jj993 Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 So I went on (what I thought) was a great hiking/dinner second date with a girl I met on OKC yesterday. It was really fun, and despite a couple lulls in the conversation (which felt natural to me, as it was a long drive) the conversation flowed really well. I went in for the kiss at the end when I went to drop her off, and it was a quick one that ended up being a little awkward because our noses hit and it just felt rushed. But it seemed that we both took it as a cute accident, and she said she'd see me soon. I was telling her about a club at our college that she should join that I'm in, and she said she was going to try to make the meeting on Wednesday as she really wanted to join. So today I texted her saying that I had a great time and I hoped to see her Wednesday and never got a response. I'm not sure to take this as disinterest or just a text that didn't need a reply. I want to ask her if she's free to grab a drink Wednesday after the meeting, but I don't really want to spring it on her as we're both super busy people and I want her to be able to adjust her schedule if needed. I was going to wait until tomorrow night to text her about it. Is that too much? Ugh. I hate this part of dating.
sn3akerlover Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 (edited) I'd personally take it as slight disinterest since you expressed you had a good time with her and she didn't reciprocate. I'd wait until Tuesday night to text her saying something like "You should join me for drinks tomorrow at (insert time and place)". Don't bring up the club meeting again since you don't want her to feel like your jamming that down her throat. In my experience if she texts you back with an excuse she isn't interested. However, if she texts you back suggesting another time or date THEN she's interested (Besides wanting to go out with you that night of course). Either way chalk it up to experience my friend. Easier said than done. Edited February 12, 2018 by sn3akerlover
olivetree Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 I have been known to be hard to read / aloof in the beginning. Even so, if I was interested in a man, I would reply to that... maybe not a whole sentence but with SOMETHING. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 This may be slightly off topic, but do a lot of college students use dating apps? Isn't it easy enough to meet people your own age simply BECAUSE you're in college with people the same age? I guess I'm showing my age, but I'm always surprised when I hear about college kids using dating apps. When I was in college I don't think I would have done that. (But I also went to a pretty small liberal arts college so I probably would have been afraid of being "seen" on a dating app). 1
winny Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Don't even bother over thinking about this. It was only 2nd date. Continue talking to other girls... and just chill. If she is interested then she should have responded to that text.
winny Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 This may be slightly off topic, but do a lot of college students use dating apps? Isn't it easy enough to meet people your own age simply BECAUSE you're in college with people the same age? I guess I'm showing my age, but I'm always surprised when I hear about college kids using dating apps. When I was in college I don't think I would have done that. (But I also went to a pretty small liberal arts college so I probably would have been afraid of being "seen" on a dating app). You should see the students in my class... LOL so boring. Everyone in school uses dating apps. 1
newyorker11356 Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 This may be slightly off topic, but do a lot of college students use dating apps? Isn't it easy enough to meet people your own age simply BECAUSE you're in college with people the same age? I guess I'm showing my age, but I'm always surprised when I hear about college kids using dating apps. When I was in college I don't think I would have done that. (But I also went to a pretty small liberal arts college so I probably would have been afraid of being "seen" on a dating app). I was in college, and no, wasn't really THAT easy to meet interested people that wanted to date. Always seemed like the women I was into weren't into me, or were simply too busy to date (which is/was understandable). Then again, I went to a commuter school in Manhattan, so that didn't help either. 1
Author jj993 Posted February 12, 2018 Author Posted February 12, 2018 This may be slightly off topic, but do a lot of college students use dating apps? Isn't it easy enough to meet people your own age simply BECAUSE you're in college with people the same age? I guess I'm showing my age, but I'm always surprised when I hear about college kids using dating apps. When I was in college I don't think I would have done that. (But I also went to a pretty small liberal arts college so I probably would have been afraid of being "seen" on a dating app). There's not that many outside of Tinder, but still are some that do. I'm a non-traditional student who just moved up here and works on the weekends so it's probably the easiest way to meet potential dates. 1
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