april Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 For the women ....... Mistakes you sometimes make when attempting to communicate with men. Assuming - - that he knows what you want or expect. Begging for him to "give you" what you want. Convincing - trying to make him feel the way you do. Bullying - bullying him into your way of thinking. You'll be beating up against a brick wall, and will not have much long-term success with men, if you keep doing this.
Art_Critic Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by april Assuming - - that he knows what you want or expect. Expectations play a HUGE role in most relationships that die a quick death..ie: relationships that never take off because the womans expectations are unrealisticly high
elijahBailey Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Awesome! and well said. I'm gonna get my girl to come read this.... Originally posted by april Bullying - bullying him into your way of thinking. 'Bullying' should and can be replaced by 'sulking'..... Therefore....'sulking at him to get him into your way of thinking'
Dean3922 Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Communication is soooo important and necessary in a relationship. I think that it is the one single thing that will keep a couple together in the long run. When the looks go and we are sitting around staring at our wrinkles and gumming our food we still have our wit and a sparkle in the eye. A good conversation at that age will be better than sex.
Author april Posted August 26, 2005 Author Posted August 26, 2005 Glad you understand what I'm saying Dean, as I sit here mewing demurely.
Author april Posted August 26, 2005 Author Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by elijahBailey Awesome! and well said. I'm gonna get my girl to come read this.... 'Bullying' should and can be replaced by 'sulking'..... Therefore....'sulking at him to get him into your way of thinking' LOL!!! elijahBailey... I had doubts whether 'bullying' was the right word. Maybe 'expert manipulation' would be more suitable.
ReluctantRomeo Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Good list. What was your inspiration for this, if you don't mind me asking?
Jilly10340 Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Good advice.....I've tried all these with my boyfriend and none of them work. Oddly enough.....I've also tried effective communication and that doesn't work either......
Author april Posted September 5, 2005 Author Posted September 5, 2005 Good list. What was your inspiration for this, if you don't mind me asking? Well it was inspired by a need to look at myself, and realize it was NOT all the ex's fault. No male bashing is gonna make THIS chick feel any better., I'll take full responsiblity for my part.
johan Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 Add nagging to the list. That sends me up the wall. My now-ex was constantly trying to nag me. At first I got mad, and then I just teased her about it. But it ended up being her complete lack of faith in me that did us in.
fundamental Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 For the women ....... Mistakes you sometimes make when attempting to communicate with men. Assuming - - that he knows what you want or expect. Begging for him to "give you" what you want. Convincing - trying to make him feel the way you do. Bullying - bullying him into your way of thinking. = MANIPULATION
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 Well it was inspired by a need to look at myself, and realize it was NOT all the ex's fault. No male bashing is gonna make THIS chick feel any better., I'll take full responsiblity for my part. Good philosophy. And the best recipe for better romance in future.
elijahBailey Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 hey, wow, it's not everyday a chick takes a look at herself and says 'yeah.... it's my fault'. Cool....
littlekitty Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 I'm not sure she was saying 'Yeah it's my fault...' as much as 'Yes, I'll accept equal responsibility...'!!!!! I've always tried to look back and see the part I played in the break up of a relationship and accept what I did wrong... how else do you learn and move on to a better relationship?!
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