Private123 Posted February 13, 2018 Posted February 13, 2018 I met this guy on match. We live two hours apart. I gave him my number and told me to text me if he is interested in continuing to talk because my online subscription ended. He texted me and we went back and forth for like a week without any word about meeting in person. I was going to be in his area and asked if he would like to meet. He said definitely, so we met, he kissed, like pecked kissed afterwards. He messaged me and said that he had a good time. He continued to text me and over the course of the next several days I told him again that I would be in his area, so we set a time to meet all while he continued to text me, almost daily. We met yesterday and it seem to go well, he used some touge while kissing me, which I didn't reciprocate. He text me saying that it was nice to see me again and texted me throughout the night, without a mention of meeting again. There's no way I'm asking to meet him a third time and I'm not going to be a penpal buddy through text-message for much longer. Question: should I say something? How long should I continue to talk to him without additional plans? He seems really interested and does tend to try to emulate me, whatever that might mean, and "kind of shyish", but he's a grown man, is the writing on the wall? Should I not reply at all? He just asked me how my day was ?
act00 Posted February 13, 2018 Posted February 13, 2018 Two hours' distance is a lot, and I don't know how well this is going to work if you're thinking long-term and serious. Why didn't you let loose your tongue? Are you fearful of a good makeout session? Do you expect no touching, no open mouth kissing, no affection for 6.4 weeks? He doesn't seem too keen on traveling to you. At this point, I don't see any harm in asking him what he wants and if he feels he can make the travel to see you, which should include the discussion of lodging, if he doesn't want to drive home after your date, and I'm guessing you won't want him as a house-guest just yet. He is in it or he isn't. Two hours is a lot, and he doesn't seem in it. At this point, you have nothing to lose by putting your cards on the table and asking him what he wants and what he expects and if he's willing to split the travel time. He'll either step up to the plate or run like the wind. The fact you couldn't so much as french kiss him after date number two might make him feel you're not interested. I have gone through the pen-pal fiasco, and if he doesn't show some initiative, no more. You've gone the distance twice, figuratively and literally. Don't ask for another. His turn. 1
I'veseenbetterlol Posted February 13, 2018 Posted February 13, 2018 Two hours' distance is a lot, and I don't know how well this is going to work if you're thinking long-term and serious. Why didn't you let loose your tongue? Are you fearful of a good makeout session? Do you expect no touching, no open mouth kissing, no affection for 6.4 weeks? He doesn't seem too keen on traveling to you. At this point, I don't see any harm in asking him what he wants and if he feels he can make the travel to see you, which should include the discussion of lodging, if he doesn't want to drive home after your date, and I'm guessing you won't want him as a house-guest just yet. He is in it or he isn't. Two hours is a lot, and he doesn't seem in it. At this point, you have nothing to lose by putting your cards on the table and asking him what he wants and what he expects and if he's willing to split the travel time. He'll either step up to the plate or run like the wind. The fact you couldn't so much as french kiss him after date number two might make him feel you're not interested. I have gone through the pen-pal fiasco, and if he doesn't show some initiative, no more. You've gone the distance twice, figuratively and literally. Don't ask for another. His turn. I def agree on this! I had pursued a long distance relationship, it lasted about half a year, but mainly cause I made a ton of effort flying out (yeah stupid, I know). I didn't have the patience to wait on him to do things for me and honestly just lost out on time and money. Def let him make a move, only then you will know if he is interested.
Miss Spider Posted February 13, 2018 Posted February 13, 2018 I agree with act00. Might not have met at all if you didn't come to them. Also 2 hours is a long way. Find someone closer. 1
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