Ex has contacted my daughter not his but why ???

[Lostsoul1234]

So long story short, dated a guy for 2 years he was close to my daughter and treated her better than her own does, they were close but I was on with that she looked up to him and my daughter has always missed that type of relationship with her own dad as his quite a cold man.

Anyway me and my partner split up and it was hard on us all but we kept arguing and his drinking was getting worse, I never had bad feelings towards him but he blocked me on everything and we both just got on with our own lives my daughter is now 19 nearly 20 and my ex contacted her on twitter asking how she was beth told me straight away and as she an adult o can’t really stop her chatting to him.

But I don’t get why now after 2 years he has a girlfriend and his told my daughter she’s ok with him chatting to her ( I wouldn’t be if i was her ) anyway he has asked my daughter to ask me if he can meet up with her and asked if I was on with this he has a son from previous and said it would be nice for him to see her and his son.

I have told

My daughter I’m not comfortable with this as it’s not fair on his new girlfriend or me or my daughter as his not her dad even though he did step up as one when we was together.

So I emailed my ex telling him I wasn’t comfy with them meeting up as it’s not fair On anyone to do this he was very understanding saying he understood and he said I’m sorry I haven’t been there but things happen in life that make you realise life is too short he went on to tell me his having a prostrate check so I told him I hoped all goes ok chatting to her I can’t stop not to respect

All others on mind and not to persue meeting up with her. He was very understanding and nice about everything that’s the first time we have spoke since are break up.

 

Now why now and how with someone she’s not his daughter he has a son and a new girlfriend it’s been 2 years now nearly 3

 

Any advice would be appreciated this is uncommon ground for me

[Gaeta]

I think you should let adult people decide on their own what is fair and what's not. If your daughter has good memories of this man then let her see him. This has nothing to do with you.

 

Why? who cares, you don't get to understand every little secret of life. Maybe he feels remorse, maybe he misses her, maybe he just wants to remain in touch with her. You said he filled his duty as a step father then what is wrong with them keeping contact? If your daughter was 10 years old I'd understand you don't want men in and out of her life playing daddy but she's an adult now. She gets to decide who has value to her.