mortensorchid Posted February 20, 2018 Posted February 20, 2018 (edited) At my first teaching job, I had a thing for another teacher in the building. It was one of the most humiliating experiences of my whole life. After I was no longer teaching there (I made the mistake of calling the administrator by her first name rather than Mrs. Smith which is a big no no in the teaching world), I texted him "Want to hang out?" He texted back "I am not interested in you romantically." I texted back "Well love makes you fat, doesn't it?" No contact since. I had enough dignity to walk away, even after I put a present in his box in the office. Don't get involved in a coworker relationship, it's too dangerous. And you know as a teacher to keep your distance from people as well, don't you? I probably don't have to tell you that. Coworkers are not friends, especially not teachers. Something changed within me after that. I lost all my faith in myself and if I have even the smallest semblance of a crush on someone, I immediately feel foolish for doing so. But those are separate issues. I may sound harsh, but trying to help. Edited February 20, 2018 by mortensorchid Additional thoughts 1
Author Millie the Cat Posted February 20, 2018 Author Posted February 20, 2018 I am not going to dwell on this crush and I will take his attention to me as boredom.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted February 20, 2018 Posted February 20, 2018 I am not going to dwell on this crush and I will take his attention to me as boredom. Good call. I have been in your situation a couple times and I would always pick up on the tiniest signals and justify that they like me. The guys never pursued me and eventually the I learned that when a man wants you, its obvious! 1
Author Millie the Cat Posted February 20, 2018 Author Posted February 20, 2018 I'm going to just be less available to talk in the morning, maybe even leaving my door closed. If he comes around and finally asks me out, great, if not, fine. 1
Author Millie the Cat Posted March 15, 2018 Author Posted March 15, 2018 New development. Today was my birthday. He knew this because yesterday he greeted me with "Hi young lady." I countered with "Thank you for making me feel young today. I will be 50 tomorrow so I wasn't feeling so young!" More chit chat, he mentioned something about himself turning 55 next month. I sort of flattered him and said "Oh I thought you were only 52." This morning I arrived and there were black balloons and ribbon hanging on my door. I figured it was placed there by some other friends I have on staff, but after checking found out that he was seen earlier in the morning taping them on my door. He stopped by after his department meeting and gave me a card and had some chit chat. He said "This will show you some of my dark humor." Then time to go to class. I opened the card after he left and it was a funny, but not romantic card with a baby and "turning the other cheek" if anyone makes fun of my age (then inside shows a bare baby bottom). OK so he has NEVER given me anything, and he 1. bought black balloons and streamers, and taped them on my door. He did a nice job, very neat (He is the manufacturing and welding teacher so he had good attention to detail.) 2. Not only stopped by to say "happy birthday" but gave me a birthday card (albeit not a romantic one). Does this seem like he might like me or does it seem more like he's still just being friendly? Still did not ask me out, no mention of it, but as we near the last quarter of the school year, this can't be bad, right? He might just be a slow mover an may be right on the cup of "making a move"?
Author Millie the Cat Posted June 17, 2018 Author Posted June 17, 2018 On the last day of school on Monday, he did come to my room. At the end of the conversation, he did say "So am I going to see you this summer?" I said "Sure!" and smiled. He then asked for my cell number and I gave it to him. Just updating you!
mortensorchid Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 On the last day of school on Monday, he did come to my room. At the end of the conversation, he did say "So am I going to see you this summer?" I said "Sure!" and smiled. He then asked for my cell number and I gave it to him. Just updating you! Well, thanks for the update on this! It certainly does seem like he's interested after the additional information on the card and wanting to see you over the summer. I hope something good happens. And all parties are SAFE in doing this. You're going down a certain path which is a bit sticky to say the least, but I wish you good luck in this.
Author Millie the Cat Posted June 17, 2018 Author Posted June 17, 2018 (edited) Thanks, mortensorchid! After the original post, I distanced myself from him by not being in my classroom much of the time, or shutting the door so he wouldn't know I was there. It's almost a week since he got my number, and he hasn't contacted me yet, but I have a feeling he's the type who will wait a couple weeks. I am not invested in this happening between him and I so much anymore that I will be devasted if he doesn't contact me, and I don't want an emotionally unavailable guy anyway. But if he does and we end up dating, that will be great. The other factor is, he resigned and is working at another school district. So we will not be coworkers anymore. Edited June 17, 2018 by Millie the Cat
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 he resigned and is working at another school district. So we will not be coworkers anymore. Yes this is why he waited to ask you for your #. Best of luck. 1
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