FOBolous Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 1 month too soon...? or two months? or when you know, you know?
Highndry Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 For me, I'm not sleeping with a gal who's sleeping with other guys, so that's what's going to determine "exclusivity."
basil67 Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 1 month too soon...? or two months? or when you know, you know? Depends on how you define "commit". To me, commitment means that you both see a strong potential for a long term relationship and promise to work through issues together. I couldn't get to this stage until I'd been with someone for at least a year. I'd want to know the good, the bad and the ugly before making any kind of a promise. However, I would be exclusive quickly. Like after a few dates. Seeing just each other and working towards figuring out if we have something worth committing to. 2
Author FOBolous Posted February 11, 2018 Author Posted February 11, 2018 Depends on how you define "commit". To me, commitment means that you both see a strong potential for a long term relationship and promise to work through issues together. I couldn't get to this stage until I'd been with someone for at least a year. I'd want to know the good, the bad and the ugly before making any kind of a promise. However, I would be exclusive quickly. Like after a few dates. Seeing just each other and working towards figuring out if we have something worth committing to. yea...by "commit," i mean being exclusive.
basil67 Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 yea...by "commit," i mean being exclusive. So, in that case, quite quickly. But don't make the mistake of thinking that being exclusive equals commitment 2
winny Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 So, in that case, quite quickly. But don't make the mistake of thinking that being exclusive equals commitment Why is this so confusing... Life should be simple.. LOL 1
snowboy91 Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 So, in that case, quite quickly. But don't make the mistake of thinking that being exclusive equals commitment It is a type of commitment though - a commitment to only sleep with and date that one person. I see what you mean though - but after exclusivity I think commitment tends to evolve slowly in a lot of cases. But once it reaches a certain point that's when a ring is given. To answer the first question though, you would ask for exclusivity when you know enough about that person that you feel you have potential for a relationship to evolve. Which typically happens after a few weeks to a couple of months, depending on how often you see each other. There isn't a set time or number of dates - if you feel you should, then ask. 1
girlinNYC Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Keep it simple. If you like each other then agree to be exclusive i.e. only seeing each other and see where it leads. No games, just simplicity. Everyone remains sane that way. 1
todreaminblue Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 i agree with girlinnyc...keep it simple and it will happen....timing isnt important it depends on when you both feel its time could be two weeks could be a month.....it just matters thats its a mutual thing and both are feeling it......no games need to be played....just simple honesty..deb
Chuck Woolery Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Let the female bring it up..if you are the guy just lead and have fun
Gaeta Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Exclusivity can be discussed as early as 4 to 6 weeks if you have seen each other on regular basis. A commitment is when you've learn enough about them that you know you can trust them and you are willing to go above and beyond to help them with what ever.
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