Popsicle Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 I used to think it was pretentious too but that was before I got wanderlust. It's not pretentious for me, I just want to go places and see and do things. I'm pretty tired of being at home.
Happy Lemming Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 I agree. And this has got to be the most annoying thing ever... EVERYONE is a traveler now just because they're all trying to keep up with the Joneses... comparing vacations, competing and bragging about how many countries they've been to... GAG. I couldn't care less where you've been! It's a turn off... so pretentious! Always trying to express their superiority over you... and it's always the first thing out of their mouths. Why should I be impressed about a place I've never seen... it doesn't mean anything. You just look like a braggart. Completely agree... My girlfriend goes on FaceBook, then comes back to me telling me about how "so and so" went here, there, etc. How that person had a grand trip and it was so much better than the trips/adventures I plan. I tell her they are bragging because they feel insecure about their lot in life. I don't... I plan my trips/adventures based on where I want to go, and what I want to see. Then I have to shoe-horn it into my budget. I refuse to go somewhere just "to keep up with the Jones'". Moreover, I refuse to go into debt for anything, much less a trip/vacation. 1
Popsicle Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 Completely agree... My girlfriend goes on FaceBook, then comes back to me telling me about how "so and so" went here, there, etc. How that person had a grand trip and it was so much better than the trips/adventures I plan. I tell her they are bragging because they feel insecure about their lot in life. I don't... I plan my trips/adventures based on where I want to go, and what I want to see. Then I have to shoe-horn it into my budget. I refuse to go somewhere just "to keep up with the Jones'". Moreover, I refuse to go into debt for anything, much less a trip/vacation. Tell your GF to go on those trips by herself if she really wants to go. 1
SevenCity Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 Completely agree... My girlfriend goes on FaceBook, then comes back to me telling me about how "so and so" went here, there, etc. How that person had a grand trip and it was so much better than the trips/adventures I plan. I tell her they are bragging because they feel insecure about their lot in life. I don't... I plan my trips/adventures based on where I want to go, and what I want to see. Then I have to shoe-horn it into my budget. I refuse to go somewhere just "to keep up with the Jones'". Moreover, I refuse to go into debt for anything, much less a trip/vacation. Right on brother. The last girl I dated had been all over the world and had a mound of debt and no assets to show for it. The Facebook insecurity thing is also spot on. What most people don't realize is they aren't so much trying to convince you their life is so great, they are trying to convince themselves. 3
Popsicle Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 I'm certainly not looking for a man to finance my trips. And if I want to go somewhere and he can't afford to go or is not interested in going, then I will simply go by myself or with another friend. I've gone on a few trips without my man. They were fine with it and so was I.
Jj66 Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 (edited) I love to travel, explore, and adventure. I don't like to text back and forth. My ideal conversation might go like this: Hey, are you a serial killer? No. Cool, me neither! Not much much of a texter either. How about we meet for a drink after work on Wednesday? Of course it's usually a bit more than that, but the less the better. Edited March 4, 2018 by Jj66 4
Popsicle Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 I love to travel, explore, and adventure. I don't like to text back and forth. My ideal conversation might go like this: Hey, are you a serial killer? No. Cool, me neither! Not much much of a texter either. How about we meet for a drink after work on Wednesday? Of course it's usually a bit more than that, but the less the better. I'm so with you!
SevenCity Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 I'm certainly not looking for a man to finance my trips. And if I want to go somewhere and he can't afford to go or is not interested in going, then I will simply go by myself or with another friend. I've gone on a few trips without my man. They were fine with it and so was I. A lot of women do want want the guy to finance the adventures. And a lot of guys get that impression even if that's not the case. I know I do. 1
Popsicle Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 A lot of women do want want the guy to finance the adventures. And a lot of guys get that impression even if that's not the case. I know I do. How convenient of you to think that.
Chilli Posted March 4, 2018 Posted March 4, 2018 (edited) I agree. And this has got to be the most annoying thing ever... EVERYONE is a traveler now just because they're all trying to keep up with the Joneses... comparing vacations, competing and bragging about how many countries they've been to... GAG. I couldn't care less where you've been! It's a turn off... so pretentious! Always trying to express their superiority over you... and it's always the first thing out of their mouths. Why should I be impressed about a place I've never seen... it doesn't mean anything. You just look like a braggart. Yeah , when l was on one l thought exactly the same thing. On mine it was nearly impossible finding a lady, same age group your talking, that didn't talk travel travel , a lot of them had their list of everywhere they'd been like some trophy. l use to think oh yeah yada yada yada. Seems to be a real keep up with the jones thing these days, really gets on my nerves. Should try just saying on your page like some have suggested, not interested in chat buddy pen pals bla. Or the travel crapola . There were also some on mine would just talk about wanting to build a home and stuff or settle, the simple things whatever. But yeah the whole traveling bs was really common. Edited March 4, 2018 by Chilli 1
MaleIntuition Posted March 5, 2018 Posted March 5, 2018 Possible reasons are, from most likely to least likely: 1) They aren’t that interested in you, 2) They fear rejection and want to be completely certain, 3) They think that girls prefer to build a connection first, 4) They are waiting for you to ask them for a meeting, 5) They are just using OLD as a self esteem boost, Corresponding fixes to 1-5: 1) Be more interesting, better pictures 2) Be more enthusiastic, we totally tell number of emoticons to gauge interest level, 3) Ask them out, 4) Ask them out, 5) Ask them out, 1
stillafool Posted March 5, 2018 Posted March 5, 2018 Apparently not everyone who does online dating is just chatting. Lots of them are dating and even getting married. 1
CptInsano Posted March 5, 2018 Posted March 5, 2018 I get frustrated as hell with it, yes. Swear to swear off it for good... but there's no available men here. I'm in a rural community. I wonder if this simply has a lot to do with the results. OLD doesn't create new people, and if you don't find men in your rural community you may end up with guys who live too far away for any serious dates. 2
Popsicle Posted March 5, 2018 Posted March 5, 2018 I wonder if this simply has a lot to do with the results. OLD doesn't create new people, and if you don't find men in your rural community you may end up with guys who live too far away for any serious dates. Yes. Is there any way for you to move, Fair? If not, then what's happening may be due to the circumstances.
Author Fair Posted March 5, 2018 Author Posted March 5, 2018 Apparently not everyone who does online dating is just chatting. Lots of them are dating and even getting married. Not as many as they like to say. I truly believe the statistics on this are b.s. Anything to sell it to the public. Most people walk away from it bitter and more jaded than ever. I know most of the time I just feel like it's a good place to go if you want your faith in humanity to plummet. Kind of like FB.
Author Fair Posted March 5, 2018 Author Posted March 5, 2018 Yes. Is there any way for you to move, Fair? If not, then what's happening may be due to the circumstances. Not at this point, but I'd like to.
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