iVisa Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 I met a friend of my workmate. Between us was a strong chemistry at the first sight. The most stronger I ever have. Furthermore, he is very intelligent, funny and handsome men. Just perfect for me. He asks me on a date very quickly. I saw in his eyes that he feels the same. We were twice on a date. This was an amazing ten hours. We talked a lot and he kissed me. He talked about the third date and texted next day. We were texting one week and then he stopped. After a week I texted and asked: "is everything alright"? He answered very late "I'm sorry, I have a hard time with my work. What about you?", so I cancel his number and didn't answer. Maybe it was stupid, but I was angry. He could answer early... I hoped he will text, but he didn't. I can't understand it and I have broken heart even it was only ten hours together. I regret I can't know him better... We didn't contact two months and I can't forget his eyes, his jokes, this chemistry, and kisses. This workmate told me that I should forget, but I can't...
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 Either he was married/had a GF or he got back with his ex. Don't take it personally. I guess he didn't have the heart to say anything. Sorry.
Author iVisa Posted February 26, 2018 Author Posted February 26, 2018 He don't have girlfriend. For sure.
Maggie4 Posted February 26, 2018 Posted February 26, 2018 I guess you could have kept calm, replied, and see what happens, that way you don't wonder about "what if". But I think men who drift off are usually down the river of no return, so probably he'd be gone even if you had replied.
Gaeta Posted February 26, 2018 Posted February 26, 2018 I am sorry he disappointed you. You need to toughen up a little he won't be the last man to break your heart. Don't spend your precious time thinking of a man that doesn't want to be with you. He doesn't deserve any of that energy. It's time to date someone else. 4
d0nnivain Posted February 26, 2018 Posted February 26, 2018 We were texting one week and then he stopped. After a week I texted and asked: "is everything alright"? He answered very late "I'm sorry, I have a hard time with my work. What about you?", so I cancel his number and didn't answer. Maybe it was stupid, but I was angry. . Yes, it was rude of him not to reach out but once you were told he was busy, you over-reacted. Unless the busy was a permanent thing in his life, a little patience on your part may have saved this. However you do need better emotional boundaries. You feel too hard too fast for a stranger. 2 dates over 10 hours does not make him the love of your life. Your mutual friend is now telling you to leave him alone. I suggest you listen to that person who probably has info you don't have. If you want him back I suggest you find his number, reach out & ask him on a date. He probably won't want to go but at least you will know that he tried. 2
Exformer Posted February 26, 2018 Posted February 26, 2018 A cautionary tale of not getting too attached too early... You saw what you wanted to see. You were in, and he may have been in too, but clearly less so than yourself. Sometimes people project their feelings onto other people, and assume because they feel one thing, the other must as well. It looks like that's probably the case here. The important thing is to not get hung up. He's not your star-crossed lover. You didn't share a deep connection with each other, or he would have kept contact. What you know of each other is only what you learned in a ten hour span, and what you learned from your behaviors afterward. But right now, you aren't considering his actions afterward, only the fluffy, happy stuff. See him for who he is, and not what you hoped he'd be. This is a guy who ghosted you soon after you started dating, and gave you a cheap blow off line about work when you text him much later. Doesn't sound like a guy worth wasting your energy thinking about. 1
CollinW Posted February 26, 2018 Posted February 26, 2018 Did you not text him during that week? I honestly think you need to mature a bit before you start dating again. You're too reactionary and the fact that you cut him off only to sit back and constantly think about him says a lot. You only went on two dates, why would he chase you as if he was invested in the situation?
LoverOfDance Posted February 27, 2018 Posted February 27, 2018 I think he was interested but not on the same level as you. I understand your anger towards him. I would have been disappointed as well. Find a way to contact him and ask him out. Based on my experience, I don't think this will go anywhere but you can try. Try and date others as well and don't worry too much about him. There are other men and you will find another.
Author iVisa Posted February 27, 2018 Author Posted February 27, 2018 It's hard to write, but you're right. He doesn't want to date with me. I should let it pass... ... but I'm so sad and I can't understand him. And sometimes I think that I want one more chance...
Michelle ma Belle Posted February 27, 2018 Posted February 27, 2018 A cautionary tale indeed. I'm with Gaeta that you need to toughen up a bit more if you're going to date. You're a hot mess after only a couple of dates! I can't imagine what you'll be like if you break up with someone you've been dating or in a relationship for much longer. This isn't very healthy at all. It's over and the sooner you come to terms with that, the sooner you can move on and start again with someone else. Happens to all of us. The good news, heartbreak won't actually kill you and there is life afterwards. Good luck. 1
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