drakius214 Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 I've tried online dating and went through thousands of women looking. I usually just swipe and don't even look since it's a number game. I've went through over 10,000 women, quesstimate, over years on POF, tinder and another one. I've went out with a few and had talked to more. It seems in life who's attracted to me, I'm not attracted to and who I'm attracted to isn't attracted to me. I've been with a few women (and dated more) over the years meeting through school or work. I don't drink alcohol ever so don't ever go to bars. I used to drink and go to a few bars but stopped. Would I really want to marry someone I meet in a bar, I think of. Going to a bar and drinking water, is different... Online dating doesn't seem to work. Try something else my relative says. Going to a bar isn't one bit fun to me. Any ideas to meet women going out? 2
smackie9 Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 Ya through hobbies like join a co-ed sports team, a jogging group, or whatever your interests lay. Through friends, social gatherings like bbq's, bday party, etc. 2
lurker74 Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 Not many...here's a couple Friends Work Meetup Hobbies Grocery store Gym Park Hardware store (it works) Family connections Church/Synagogue/Mosque Museums Yoga Spin classes Travel groups Coffee shops Sports league Class (adult education) Dance class Public transportation Advocacy groups Laundromat Library Book store Weddings Poetry readings Happy hour (but eat) Concerts Dog rescue (or walk a dog at Humane Society) Trivia Night at a bar (but don't drink) And online but take the time to choose rather than convince yourself it's a numbers game. If you think it's a numbers game, then your number is more likely to be 0. The number you should want is 1 6
Author drakius214 Posted March 1, 2018 Author Posted March 1, 2018 I only want one, obviously... talk to many and then some go out with then get one gf to be wife.
d0nnivain Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 lurker74's list is great. Also try the following: 1. Speed dating (this may not be great because the events are often in bars) 2. Who's around at work? Not your company but in the elevator, where you get your coffee, at lunch etc. 3. Business networking events like chamber of commerce meetings & card exchanges 4. Alumni groups 5. playing on co-ed sports teams 6. Civic or charitable groups like the Elks, the Moose, the Kiwanis, the Lions etc. 7. Meet Up groups that do something you enjoy -- hiking, board games, writing etc. 8. Volunteering doing something you are passionate about: funding the arts, rescuing animals, fighting disease, politics, protesting, etc. 9. Getting introductions from friends & family. You never know who knows somebody who will be perfect for you. 10. Taking a not for credit class like cooking, writing, investing, etc.
Maggie4 Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 I think now you can conclude with some certainty that it is NOT a numbers game. Sorry you had to go through so many dates to learn this. Whoever told you it's a numbers game, did you a disservice. I believe for most people, relationship happens more likely with a change of appearance and attitude. Or you can always pray. 2
CrazyKatLady Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 I checked out the local newspaper for the city next to where I live (its larger than my tiny town) and found so many festivals, beach cleanups, movie nights in the park, etc. going on in March, I could stay busy meeting people for weeks! Try that--I think its easier to strike up a convo at a community event-everyone is sharing in the celebrations and festivities and it goes with the whole mentality of not messing up the pack or herd and everyone focused on having a good time-relaxing and such. Maybe that helps? Its spring time, and almost spring break-so yeah, get off the old computer and get out this month-maybe your city/town offers a lot of venues to check out? Good luck, have fun! 1
CptInsano Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 I think now you can conclude with some certainty that it is NOT a numbers game. Sorry you had to go through so many dates to learn this. Whoever told you it's a numbers game, did you a disservice. I believe for most people, relationship happens more likely with a change of appearance and attitude. Or you can always pray. It will still be a numbers game even if he was able to make some connections on OLD. If he cannot make these connections at all he really isn't in the game. For most men relationships don't happen, they will have to take the initiative. This reminds me of a training session I attended yesterday, it was about corporate networking, and about cold-approaching other employees at corporate events to extend your network. Even some of our female executives get blown off if they try to speak to people who technically report to them. Some things work for them, some don't. But even if you do things right, there may not be a high success rate. What does that mean for the OP? Yes, with numbers that high you need to change your approach. But you will have to stick with the other approaches for a while, because success may not be instantaneous, even if you do things right.
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