LightNecro Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 I can never tell anymore. There’s this girl in my university that I’ve been crushing on for the past month and she seems amazing, but I’m having a hard time interpreting her signals. She has a naturally jubilant attitude and comforting presence. When we first met, she approached me and one of the things she told me was that I have “a very positive vibe” and that she admired how “confident” and “brilliant” I am in class. Whenever I hit her up on Facebook, she’s so quick to respond and uses a lot of “!”. The conversations are pretty upbeat for the most part. She’s definitely engrossed in church and her studies, so im not sure she’s looking for a boyfriend, but the thing is I wouldn’t mind waiting for a girl like her for the future. Worst case scenario is that I have a new friend, and best case scenario, things work out. I’m just not sure if I’m reading too deep into her cues, or she is just being friendly with me.
newyorker11356 Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 I can never tell anymore. There’s this girl in my university that I’ve been crushing on for the past month and she seems amazing, but I’m having a hard time interpreting her signals. She has a naturally jubilant attitude and comforting presence. When we first met, she approached me and one of the things she told me was that I have “a very positive vibe” and that she admired how “confident” and “brilliant” I am in class. Whenever I hit her up on Facebook, she’s so quick to respond and uses a lot of “!”. The conversations are pretty upbeat for the most part. She’s definitely engrossed in church and her studies, so im not sure she’s looking for a boyfriend, but the thing is I wouldn’t mind waiting for a girl like her for the future. Worst case scenario is that I have a new friend, and best case scenario, things work out. I’m just not sure if I’m reading too deep into her cues, or she is just being friendly with me. Why not just ask her out on a date? You'll get your answer one way or another. 2
smackie9 Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 This is what confident men do...ask women out they like. They don't care about "signals". 2
Maggie4 Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 Worst case scenario is that I have a new friend... Oh I'd hardly call that worst case scenario!
alphamale Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 This is what confident men do...ask women out they like. They don't care about "signals". when it comes to dating and mating it's women who do the choosing
newyorker11356 Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 when it comes to dating and mating it's women who do the choosing Yeah, because a guy has absolutely no say in the matter either Both do the choosing.
act00 Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 I'm going to leap straight into the religion. Be careful on pursuing a relationship with someone who is highly religious. Are you the same religion? Are you equally committed to your faith (also highly religious)? Are you willing or able to commit and convert to her religion? Are you willing to live her religion with the same high level of commitment, follow the tenets, and raise your children as such? How deeply committed is she in her faith and how important is it to her that you (or her potential spouse) are equally committed and of the same faith? Ask her out. You won't know where she's at until you do, and from there, you'll also figure out what she's seeking as far as her faith is concerned. She sounds busy, so you'll have to determine if she can give you what you want as far as time and if her busy lifestyle will work for you and your relationship...or how long will you be willing to wait until things slow down or you become a higher priority? Be wary, depending on her faith, if she's dating to convert. "Date and dunk "(baptize) comes to mind, and "flirt to convert"...yes, this is a real phenomenon. 1
kkm994 Posted February 11, 2018 Posted February 11, 2018 Depends how you come off to a girl,it can be one of the following: 1) friend 2)bf material There is a possibility she might perceive you as just a "friend"!
CrosstimbersOkie Posted February 12, 2018 Posted February 12, 2018 Grow some nuts dude and let her know you're interested in her sexually. You don't have to have sex, but she needs to know the truth. She obviously felt there was chemistry between you. It's very hard to get out of the friend zone once you're there. She'll think of you as that nice guy who kisses her ass and does stuff for her just because. Or she'll think of you as another one of her girlfriends if you aren't careful. Stay out of the friend zone.
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