Crazyalex84 Posted February 23, 2018 Posted February 23, 2018 So yeah, this weekend I'll try to find the courage to ask that lovely girl out. For once, I think I may actually have a chance. The problem is that my only way to see her is to go to her workplace (a small store). That's what i'm doing, once a week since mid-December. She gave me great deal without asking her boss and even giving me free stuff. Even if she's out of stock of what I need, i'm staying to talk with her. Last time we talked for about 45 minutes. What I like about her and make me think I may have a chance is that she never touch her phone when I'm around. She always smile and look into my eyes when we talk, she doesn't try to avoid me and looks interested to what I say. If her friend call her, she ask her if she can call her back later and she looks comfortable to tell my personal things about her. But on n the other hand, I don't see any body-language signs, you know? Those thing like if she plays with her hair. There is also no real physical contact, but she doesn't push me back if I do. Ho, and she didn't wish my happy birthday even I she knew and if I told her about my birthday dinner the next week. So, do you think it sounds good for me? 2
Fair Posted February 23, 2018 Posted February 23, 2018 I'd say there's enough there to give it a go. You can't expect her to be all over you, but she's showing you respect and attention and doesn't recoil when you try to touch her. What more do you want? Go for it and ask her out. 1
maxi105 Posted February 24, 2018 Posted February 24, 2018 hey Crazy Alex, good luck with this i hope it goes real well for you. all i will say though is dont forget she is at work!! and it may not be good for her to be seen to give you too much time, also she might be a bit shy or distant if her boss is breathing down her neck or other staff are around so keep it brief and if she doenst have your number leave it for her. but its nice to hear your happiness and excitement over this . my fingers are crossed for you, but i'm sure you'll be just fine. maxi. ps, dont worry about the body signs now as youve got this far and if you start to try to look at them you may not come over as natural. her yes or no to your asking her out will give you more accurate answer than trying to remember if it was her left hand or right hand that gave you your change in store! haha...hope you have a nice date if she says yes, and i hope she does. see ya. 1
Author Crazyalex84 Posted February 25, 2018 Author Posted February 25, 2018 all i will say though is dont forget she is at work!! and it may not be good for her to be seen to give you too much time, also she might be a bit shy or distant if her boss is breathing down her neck or other staff are around so keep it brief . That's perfectly normal. That's why I'm only going there on Sundays. I figured out she is alone all day long and last time when I stayed 45 minutes, there has been no customer to interrupt us You are right, I shouldn't worry about body signs and focus on the positives things like Fair says, she does show me a certain respect and interest, she smile, laugh and always seem to be happy to see me. Do you think to bring her a coffee next time could me a good idea? thank you for your support and encouragement to both of you guys!
Imajerk17 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 (edited) That's perfectly normal. That's why I'm only going there on Sundays. I figured out she is alone all day long and last time when I stayed 45 minutes, there has been no customer to interrupt us You are right, I shouldn't worry about body signs and focus on the positives things like Fair says, she does show me a certain respect and interest, she smile, laugh and always seem to be happy to see me. Do you think to bring her a coffee next time could me a good idea? thank you for your support and encouragement to both of you guys! I would just go in and ask her on a date. As in next time you see her as the iron is hot. Get her contact info and follow up w her that way. It's great that you and she talked 45 minutes but you don't want that to become a habit, lest you end up becoming 'that really friendly customer who makes her slow days go faster' instead of someone she is dating. In fact, after talking w her for so long, she is probably wondering if/when the hell you are going to ask her out. Don't delay! Edited February 25, 2018 by Imajerk17 1
Author Crazyalex84 Posted February 25, 2018 Author Posted February 25, 2018 In fact, after talking w her for so long, she is probably wondering if/when the hell you are going to ask her out. Don't delay! Yeah I know... I was really going to ask her last time, before her friend called (the one she tried to ask if she can call her back). I didn't get her info nor added her to FB yet simply because I don't want to ask her out by SMS/Messenger. Even if we are in 2018 I don't think it's a good way to ask a girl out. It's much easier than face to face, but I think she deserve better. Thank you for your advice!
alphamale Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 So, do you think it sounds good for me? dude, you are her customer...she has to be nice to you
mortensorchid Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 I say go for it if that's what you want. Be ready for her to say no, just in case... Not to be negative but ... I've been rejected enough by others to have a negative self image of myself. Not saying that this is the case with you, just be ready.
NopeNah Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 I think you should bring her a coffee with whatever the hell coffee drinkers mix with their drink in a separate bag. Have a chat and then,on your way out, ask her to dinner sometime in the near future. If she's down,get her number and go from there. Worst case; you pay for a coffee, she says "no" and then you're not wasting your time anymore. 1
Author Crazyalex84 Posted February 25, 2018 Author Posted February 25, 2018 I think you should bring her a coffee with whatever the hell coffee drinkers mix with their drink in a separate bag. Have a chat and then,on your way out, ask her to dinner sometime in the near future. If she's down,get her number and go from there. Worst case; you pay for a coffee, she says "no" and then you're not wasting your time anymore. That's funny because that's exactly what I was thinking to do
maxi105 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 hey c/alex, maybe you should go and see her and say I was going to bring you a coffee but I wasn't sure if it was ok, so maybe you'd like to come out one time with me for a coffee or a beer or something and ask or see what she thinks about that. she will know you're caring (I'm sure she knows that anyway, but then you ask her at the same time without all of the awkwardness of a too too planned thing. if you take a coffee in it might not be the best time or she may not get a chance to drink it etc... but whatever happens I hope it goes, (or has gone) well for you. see ya. maxi
SevenCity Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 I think you should bring her a coffee with whatever the hell coffee drinkers mix with their drink in a separate bag. Have a chat and then,on your way out, ask her to dinner sometime in the near future. If she's down,get her number and go from there. Worst case; you pay for a coffee, she says "no" and then you're not wasting your time anymore. No don't bring her anything. Don't try to bribe a woman for intimacy. Instead, be a man and ask her out. If she says yes, set a definite time and place and then get her number. If she says no, don't get all butt hurt. Just say "well let me know if you change your mind". Edit: If she wants to go out with you she will regardless if you get her anything, ergo, there is no need. Doing things that are unnecessary can ruin your chances. 2
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2018 Posted February 25, 2018 Ask her for her number and express interest in taking her out. If she declines, you got your answer, you move on. You don't wait for a "signal" and all that crap. If you find a girl attractive, simply chat and ask her for her number...that is how it's done. One thing I never liked was a guy that doesn't have confidence, and I can see him wavering, or hovering around because he is too damn scared. Be bold, be confident. It's just a girl.
Author Crazyalex84 Posted February 26, 2018 Author Posted February 26, 2018 Well, it was a weird situation, but long story short: I asked her and she said "Sure why not!". Bonus points: She sounded sincere. 2
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