Val230 Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 I planned to go on a date with this guy I recently met tomorrow. Tonight he texted me telling me how he wants to see me. But he told me that he was broke at the moment and needed $20. (I live 10-15 mins away from him) so, I was shocked. I know not everyone would agree but isn’t it kinda weird for him to ask? I mean, especially on the first date. Would love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this.
grays Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Yup. That would worry me. Not so much that he doesn't have money, but that he wasn't resourceful enough to find another way to handle it or didn't realize how inappropriate and offputting that is. 2
Scarlett.O'hara Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 My advice would be the same for male or female. If someone asks you for money to go on a date with them, cancel the date. 13
darkmoon Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 My advice would be the same for male or female. If someone asks you for money to go on a date with them' date=' cancel the date.[/quote'] why cancel?
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Way weird! Don't think I'd even respond to that request. If i did respond, though, I'd keep it short. Such as, "I don't think it's a good idea for me to provide gas for your car." Or even, "I don't think it's a good idea." Or, "I don't think so." Or, "No." Or, "Nah." Or, "Lol!" Or, ":lmao:." 2
MidwestUSA Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Way weird! Don't think I'd even respond to that request. If i did respond, though, I'd keep it short. Such as, "I don't think it's a good idea for me to provide gas for your car." Or even, "I don't think it's a good idea." Or, "I don't think so." Or, "No." Or, "Nah." Or, "Lol!" Or, ":lmao:." How about 'Oh, snap!'? 3
basil67 Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 At best he's a user and at worst he's a scam artist. Avoid at all costs. 5
guest569 Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 I hope you cancelled it. This is ridiculous. What was the date going to be? 3
alphamale Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 At best he's a user and at worst he's a scam artist. Avoid at all costs. ^^^this^^^ 2
Arieswoman Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Val230, I hope you cancelled the date. If he lives 15/20 mins away surely he could walk to somewhere midway to meet you? If he can't afford gas for his car how can he afford to take you out? I smell a user here... 4
girlinNYC Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 (edited) If he uses your $20 for gas, how will he afford the rest of the date? Red flag. Cancel. Go on a date with a guy who can orchestrate a date properly, 99% can. Edited February 12, 2018 by girlinNYC typo 2
Gaeta Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 $20 bucks of gas is enough for him to drive on several dates even dates with other women. If he cannot figure out how to get to your first date then he isn't smart or resourceful enough to be on a date with you. Cancel. 5
Rockdad Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Does this guy have a job? Does he have his own place? Is he in College or still live with parents? 1
Author Val230 Posted February 12, 2018 Author Posted February 12, 2018 I hope you cancelled it. This is ridiculous. What was the date going to be? He never even told me what we’re going to do on the date. Before he asked for the gas money I asked him what he planned for us to do. He said he didn’t know and that we could just “chill and get to know each other.”
MidwestUSA Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 He never even told me what we’re going to do on the date. Before he asked for the gas money I asked him what he planned for us to do. He said he didn’t know and that we could just “chill and get to know each other.” Ah, yes. The old 'chill date'. You'll pay for the condoms too, I guess. Put him on ignore. 16
Author Val230 Posted February 12, 2018 Author Posted February 12, 2018 Does this guy have a job? Does he have his own place? Is he in College or still live with parents? From what he’s told me, he has a job. He’s not in school at the moment. I don’t think he lives with his parents though, I think he has a place with some roommates.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Definitely cancel this date unless you're ok with financing this date and all future dates. Also, how did he propose you get this money to him? Paypal? 3
kendahke Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 I planned to go on a date with this guy I recently met tomorrow. Tonight he texted me telling me how he wants to see me. But he told me that he was broke at the moment and needed $20. (I live 10-15 mins away from him) so, I was shocked. I know not everyone would agree but isn’t it kinda weird for him to ask? I mean, especially on the first date. Would love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this. Yes. Not only weird, but highly inappropriate. Would he go up to a strange male and ask him for $20? Why is it OK to do that with you? You're a stranger to him, too. That would turn me off and I'd block him. 2
Zahara Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 From what he’s told me, he has a job. He’s not in school at the moment. I don’t think he lives with his parents though, I think he has a place with some roommates. Don't start by setting the bar so low for yourself. Move on from this one. 6
kendahke Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 OP--have you met this guy in person yet, or has all your conversation taken place on phone apps/texts?
preraph Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Just cancel. If he asked you out, it's up to him to take care of the expenses. And now you already know you aren't interested, so just cancel and block him. Or just block him. He'll know why. Then he can come on here and complain about golddiggers. Hah. He's pulling this on a first date so he's a jerk, number one, and possibly or possibly not broke, number two. Who needs it? 4
Author Val230 Posted February 12, 2018 Author Posted February 12, 2018 OP--have you met this guy in person yet, or has all your conversation taken place on phone apps/texts? I haven’t met him in person yet. All our convos have been on the phone.
kendahke Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 I haven’t met him in person yet. All our convos have been on the phone. That's even worse. It's borderline catfish/scammer rhetoric. I seriously doubt he even lives in the country--you can use google to manufacture a local telephone number to hide where you're really at. 2
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