Confusedguy81 Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 I do not know. I used to enjoy dating but I do not know if it is my looks, personality or what but I am starting to think I am undateable. 1
basil67 Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 You might have to give us a bit more info. What is happening? Or not happening?
d0nnivain Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 If you were able to get dates in the past, what changed to make it not enjoyable now?
Rockdad Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 I use to know how to date. Reading some of the current dating rules in here it's blown out to be complicated and fraught with landmines. I don't social media hardly at all and I don't like texting so that's big strikes against me already. I've watched a wealthy friend try dating sites for years with little to mostly bad results. Guess I'll stay married it's a lot easier. 1
central Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 Guess I'll stay married it's a lot easier. If your marriage is good, then that's a smart decision! If not, I'd rather risk the difficulties and try to better my situation. Fortunately, my marriage is wonderful, but I did leave my ex to seek a better life, and actually enjoyed the dating process.
HiCrunchy Posted March 1, 2018 Posted March 1, 2018 Man threads like this make me so sad. I hope things get better op
Happy Lemming Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 Part of dating is rejection... Not every woman is going to like you or say "Yes" to a date when you approach them. Most will say "No, thank you" and that's OK. If a woman says "No, thank you" to me when I ask them out, then I go to the next one. There are plenty of women out there in the real world, go meet them. You also don't want to get too emotionally invested after one or two dates, keep it light, keep it friendly, keep it fun. The biggest chore is "date planning" trying to pick fun activities that you both enjoy. I really enjoy dating, meeting new people, hearing new stories, eating new foods, & trying new adventures/activities. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, have fun with the process.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 Part of dating is rejection... Not every woman is going to like you or say "Yes" to a date when you approach them. Most will say "No, thank you" and that's OK. If a woman says "No, thank you" to me when I ask them out, then I go to the next one. There are plenty of women out there in the real world, go meet them. You also don't want to get too emotionally invested after one or two dates, keep it light, keep it friendly, keep it fun. The biggest chore is "date planning" trying to pick fun activities that you both enjoy. I really enjoy dating, meeting new people, hearing new stories, eating new foods, & trying new adventures/activities. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, have fun with the process. Personally rejection wasn't a problem for me, it was the game playing that got me. I had one guy outright reject me (he did it nicely) and I was fine after that initial rejection. The thing that hurt the most was flip flopping, I might want a relationship/might not kind of crap. I agree though, do not get invested until you know that the person wants the same thing. I had to learn that the hard way, but eventually no matter how much I liked the guy, if he started playing games, I would just drop him like a hot potato.
lurker74 Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 (edited) []Dating can be awful. It can be wonderful. Women can be jerks. So can men. Generally, if someone is often rejected, it's almost always something about the person GETTING rejected, not the person doing the rejection. And when you paint with a wide brush and say all women are ____ or all men do _______, it means you're not paying attention to yourself. --------------------- []I've been rejected plenty. Had my heart ripped from my chest, shown to me, and ripped in half. I've been afraid to approach women, thought perhaps I was undateable, and thought that it would be nice if a bus ran me over. And then I learned - through hard work and therapy - that happiness comes from within. That no one is on the earth with the purpose of making me happy. And when I started to make myself happy, others wanted to be around me. Was is simple? Yeah, it was simple. But it sure wasn't easy. It still isn't. Four months ago, I was saving for a ring. 5 weeks ago I was setting up a dating profile. It sucks. But I want that one person I can spend the rest of my life with, that I can surrender to. And no one - not even myself - is going to stand in the way of that. If you are interested in having that and not just moping about how bad women are online, it can be yours too. And I don't care what you look like or how much money you have. But it starts with you, not them. Edited March 2, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge from hydra response cleanup 1
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