Were hot 20 yr olds interested in you when you were also in your 20’s? Are any 20 yr olds, hot or not, from your country interested in you now?

 

Not trying to hurt your feelings but this situation has red flags all over it.

[joseb]

All I can say is I hope you wore a condom.

I wouldn't risk having sex with her again.

Even if she is super hot.

[kendahke]

I agree with much of what you said. Although I don't want to be so jaded to say she's definitely ****ing the doctors too. Although it is a possibility.

 

Not having a dog in this hunt doesn't make one jaded. Because you do, you just don't want to see what is in front of you.

 

She's a product of her environment.

 

As you said in your first post:

She's very pretty, the kind of girl who gets 200+ likes on her photos...

...she lives in Tijuana. I've always found women there tend to live double lives.

 

I'm sure it it's not 200+ women liking her photos.

 

Why should she be any different to any other woman working there? Because you like her? Do you honestly think she is going to tip her hand on what she's actually up to when you're not around?

[Fair]

She only added your name to her FB to get more attention from other guys by making them jealous. She's 'not that into you' in reality, and is promiscuous. Sounds like you wouldn't even be able to trust her to go to work!