Having a split when you both are still in love, how do I deal with it?

[deluges]

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Edited February 23, 2018 by deluges

[Young mind]

Theresa and uncooked motion that splits can be amicable, I highly doubt that, it's clear one parties feelings are less, it depends on what you will define your 'love' as compared to the other.

 

Hard to see it clearly when you're in there, but a careful analysis will show you, one of you is no longer 'in love'

[HumanMachine]

Can we have some context please? Or has the message been deleted?

[Emmafive]

Theresa and uncooked motion that splits can be amicable, I highly doubt that, it's clear one parties feelings are less, it depends on what you will define your 'love' as compared to the other.

 

Hard to see it clearly when you're in there, but a careful analysis will show you, one of you is no longer 'in love'

 

You can still be in love and breakup.

[deluges]

Sorry! I deleted it because I put it another thread and I didn't know if it would apply to this one as much too.

This is what I had put up.

 

"I don't have much of a support system in my life, and i'm hoping finding help from other people and having support will help me heal more and realize i'll be okay.

This is all still fresh, I had my last day with the guy i'm in love with on Tuesday February 20th.

We we're together almost 6 months, it would be this Saturday.

He's a musician, and he has a best friend who lives in another state that he's pursued music with distantly. He thought for a while he would be staying in the current state we live in now. Until last December when I found out he would be moving to the state his friend is in because it has more of the music scene he's in up there. It broke me so hard, and it was terrible trying to finally talk to him about it but we did. Was I happy for him? absolutely, I still am and I dearly hope everything works out for him. I have no doubt he won't do great things. But it doesn't reduce the sadness of it all.

He's been in a long distance relationship before, when he went off to college, and he ended up falling out of love with her. But he said it was really bad for him and totally wants it to work for us, but he's not going to have the time. We're both still young and figuring ourselves out, I definitely still am but it doesn't lessen the pain. Because I want to be by his side when he does great things, and I want him to be by mine.

Even knowing it was coming still didn't prepare me for the pain i'm feeling.

We both cried so much on Tuesday, and i remember him looking over at me in the car, and saying "i'm going to miss you" and the tears in his eyes, and the look on his face, it tears me apart. He kept telling me how sorry he was.

I remember telling him I didn't want to think about him with someone else and he told me the same thing.

I'm scared of him forgetting me, I'm scared he'll be so caught up in the good in his life, that he won't remember what he had with me.

I'm scared I may not have a chance with him again in the future

Even though I know what's meant to be, it will be.

Life works itself out, and it moves on.

But I just need some guidance, how to stop thinking about him, how to stop wanting to check his social media, how to not think about the things that have popped up in my head that i wish i had in my head in our last car ride together.

How do I let go when i don't want to. How do I let go of someone I love so dearly, and knowing he feels the same way.

We both decided to stay friends too"

[deluges]

Can we have some context please? Or has the message been deleted?

 

Sorry the message was deleted because I had put it in another thread and I wasn't sure if it would apply to another thread more than this one.

I have my original post above!

[deluges]

I also do know being 18 going on 19 soon is young, and i'm in young love.

I would say I'm a pretty practical person as well, so i'm not going to say I saw myself marrying him yet or wanting his children. I don't even really want to think about that now, because I know I am too young.

But I do know I love him and i want some sort of future with him because I do see something just not that quite yet, and i still want a chance in the future with him to see if anything else can pursue.