Love letter?

[niji]

I'm curious... as I've never been on the receiving end of an unrequited love letter. Has anyone? What did the love letter say? And what went through your mind as you read it? I wrote such a love letter to a guy a few years back, and today my best friend told me she wrote a very similar one [to a different guy of course, no drama plz], without ever knowing how I wrote my letter (never told her the details of the letter, she would have had a good time though). Seeing the similarity, I figure people having unrequited feelings probably write similar things

 

Mine and hers both went along the lines of,

 

"Hi X,

I'm so happy we've met and shared [a, b, c] experiences together; thank you for all the memories. I know you don't like me, and I realize the feelings I have for you have gotten too much, to the point I can't be your friend any more and shall remove myself from your life. I wish you all the best."

 

I wasn't strong enough to keep NC though, and he kept giving breadcrumbs, saying things like "it's not fair for me to lose your friendship". It took me 3 months before I could finally stop obsessing over "what could have been" (it helped that we were two continents apart). My best friend is much stronger than me and has maintained NC with the guy she wrote the letter to.

 

What has been everyone else's experience? Share your corny, stupid love letter and/or your feelings as someone who received such letter. Are you crept out, shocked, amused, flattered, or just down right indifferent?

Edited February 18, 2018 by niji

[Miss Spider]

My goal is to send a love letter to someone who doesn’t know that I like them. I somehow get a thrill from thought of it. I don’t know what that says about me

[carhill]

Marriage cured me of any romanticism I'd harbored prior but my innocent and ignorant declarations of love as a young man trended more to creation with a few words added for good measure.

 

The most prolific of those ended up being not so much unrequited but rather played upon by someone who ended up being married, so I sent copies of them along with her stuff to her husband. They probably got a good laugh out of that. Myself, that taught a valuable life lesson though it didn't really sink in until being married.

 

Back in those days it was real ink on real paper and the copies were, shudders, carbon.

 

Generally, IME, in my demographic anyway, women never needed to resort to such matters as men were lined up to select from. Now a few high demand males might have gotten missives, IDK, but in general men were in the lady's face not writing love letters somewhere dark and private. Snooze, lose.

[LivingWaterPlease]

Yes, I have but it's been a long time ago and I can't recall what it said. I used to have a boyfriend when I was young and foolish that I used to date, then break up with, a lot. He was devoted and would write me notes after the breakup but I no longer have them.

 

I do remember in one such unrequited love note he sent to me he posted the words to Red Rubber Ball, a song popular at that time. Here are the words to the song.

 

"I should have known

You'd bid me farewell

There's a lesson to be learned from this

And I learned it very well

Now I know you're not the only

Starfish in the sea

If I never hear your name again

It's all the same to me

 

And I think it's gonna be alright

Yeah, the worst is over now

The morning sun is shining

Like a red rubber ball

 

You never care

For secrets I confide

For you I'm just an ornament

Something for your pride

Always running, never caring

That's the life you live

Stolen minutes of your time

Were all you had to give

 

And I think it's gonna be alright

Yeah, the worst is over now

The morning sun is shining

Like a red rubber ball

 

The story's in the past

With nothing to recall

I've got my life to live

And I don't need you at all

The rollercoaster ride we took

Is nearly at an end

I bought my ticket with my tears

That's all I'm gonna spend

 

And I think it's gonna be alright

Yeah, the worst is over now

The mornin' sun is shining

Like a red rubber ball

 

Oh, I think it's gonna be alright

Yeah, the worst is over now

The mornin' sun is shining

Like a red rubber ball."

 

As I recall we got back together after that only to break up again. It truly was a rollercoaster ride.

 

Now that I think of it I may also have at least one email from a different guy who wrote of unrequited love. I'll check.

[todreaminblue]

i sent an unrequited love letter ...by sea...a message in a bottle sticky taped with silver masking tape a thousand times wrapped around it...it floated really well....i dont know where it went it might have only gone down the way a little ..it could be in china now....or somewhere in the middle of the deep blue sea in a tiger sharks belly.........

 

cant remember exactly what i wrote except that i declared my love and hopes for him.....so when i go to the ocean or the water.....and i stick my feet in ...no matter how down i get hopes i have that are unselfishly given and my love come back to me.....and the fact im a big chicken and never would have sent it because the letter would tell how soft i really am....i am not soft...i am steel.....nodding head emphatically.....steel..deb

[LivingWaterPlease]

niji, I did find a couple of emails but don't have the heart to post them.

 

PS deb, that's a beautiful post about putting your note out to sea...

[Jj66]

I have written poems and love notes. But nothing unrequited since the 4th grade. Tina was her name. You know how hard it is to make a rhyme with Tina? And in 3rd grade her name was Petula. In second grade it was Tammy. In first it was Sheila. Sheila was my first love. Lmao at the little romantic poet devil-boy I once was.

 

I have received love letters as a grown man but never from someone I haven't been at least somewhat involved with either at the time of the letter or sometime previous to it as in getting a letter from an ex.

 

One of the strangest, and also most touching, was from my school bus "girl friend" in 10th grade received 35 years later. We never even kissed but we always sat together and considered each other boyfriend and girlfriend. She moved away that summer and I lost contact with her. She found me on Facebook.

 

The letter she sent talked about how she had been physically, emotionally, and sexually abused by her father and that I and the memory of me and my kindness had been the one thing in her life that kept her going back then. I had no clue about this at the time. She told me I had been her first "love" and that she never really stopped loving me. She even told me she had named her son after me. She told me I had aged very well and lamented that she had become old and fat.

Edited February 18, 2018 by Jj66

[LuckyM]

I want to send a letter or poem to a woman but cannot. Very bad etiquette---

and I have been NC.

No way to send it anonymously--she would know who it is from. Would love to hear from her.

 

I have got a few short cryptic notes of "love"--never knew who sent them or if they were some joke.

[LivingWaterPlease]

My goal is to send a love letter to someone who doesn’t know that I like them. I somehow get a thrill from thought of it. I don’t know what that says about me

 

Hmmmm...

 

I want to send a letter or poem to a woman but cannot. Very bad etiquette---

and I have been NC.

No way to send it anonymously--she would know who it is from. Would love to hear from her.

 

I have got a few short cryptic notes of "love"--never knew who sent them or if they were some joke.

 

Cookies?

 

(j/k!)

[niji]

One of the strangest, and also most touching, was from my school bus "girl friend" in 10th grade received 35 years later. We never even kissed but we always sat together and considered each other boyfriend and girlfriend. She moved away that summer and I lost contact with her. She found me on Facebook.

 

The letter she sent talked about how she had been physically, emotionally, and sexually abused by her father and that I and the memory of me and my kindness had been the one thing in her life that kept her going back then. I had no clue about this at the time. She told me I had been her first "love" and that she never really stopped loving me. She even told me she had named her son after me. She told me I had aged very well and lamented that she had become old and fat.

 

This is a really touching read. Part of being a decent person is just making differences in people's lives even when not aware of it. You should be proud!

 

niji, I did find a couple of emails but don't have the heart to post them.

 

No worries. If they were anything like my letter, they would be very cringing to read through.

 

Part of me, when I sent that letter, was hoping that maybe he was also interested in me but too shy to declare it Most of the times though, these letters aren't a good idea because when writing one, one is typically emotional and come across as desperate (or "soft" like Deb said), when normally they're anything but. In my case, I was living on my own x 6 years without any SO (no dating during this period, too busy living life), moved to the other coast then moved back and got through professional school without family's (financial) help, and traveled the world solo. I'd like to think of myself as independent and strong, but the me in that letter was a big soft puddle. I kind of regret that letter, but more so I regret giving away something that cost $200 (I didn't give it away because it was worth a lot but because it was something I held dearly). I now just want it back. He could also just give me $200, I wouldn't turn it down

Edited February 18, 2018 by niji

[LivingWaterPlease]

niji, I don't think the letter you wrote was cringeworthy at all! I have received various letters/emails over the years, some of which were from guys who were always just friends, one from a stranger I met briefly in the office of a friend, and a couple from guys I loved in which the situation just wasn't going to work out.

 

None of them did I think were silly or cringeworthy. I wish I had kept them.

 

The particular email I found and didn't share was from one of those I loved and I wanted to honor him and the love we shared in not posting his personal feelings publicly, though anonymously.

 

There is something about being loved or cared for by someone, even when you don't share the same feelings, that spreads its sweetness over you for the rest of your life, at least for me. It's brave and generous and I think highly of a man who will do that. As for the few I loved and things didn't work out for us, for the one of them in which we parted on great terms, I will always treasure his parting words/emails to me.

 

I am certain the man you wrote the letter to feels the same way about you and that's one of the reasons he fought so hard to remain friends with you. However, going NC with him was the wise thing to do!

[mortensorchid]

I never wrote a love letter to someone that I ever sent. I wrote a few to myself that I kept in notebooks and then found at a later date, felt embarrassed, then pitched them out because I moved on from that person. I don't remember what I said in all of them.

 

I had a thing for someone a few years ago, a coworker. I put a present in his box in the office. I was rejected. Never the same since, but that's another thread.

 

Want to cry your eyes out? Watch this...

 

[mrs rubble]

I have been receiving emails and valentines cards from a man I work with for the last 10 years or so. He started sending me messages and cards after he found me on an OLD site. I quickly found out that he was married, so I would never go there, although he constantly asked. Now that I'm married he doesn't ask me so much. The crazy thing is when he see's me in person, he's too shy to say anything to me!