customer service.......not with woman.

[hoppy28]

my job requires me to deal with people. on the phone and in person. my title is customer service. being in the field im in(people with disablities) i feel the need to be extra understanding, open, friendly, etc. i have met some wonderfull people through this. what amazes me is the very happy lives alot of them allow themselves to live even though being handicapped. who am i to complain??

i find it very very easy to talk with customers/vendors. in person and on the phone. im very upbeat, caring, funny, etc. people enjoy talking with me and ive got my own "following" of customers now. some of the "female" contacts i have through vendors always seem to enjoy my "phone" personality. to be totally honest i hate the phone. so its kinda wierd.

 

when it comes to my "out of work life" i am so not this way. i become a "shy" person. you would think with all my "customer service" i would easily be able to go up to a girl and talk to her. im attractive, confident but not cocky but that only seems to be at work. when i go out im usually the "reserved guy" and take what falls into my lap. im 28 and have been in 4 2-3 year long relationships with a handfull short term ones in between. to be honest i never had to persue any of these relationships. they just fell in my lap. is this part of my problem???

 

ive never been in the "dating seen" really. unless you consider my past experience with woman "dating". isnt dating..................going out with multiple people to see whom you see as a potential life partner?? usually you go through some very long relationships to find out there not "the one". is that dating??

 

do i need to learn some better "customer(woman)service??"

[Mary3]

I think you have a natural calling for customer service and you are proud of your customers who have overcome their dissabilites.

 

Could we all cope the same way if it were us ?

 

It sounds like you are normally shy and have been in long term relationships and now you are single and have to be on the dating scene.

 

 

Your customers sound like you really like them and they love your quick banter and wit.

 

I would silently pratice on the female customers and if you find one attractive just give her a big smile.

 

Can you date the customers ?

 

Or is that a No No ?

[MWC_LifeBeginsAt40]

I am a shy person. But I've also noticed that I am not shy when I'm on the phone especially with people I don't know. I'm even less shy if I know I'm probably never going to interact with that person again.

 

But like you, and alot of others, we are alot more reserved and self conscious around a potential date because we feel that one dorky move will turn them away.

 

Do I have any advice? Not really, but you are not alone.

[hoppy28]

i wouldnt date any of our customers..........................