condor Posted August 27, 2005 Posted August 27, 2005 I met a nice girl [well as far i can tell from the emails and phone calls] online and in a week or two we are going to meet in the flesh and spend some time together....we have grown close. About a month ago she sent me an email discussing briefly how her previous boyfriends had physically abused her. I new that from the beggining of the chat, but what i fail to read into was she mentioned that she hadnt been intimate with them and in the same paragraph mentions that she for the first time its okay go ahead. Which at the time i didnt put 2 and 2 together, and thought she was talking about this long distance relationship....but could it be that she had slept with them[total time together about 3yrs] and was trying to remove the guilt... I am pulling out my hair as to what to do with the situation. I was speaking to another girl[online chat] the last week and something made think of that email. So i had a look at it again, and i am at my wits end as to what to do about it since i answered back then, then i respected her, thinking she hadnt done it. It bothers me this, because firstly i am a virgin, not a player,...yes yes i know i am odd, and i want if we do click in real life to actually make a relationship and build to something greater. I dont feel right asking her flatly, have you slept with them but at the same time when she comes i am not going to be responsive to her. Some opinions/comments.... c
Blackfrost Posted August 27, 2005 Posted August 27, 2005 Meeting each other in person will definitely help you to decide whether or not your issues will be issues anymore. Wait until after you meet her, before making any hard judgements. Cheers
RecordProducer Posted August 27, 2005 Posted August 27, 2005 I find it hard to believe that she didn't sleep with them and they physically abused her. Yet she stayed with them for three years in total. But we don't know her. Why do you want her to be a virgin? What difference does it make? There has to be a first time for everything, as you said yourself. Just meet her and see how you click. It's possible that you won't like her at all. A girl with emotional baggage will probably be more cautious.
Author condor Posted August 27, 2005 Author Posted August 27, 2005 thats the odd thing;-)...she has emotional baggage, but is prepared to stay at my place...for a couple of days. As for the part of sleeping....well i prefer she was a virgin, cause then i wont rush into trying to sleep with her...If she isnt I might do the foolish thing and sleep with her..very soon. c
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