Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 Hot charming guy, very few picks of girls on his social media....he's probably slammin where he can get'em. An opportunist possibly. Hey if you are down for some scoobyin go for it as long as you don't get possessive. Yeah, might be he has many of those he calls "my love" He wouldn't interest me as a potential partner since he seems so shallow! But some scoobyin as you say...wouldn't say no 1
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 Am I the only one who read this situation and thought it would be a terrible idea to pursue it? I mean, do whatever you want; you certainly aren't hurting anybody, but... You were stressed out for weeks, trying to find a roommate. You sound like you were really desperate to find someone to the point you didn't notice the attractiveness of this guy, who, once the stress subsided, you now find very attractive. You also settled for a guy as a roommate when you were wanting a girl roommate, because you say you didn't have options. You said you didn't want a relationship, so that's off the table, but either way... Say you start hooking up and it goes the way these things go most of the time; someone catches feelings and things end. Either you start wanting a relationship with him, he wants one with you, or one of you want one with someone else. Things get weird at best, and hateful at worse. You have a short or long period where you both live together while he has to find a place to live...or worse, he doesn't want to leave, and things go way dark (remember you don't really know this guy). And then you're right back to stressing out about finding a roommate again once the dust settles... I think I'm getting too old...when I was younger, I might have been willing to jump into something like that and let the almost certain drama unfold for the slim chance that things worked out. Actually, I take that back, I don't think I ever would have made a fwb out of someone I lived with; there are plenty other people I could do that with, people I would never have to see again when things went south. Minimize the drama...or don't. You do you. I don't think I'd fall for him, he's really not my type personality wise, but it could surely get awkward or in worst case I'd find myself stressing out about finding a new housemate again. About the possible drama... Well, sometimes we all crave a little bit of spice. I think my life has been quite boring lately.
Exformer Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 I don't think I'd fall for him, he's really not my type personality wise, but it could surely get awkward or in worst case I'd find myself stressing out about finding a new housemate again. About the possible drama... Well, sometimes we all crave a little bit of spice. I think my life has been quite boring lately. Eh, then bring on the crazy. These are just things to consider, and if you don't mind facing any of those the possibilities...no reason left to not jump on it.
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 Hahahaha oh my goodness I'm dying of laughter!! I think he's gay!!!! I was just sitting in the dining room a moment ago and I could hear exactly what he was talking from here (mainly because of his sonorous voice and the fact that the walls are paper thin in this house). He seems to be having some issues with someone, I've heard him talking in this apologetic manner in the morning as well, but now he's said "darling" or "my love" a few times and then he said a male name! Unmistakably male name (and no, it's not the case when name's like Cary can be both feminine and masculine)!!!! Omg, he's probably not flirting, he probably just has this overly friendly mannerism! This is freaking hilarious, am I so starved I can no longer catch a gay vibe??? 4
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 I just checked his Facebook again. No pictures from Pride or anything, but then again, it's only quite old pictures on here and some are with guys, but it looked like his buddies...
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 I guess the good thing is I can go back to looking like a low key homeless person and skip wearing my fancy pants and makeup 2
Gaeta Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 Hahahaha oh my goodness I'm dying of laughter!! I think he's gay!!!! I was just sitting in the dining room a moment ago and I could hear exactly what he was talking from here (mainly because of his sonorous voice and the fact that the walls are paper thin in this house). He seems to be having some issues with someone, I've heard him talking in this apologetic manner in the morning as well, but now he's said "darling" or "my love" a few times and then he said a male name! Unmistakably male name (and no, it's not the case when name's like Cary can be both feminine and masculine)!!!! Omg, he's probably not flirting, he probably just has this overly friendly mannerism! This is freaking hilarious, am I so starved I can no longer catch a gay vibe??? That is SO funny lol. Well you may end up with a new BFF ;-) 1
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 That is SO funny lol. Well you may end up with a new BFF ;-) Believe it or not, I'm actually relieved!! 1
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 He was just being "*FABULOUS*!" lol He doesn't have this stereotypical gay demeanor, but definitely super pleasant and charismatic, but right now it seems so obvious, I'm so stupid haha!
d0nnivain Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 For your sake I hope he's gay. Going from just meeting somebody to essentially living together is a horrible idea. You can't go from 0 to 60 that fast & have it work. Dating a housemate means you never get a break, you can't multi-date & somebody needs to move when you break up. This won't end well so you are better served by not starting.
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 For your sake I hope he's gay. Going from just meeting somebody to essentially living together is a horrible idea. You can't go from 0 to 60 that fast & have it work. Dating a housemate means you never get a break, you can't multi-date & somebody needs to move when you break up. This won't end well so you are better served by not starting. I wasn't going to date him, was just thinking of sleeping with him every now and then. That was, before I figured out he's gay. Oooor maybe he's bi!
d0nnivain Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 I wasn't going to date him, was just thinking of sleeping with him every now and then. That was, before I figured out he's gay. Oooor maybe he's bi! That's worse. Do you really want to sleep with him then have to be nice in the morning over coffee to whoever else warmed his bed when you werent' in it?
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 That's worse. Do you really want to sleep with him then have to be nice in the morning over coffee to whoever else warmed his bed when you werent' in it? Oh come on, I was just happy to feel sexual attraction again after feeling completely numb for months (check my last thread). I wasn't caring about the details since this guy is just hot and otherwise completely uninteresting as a person. I wouldn't have cared if there were other bed warmers. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 OK. If you can disconnect that much go for it but I suspect that after you two settle into a routine FWB thing, the other people you have to contend with in the morning will get on your nerves. Also when you finally find somebody you want to get serious with, they are going to object to your living situation given the past interactions.
snowboy91 Posted February 28, 2018 Posted February 28, 2018 He doesn't have this stereotypical gay demeanor, but definitely super pleasant and charismatic, but right now it seems so obvious, I'm so stupid haha! Sometimes it's just not obvious at all. Just because someone doesn't have the stereotypical behaviour doesn't mean they're not gay. And sometimes people give off a gay vibe but are straight. This thread has been great fun to read... I feel like trying to get with this guy could be a bad idea, in a good way. If you know what I mean.
Author Lorenza Posted February 28, 2018 Author Posted February 28, 2018 Sometimes it's just not obvious at all. Just because someone doesn't have the stereotypical behaviour doesn't mean they're not gay. And sometimes people give off a gay vibe but are straight. This thread has been great fun to read... I feel like trying to get with this guy could be a bad idea, in a good way. If you know what I mean. I know it's not always obvious, had a really close friend who's gay and 99% of people couldn't tell! Yet I sensed it the moment I met him for the first time, our common friend was amazed! That's why I'm so surprised I was clueless this time. I mean he did tell me he wants to buy a special water softening shower tap cause water here is so drying... Haha! 1
Author Lorenza Posted March 2, 2018 Author Posted March 2, 2018 Sooooo were you able to find out? I didn't ask directly or found out some undeniable proof, but his behavior is showing more and more of his gay side like he's soo well groomed he puts me to shame! I also saw his countless hygiene and cosmetic products on the shelf, also he's really tidy and has impeccable clothes. I even start noticing the way he speak (what's seen can be unseen...or unheard) and I think his expressive mannerism is definitely gay but we get along well so far, yesterday had a long talk about harmful ingredients in shampoos and stuff )))
FilterCoffee Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 Haha I can see your attraction for him is wearing off! But it sounds like you like him as a person and a roommate so that’s great. I bet you’re going to borrow some of his products 1
Popsicle Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 What did I get myself into... My new housemate just moved in on Sunday. I was primarily looking for a female, but couldn't afford being too picky. Actually this guy was my only choice after a few weeks of intensive search. I didn't even "notice" him when he came over to check my place out. Was honestly too stressed about the whole situation so we made an agreement the very same evening (and, well, it doesn't make sense to discriminate someone because of their looks anyway, so there was no choice there). It suited him as well since his work is only 15 min away. He moved in on Sunday evening and we had some tea after he was done unpacking. My God this guy is attractive. And flirty. Or at least that's how I perceived it (might be it's his way of being friendly). The house isn't very spacious so we pass each other by quite a lot. He just came back home from work and brought me sushi (??) although we didn't eat it together. We didn't talk too much either, mostly on Sunday and a little bit yesterday. Otherwise just smiling and having small talk. But I feel shook (at least now I know I'm not asexual). Oh, and we added each other on Fb, there's no signs of a girlfriend, though there are a couple of old pictures with a girl. But anyway, what do you guys think? It this a dangerous situation? Will it pass? Should I keep distance? Have you ever had a fling with a housemate? I'm not looking for anything relationshipwise, but getting involved with a housemate seems like a bad idea in general right? Ugh, I can't calm down ever since he moved in, I'm so attracted to him. Nice!!!! I love it. Lucky girl. You’re in control a long as the lease is in your name. Funny how you thought you were asexual until an attractive guy came in front of your face. Funny how that works. I’m with alphamale. Just don’t have sex with him for several months. Keep the tension going for as long as possible.
FilterCoffee Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 Lorenza, I’m curious, what about him made you think he was flirty? It’s hard to believe there was any sexual innuendo so was it just his warm and friendly vibe?
Popsicle Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 Hahahaha oh my goodness I'm dying of laughter!! I think he's gay!!!! I was just sitting in the dining room a moment ago and I could hear exactly what he was talking from here (mainly because of his sonorous voice and the fact that the walls are paper thin in this house). He seems to be having some issues with someone, I've heard him talking in this apologetic manner in the morning as well, but now he's said "darling" or "my love" a few times and then he said a male name! Unmistakably male name (and no, it's not the case when name's like Cary can be both feminine and masculine)!!!! Omg, he's probably not flirting, he probably just has this overly friendly mannerism! This is freaking hilarious, am I so starved I can no longer catch a gay vibe??? Omg that’s hilarious! It’s always those gay ones that look good. Damn it! 1
FilterCoffee Posted March 2, 2018 Posted March 2, 2018 Nice!!!! I love it. Lucky girl. You’re in control a long as the lease is in your name. Funny how you thought you were asexual until an attractive guy came in front of your face. Funny how that works. I’m with alphamale. Just don’t have sex with him for several months. Keep the tension going for as long as possible. I think you had a senior moment there Pops 1
Author Lorenza Posted March 2, 2018 Author Posted March 2, 2018 Lorenza, I’m curious, what about him made you think he was flirty? It’s hard to believe there was any sexual innuendo so was it just his warm and friendly vibe? It's probably just his oppeness and expressiveness. I misread it 1
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