She sent a valentines text after 6 weeks of no contact after stopping our dating

[fmfan08]

I think she still likes you, and probably was waiting for your happy Vday text.

You didn't text her that so at the end of the day she sent you one

 

I'm not sure. We hadn't spoken for a good six weeks so I can't understand why either of us would be on each other's mind. It makes sense because she sent it right at the end of the day, but then again she made things clear a while ago. Plus, that was two days ago and I haven't heard anything else which I'm glad about because I can forget about it.

[fmfan08]

She still likes you in some way. Maybe she regrets her decision and is wondering if you're still interested in her. She hoped for a Valentine's message and when you didn't send one, decided to do it. Maybe she's hoping this will open the door for you to reach out to her.

 

Or maybe she was trying to be nice. Maybe hoping to keep you as a second choice.

 

There's no way of knowing her motive. You're no longer interested, but if you are, you need to be careful. The second time is often no different than the first. She might reach out again.

 

If she asked to meet up, I'll admit I wouldn't say no, but I'm not going to chase anything due to her rejecting me previously. She could've just been trying to be nice as I've not heard anything else from her.

 

However, I do have my facebook profile viewable to the public (we never added each other on it) which mentions me posting a news article of how I stopped a knife crime and then a status about me having a job interview. That might've intrigued her.

 

I'm not sure why she'd be expecting one from me when we've been no contact for 6 weeks though? Seems a little odd.

 

My gut feeling with things these past few months have been correct. I just got the sense there was another guy she preferred and that I'm the option. Like you guys say, I want to be a priority not an option!

[Highndry]

Definitely qualifies as one of those annoying "breadcrumbs" - low effort feelers to see if you're still on a string. Best to ignore them, as somebody who's mature and interested would put forth real effort.

[olivetree]

The girl liked you when she ended things.

She wanted MORE from you, not less.

 

So yeah, she probably still likes you and wants you to know she's still thinking of you in case you feel like stepping things up with her.

[kendahke]

she probably sent that out in a batch text of her phone list and didn't realize you're still in her directory. I say that because it wasn't personalized or directed solely at you.

 

I wouldn't put any energy behind it, other than blocking her if you don't want to hear from her anymore; and since you're deleting her texts, that means you're not interested in what she has to say, so why not just block her?

[Purrrfect]

I would have deleted it and not responded.

[fmfan08]

she probably sent that out in a batch text of her phone list and didn't realize you're still in her directory. I say that because it wasn't personalized or directed solely at you.

 

I wouldn't put any energy behind it, other than blocking her if you don't want to hear from her anymore; and since you're deleting her texts, that means you're not interested in what she has to say, so why not just block her?

 

To do that on an iPhone, she would have to select my name, then press "message". You have to add contacts individually to send a batch text which takes a LOT of effort on an iPhone.

[fmfan08]

I would have deleted it and not responded.

 

I do wish I had not responded, but I know had I mentioned that on here everyone would've been like "why didn't you respond". I always do the opposite of what's right.

[lily999]

I'm not sure. We hadn't spoken for a good six weeks so I can't understand why either of us would be on each other's mind. It makes sense because she sent it right at the end of the day, but then again she made things clear a while ago. Plus, that was two days ago and I haven't heard anything else which I'm glad about because I can forget about it.

 

I think she still liked you when she ended thing. She thought you didn't give her enough attention that was why "she saw it as more friends than dating". But you took it as she was not interested and cut it off.

 

She hasn't found someone yet so you are still on her mind, it is normal.

I was waiting for the guy I like to contact me on Valentine's day, but he didn't. I had decided to send him a happy valentine's day at the end of the day if I didn't receive one from him. But I didn't. She reached out to you。 so from my perspective, she still thinks of you

[fmfan08]

I think she still liked you when she ended thing. She thought you didn't give her enough attention that was why "she saw it as more friends than dating". But you took it as she was not interested and cut it off.

 

She hasn't found someone yet so you are still on her mind, it is normal.

I was waiting for the guy I like to contact me on Valentine's day, but he didn't. I had decided to send him a happy valentine's day at the end of the day if I didn't receive one from him. But I didn't. She reached out to you。 so from my perspective, she still thinks of you

 

It was the initial impression I was getting, but then that was 3 days ago and I've had nothing else since so I have no idea. I'd be open to dating again but I'm not chasing after something. If I ever get a text in the future I'll probably ask on here whether I should respond or not depending on what she says, but for now I'll move on.

[SevenCity]

The last girl I dated (who broke up with me) sent me a happy Valentine's Day text with one of those nicely done images. I responded wishing her the same.

 

That escalated into me stating to reach out if she wants sex again and she said that part is over no exceptions but we can be friends. I responded saying I have enough friends but call me if she ever wants to have sex.

 

A couple days later she sent me some pornographic images saying "I miss when you did this to me. You were my best sex ever". I invited her over but she didn't take me up on it.

 

I don't care either way but left the door open. I was able to do this because I don't have an emotional attachment to her.

 

Point is it could be her looking for an ego boost, or it could be that she still likes you. In my example she was a very sexual woman which is why I was so forward with her. I would have handled it more tactfully if she wasn't.

 

If you still like her I would have invited her over. There is nothing wrong or wimpy about stating what you feel. Her response (or lack of response) would have given you your answer.

 

Women are (typically) not very forward and will often test by a low risk text. Having interest is nothing to be ashamed about.

 

However, if you have an emotional attachment I would agree not to be an option and block.

[fmfan08]

The last girl I dated (who broke up with me) sent me a happy Valentine's Day text with one of those nicely done images. I responded wishing her the same.

 

That escalated into me stating to reach out if she wants sex again and she said that part is over no exceptions but we can be friends. I responded saying I have enough friends but call me if she ever wants to have sex.

 

A couple days later she sent me some pornographic images saying "I miss when you did this to me. You were my best sex ever". I invited her over but she didn't take me up on it.

 

I don't care either way but left the door open. I was able to do this because I don't have an emotional attachment to her.

 

Point is it could be her looking for an ego boost, or it could be that she still likes you. In my example she was a very sexual woman which is why I was so forward with her. I would have handled it more tactfully if she wasn't.

 

If you still like her I would have invited her over. There is nothing wrong or wimpy about stating what you feel. Her response (or lack of response) would have given you your answer.

 

Women are (typically) not very forward and will often test by a low risk text. Having interest is nothing to be ashamed about.

 

However, if you have an emotional attachment I would agree not to be an option and block.

 

A few weeks ago I would've had an emotional attachment, but I do not now. I deleted my OLD account and temporarily retired from dating to focus on myself so I'm not exactly looking for anything. If a girl came into my life and it clicked naturally, then sure.

 

I've not heard anything else from her since Valentine's Day so maybe it was just a text she was sending to everyone rather than me personally. I wouldn't want to get my hopes up and I believe if she did still like me, she'd reach out with more effort. I would if I was the one to reject her, but she rejected me in the first place so I believe it's up to her to make that effort, imo.

[joeLove]

Would you bang her if the opportunity presented itself? Just curious !!! Do you have any feelings for her at all? any !!!

[Yosemite]

However, I do have my facebook profile viewable to the public (we never added each other on it) which mentions me posting a news article of how I stopped a knife crime and then a status about me having a job interview. That might've intrigued her.

 

What?! This is way more interesting than some random Valentine’s Day message. How exactly did you stop a knife crime??

 

BTW, I guarantee the amount of time you’ve spent thinking about this V-day message is about a billion times more thought than she put into it before she sent it. It was just a random message, it means nothing. If you do believe that it means something, text her and ask if she wants to get drinks. I’m guessing that you’ll get no response or get turned down...which wouldn't be the end of the world by the way. It would probably be a net positive for you because you could stop thinking about it and move on. Until Arbor Day. When she sends you a Happy Arbor Day message. J/K...just ask her out if you care this much.

[NopeNah]

The last girl I dated (who broke up with me) sent me a happy Valentine's Day text with one of those nicely done images. I responded wishing her the same.

 

That escalated into me stating to reach out if she wants sex again and she said that part is over no exceptions but we can be friends. I responded saying I have enough friends but call me if she ever wants to have sex.

 

A couple days later she sent me some pornographic images saying "I miss when you did this to me. You were my best sex ever". I invited her over but she didn't take me up on it.

 

I don't care either way but left the door open. I was able to do this because I don't have an emotional attachment to her.

 

Point is it could be her looking for an ego boost, or it could be that she still likes you. In my example she was a very sexual woman which is why I was so forward with her. I would have handled it more tactfully if she wasn't.

 

If you still like her I would have invited her over. There is nothing wrong or wimpy about stating what you feel. Her response (or lack of response) would have given you your answer.

 

Women are (typically) not very forward and will often test by a low risk text. Having interest is nothing to be ashamed about.

 

However, if you have an emotional attachment I would agree not to be an option and block.

Like a boss!

[fmfan08]

Would you bang her if the opportunity presented itself? Just curious !!! Do you have any feelings for her at all? any !!!

 

If a fwb option came along then I don't know, for me it's either a proper relationship or none at all. I don't really like an inbetween, but that would get rid of any pressure I guess.

 

It's more so a feeling of "what could've been" but then I also think "if it was meant to be it would've happened and I'll probably find someone who's a better fit". Those thoughts do cross my mind. I do care about her too, if anything was to happen to her, etc. She didn't do anything wrong by leaving things because that's how she felt at that time and I respect her for being honest.

[fmfan08]

What?! This is way more interesting than some random Valentine’s Day message. How exactly did you stop a knife crime??

 

BTW, I guarantee the amount of time you’ve spent thinking about this V-day message is about a billion times more thought than she put into it before she sent it. It was just a random message, it means nothing. If you do believe that it means something, text her and ask if she wants to get drinks. I’m guessing that you’ll get no response or get turned down...which wouldn't be the end of the world by the way. It would probably be a net positive for you because you could stop thinking about it and move on. Until Arbor Day. When she sends you a Happy Arbor Day message. J/K...just ask her out if you care this much.

 

I run a store and I got a sense this guy was a little whacko. He bought a kitchen knife and walked into the store opposite. In a different area of our country, someone got stabbed in the store with the same name so I just called the police. Turned out it took 6 officers to down him with a taser ready and he had stabbed four people previously.

 

I thought the text was random, considering she rejected me. Surely by common sense, she'd have feared "getting my hopes up" and possibly wanted me to ask her out so she could reject me again for a sense of power. If I get rejected, I don't ask them out unless they ask me out so I'll forget about it and appreciate the nice gesture. I was myself around her and if she wasn't feeling it then fair enough, wasn't meant to be. I think it didn't help that I'd gone through quite a few dates and was feeling lethargic over the whole process of dating though.

[CatMinx]

By dropping off and allowing her to initiaiate most of the time, she likely assumed that you were losing interest. Did you ever actually TELL her why you don’t like texting? Or did you leave her to make assumptions on her own?

 

If you set a precedent for contact in the beginning of a relationship and then suddenly change it with no warning, many people take that as being slow faded. This could have played on her insecurities, which is why she became needier.