ironspider Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 I just got through a difficult friendzone relationship. We put it to bed on tuesday. While hanging with my friend, all of my dates where just to sleep with someone as I didn't get that from my friend. But now is different. I just went on a first date on thursday and then again friday (last night). We get along great, easy to talk to etc. I'm not looking to just sleep with this one so I need to figure out how to really date I guess. So after yesterdays date we texted goodnight and I haven't texted her this morning. I know she's busy all day, but I'm wondering when to send the Hello again text. Should i wait all day, let her stew a little? I didn't get any signs from her on the dates in terms of interest. Eye contact yes but none of the other tell tale body language signs. She's 100% my type so I have a little level of excitement going on.
smackie9 Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 Ask her out again. There is no need to get into texting on a daily basis yet, not until things get fired up between you two (if it does). You need to tease and flirt with her...you can't sit their like a stump expecting her to be all goo at you.
Author ironspider Posted February 10, 2018 Author Posted February 10, 2018 Ask her out again. There is no need to get into texting on a daily basis yet, not until things get fired up between you two (if it does). You need to tease and flirt with her...you can't sit their like a stump expecting her to be all goo at you. I'm having trouble figuring out what to do. Go to dinner is always the go to thing, but I kind of want to change it up a little. That's assuming she'll accept the third date request.
act00 Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 I'm taking issue with the fact that you want to "make her stew a little." Is playing games your goal? Why not just ask her out again? Ask how her day is. Dinner is the go-to, but you could ask her if she'd like to do something different on the next date. What would YOU like to do to mix things up a little? Present that idea. See what she thinks. Don't withhold contact in an attempt to "make her stew." If you ignore her, she'll take the hint you're not interested. Why not be yourself and just say hi and communicate when you want? If she can't talk/text, she'll let you know and get back to you.
Author ironspider Posted February 10, 2018 Author Posted February 10, 2018 I'm taking issue with the fact that you want to "make her stew a little." Is playing games your goal? Why not just ask her out again? Ask how her day is. Dinner is the go-to, but you could ask her if she'd like to do something different on the next date. What would YOU like to do to mix things up a little? Present that idea. See what she thinks. Don't withhold contact in an attempt to "make her stew." If you ignore her, she'll take the hint you're not interested. Why not be yourself and just say hi and communicate when you want? If she can't talk/text, she'll let you know and get back to you. I just didn't want to sound needy or smothering. Trying to do this right. But I did text her, we exchanged a few texts. I finally asked her out for a third date by saying: "What's your schedule like? I'd love to get together with you again." I think she's driving back to the Island from Brooklyn now so I don't expect an answer for a little while.
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