Mjm1014 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 Not sure if I'm over reacting or not and am wondering your thoughts on the matter. I want to bring it up with her but idk if I'll seem insecure. My gf and I have known each other 6 months, and she's started telling me she "loves me" about two months ago. Things have been going very well lately. About a month ago she told me her last ex (they dated last summer), texted her trying to get back with her. She told me she was really upset that he was trying to get in touch and told me she wasn't going to respond. This guy is a bad dude anyways, he's been to jail, been on drugs, and just seems like a tool. She told me she was head over heals for the guy but her parents didn't approve so she ended things with him. Anyways, about a week ago my gf dad asked her to call him (I was there when he told her) to see if he could fix his roof since he's a roofer. Girlfriend seemed hesitant but told me she would call him. The other day my girlfriend told me she finally had gotten in touch with him and that they had over an hour conversation on the phone "catching up" and apparently he was ragging on me a lot and also trying to make her feel bad for having a boyfriend. My girlfriend said she told him that she loves me though (who knows if that happened)..She told me half their conversation..I guess I just find it odd they talked for an hour (if it were me I wouldn't have talked more than 2-3 min to my ex out of respect for my gf and because I wouldn't want to esp if they are trying to get me back). My girlfriend told me to trust her and she has my heart though. She told me to swear up and down not to tell her mom since she hates the guy. Part of me feels like I'm being insecure since she was honest with me that she talked to him-she could have easily hid it, but the other part of me wonders why all of a sudden she went from ignoring him to talking over an hour. I just find it kinda disrespectful. I know her dad needed the work on his roof done, but it almost seemed like an excuse to talk to him to that long. Do I bring it up or just see if his name comes up again?
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 (edited) I'm not getting it...this guy is a thug, and yet her dad, who was the one who didn't approve of him in the first place, asked his daughter to get in touch for him to do his roof? Man she is lying. As a mature adult, I would NOT let any criminal touch my house in anyway. Nor would I let my daughter get in touch with him ever again. What she told you....that's what a parent wouldn't do.....she's full of it. The only way to find out is to ask the dad and let him know this jackass is trying to get back with his daughter. Then dump her. Edited February 25, 2018 by smackie9
snowboy91 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 Do I bring it up or just see if his name comes up again? It sounds like you two have already brought it up and discussed the issue - albeit without you saying how you feel about the situation. I think it is possible for exes to remain friends, but only under the right circumstances. This really isn't the case here - the ex is completely disrespecting her by ragging on you and begging for her back. I'm inclined to believe your GF when she says she wants to be with you - she ended it with him for a good reason. But she really needs to stay completely clear of this guy - if he's been in jail he's danger. If her dad does in fact need roof work done, he could have got just about anyone else. That's really poor judgement on his part.
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 It sounds like you two have already brought it up and discussed the issue - albeit without you saying how you feel about the situation. I think it is possible for exes to remain friends, but only under the right circumstances. This really isn't the case here - the ex is completely disrespecting her by ragging on you and begging for her back. I'm inclined to believe your GF when she says she wants to be with you - she ended it with him for a good reason. But she really needs to stay completely clear of this guy - if he's been in jail he's danger. If her dad does in fact need roof work done, he could have got just about anyone else. That's really poor judgement on his part. She ended it because her parents told her to, not that she herself wanted to.....she was head over heels and was forced to end it. See where this takes a turn? 1
MidwestUSA Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 I'm not getting it...this guy is a thug, and yet her dad, who was the one who didn't approve of him in the first place, asked his daughter to get in touch for him to do his roof? Man she is lying. As a mature adult, I would NOT let any criminal touch my house in anyway. Nor would I let my daughter get in touch with him ever again. What she told you....that's what a parent wouldn't do.....she's full of it. The only way to find out is to ask the dad and let him know this jackass is trying to get back with his daughter. Then dump her. But OP was present when dad asked her to call him. Maybe the dude is a REALLY good roofer? 1
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 But OP was present when dad asked her to call him. Maybe the dude is a REALLY good roofer? Thanks for clearing that up. She should have given her father the number and he could talk to him, himself if she didn't want to do it. Oh well. Not much he can do at this point but move on from it.
darkmoon Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 if anything you do not like happens again, use the event to bring you closer together by talking about things and bonding deeper i do see something a lil fishy, but it has happened and there is not much you can do avoid arguing with her at all costs, not a good move to blame her if she was caught off-guard
Interstellar Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 (edited) She spoke to him for one hour? She can’t tell him “I have to go. I have a boyfriend now.?” I think she’s being disrespectful, who knows how long she’s been really talking to him. I would watch her like a hawk and lower my interest level in her. And this guy has been in jail and an all around tool? Man, be alert and aware in your surroundings. Edited February 25, 2018 by Interstellar
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 She lives with her father? Make sure you are there when this exe comes around to repair the roof.
dude360 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 Nobody talks to an ex for one hour unless they are doing something behind your back. She's probably already texted him a dozen times and even met up with him already. "She told me to trust her" Yeah, that's what they always say right before they cheat on you. Don't be gullible.
snowboy91 Posted February 26, 2018 Posted February 26, 2018 She ended it because her parents told her to, not that she herself wanted to.....she was head over heels and was forced to end it. See where this takes a turn? Ok yeah I missed that bit. I'm now curious to know how she feels about him now - it's possible she may realise what an awful dude he is, but if she was forced to end it it's unlikely.
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