Babybutterfly1988 Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 Hello, I desperately need some advice to calm my brain. My ex won’t give me important an epinephrine pen back which I need in the event of allergic reaction. I could die without it, but I can’t afford more just yet. I spent two wonderful months with my ex, Harry, and we were both very into each other. He made his strong feelings for me very clear as did I. We both have horrible hang ups, I am dealing with a rape and he was physically abused as a child, and we were always honest about our feelings. Then out of the blue one day nearly two months later, I felt things begin to slip and got very insecure. Four days before he had been telling me “how great you are” but when I felt insecure, I asked him about it and was met with a wall of hostility. How good things were were how bad they were about to get. He constantly refused to meet up to talk about it and we argued by text. We made plans to meet up but that evening he said he was stuck at work - so I drove to a friends and saw him walking down the street not stuck at work!! Furious I pulled him up on it and he gave me a stupid reply, so for me it was over. A few days later I asked him if I could get my stuff, one thing being an auto injector pump I need for health reasons (which are quite expensive and not easy to get your hands on in a town like mine). He said he wanted to meet up to talk and give it back in person because he was “sad” and kept saying it, but when we arranged to meet, he simply didn’t show. Heartbroken, I sent him some drunken messages about how I’d not been dealing with my rape very well and I was altogether a mess. He got angry, telling me he “didn’t have time” to deal with my stuff and he knows if sounds callous but he doesnt want me unloading my problems to him. I said some horrific things too and he said he’d get my injector dropped to my office that week. Suffice to say, this was two weeks ago and it never arrived. This week I got a late night text from him saying “I’m sorry xx” and he posted me a link to our song, the lyrics include phrases like “come home”. I took a couple of days to reply and asked him what he meant, he said he was sorry we didn’t work out. I apologised for the nasty stuff I said before telling him I desperately need my medicine, now radio silence, and that was yesterday morning. I understand he’s trying to assert control, or holding onto a part of me so we always have a reason to talk. It’s stupid and ridiculous and I don’t know how to deal with this. I miss him but know he’s got too many demons to be with someone right now, and I don’t want to feel like I’m chasing him for my medication as we will just argue again and I will get upset. What do I do???? We have no mutual friends. Thank you
Art_Critic Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 (edited) Th epi-pen you get with a prescription, so go get another.. they are like 75 or so bucks.. and don't you have more than one ? most people who have have the need for one that has deadly consequences will have 2 of them.. don't they come in packages of 2 ? Don't contact your ex, move on from this and get another pen. Breakups suck.. sorry you are hurting.. it will get better and there will be a better guy for you right around the corner Edited February 17, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Babybutterfly1988 Posted February 17, 2018 Author Posted February 17, 2018 I can’t really afford another one, 75 bucks is a lot to me I do have one but you sometimes need two doses of epinephrine to counteract anaphylaxis
Art_Critic Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 All you can do is ask for it back, if he doesn't then you need to go get another, like you said.. it could have deadly consequences and the responsibility for your medicine is you. I'm not sure why he won't give it to you, in the end it doesn't matter since you can just go get another one... and why was the pen not on your person ?
Art_Critic Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 BTW, like another poster mentioned, if you went and filed a police report or just went down and had them call him you would get your pen back... To me that is more effort than it's worth but if you can't afford another then that is an avenue..
losangelena Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 Can you speak with your prescribing doctor?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 I'd call the police for this matter. He's not going to get arrested, but they can go over there calmly and retrieve your epi-pen.
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 Actually without insurance they are more like $500. Get your pharmacy to give you the full price cost. Then call the police & report the theft. Tell them you just want your medicine back. If you don't live in a major metro area they will probably go get it for you without necessarily charging him with unlawful conversion / theft. If you are close to your family you can also try sending a father or brother over if that won't cause a fist fight. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 In addition for him to be in possession of that medicine which requires a prescription is a crime all by itself. The police will help you. Since it's a life saving expensive drug for you, do get them involved & don't worry about the consequences to him. It would be easy for him to return the medicine. He's being a world class jerk for not doing so & he deserves what happens to him. 1
springy Posted February 17, 2018 Posted February 17, 2018 Skip past all the relationship/breakup talk and tell him plainly that you wish to resolve this issue without drama - that if he doesn't get your medication back to you by a certain date you will be forced to get the police involved. Give him until that date to cough up the meds and then move forward with getting the police to assist you. Those epi pens are not cheap. If you aren't willing to go that route and he isn't willing to give it back to you I guess you're sol...or you'll have to scrape together funds to get your script refilled. 1
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