dgiirl Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 I'm sick to my stomach when I read this email from my stbxh. Basically my best friend called him by accident twice. I appologized to him via email and told him that it shouldnt happen again because she erased his number. His response was "it was no bother, really... was good to hear her voice again. It's too bad she's erased the number :)" My first reaction was to puke, but now I'm wondering if i'm over reacting. I always make justifications for my stbxh's behaviour.
Art_Critic Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Kinda sounds like he was just trying to be funny and it wasn't
lindya Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by dgiirl My first reaction was to puke, but now I'm wondering if i'm over reacting. I always make justifications for my stbxh's behaviour. Impossible to say dgiirl. Maybe speaking to her just brought back memories of happier times when the two of you were together? An Ex's friends can be one of the most powerful reminders of them. Knowing your stbxh's ways better than anyone else on this board, what do you think he would have meant by the comment?
Author dgiirl Posted August 26, 2005 Author Posted August 26, 2005 I think he's an idiot who doesnt master the english language sometimes. I'm just very sensitive on the topic because i've had ex-bf's hit on her and I guess it just brought out my insecurities.
ReluctantRomeo Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by lindya Impossible to say dgiirl. Maybe speaking to her just brought back memories of happier times when the two of you were together? An Ex's friends can be one of the most powerful reminders of them. I'd go with Lindya on this. Impossible to say for certain, but the most likely explanation is that it was a clumsy attempt at a compliment. He remembered happier times with you and wanted to say this, but tripped over his own tongue. This seems especially plausible given what you said about his language skills.
elijahBailey Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by dgiirl I think he's an idiot who doesnt master the english language sometimes. I'm just very sensitive on the topic because i've had ex-bf's hit on her and I guess it just brought out my insecurities. hey dgiirl, don't let it bother you. But I can understand that it did cos it brought back the bad memories. It's just in our human nature. Sometimes when I'm reminded of things that pained me in the past, I would get the same reaction. Just take it that he's an idiot whose articulation needs a little brushin' up
Author dgiirl Posted August 26, 2005 Author Posted August 26, 2005 Thanks guys for the feedback I guess I overreacted and it's always hard to communicate properly via email.
RecordProducer Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 Two clear conclusions: 1. He was intentionally trying to hurt you and make you jealous; and 2. You are not over him. Next time puke for real and then eat the puke! That will make you realize what you're doing by grieving a marriage with an A-hole. Been there, girl. Thought I lost someone special, couldn't believe it was happening after I gave him two beautiful little boys. Here I am a few years later happily in love. Can't imagine eating the same puke over and over again like before. Thank God the ex-husband left me and created space for someone new! Ya'll be allright.
Barby Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 Creepy?!?!?---------No!! Insensitive?!?!------Yes!! Or maybe as suggested he just misses happier times but then again why would he say it's a shame that she deleted his number...?!?! Had you talked to him previously about your ex-Bf's hitting on her and how it made you feel?!?! -------- If the answer to this is yes....maybe he just wanted to push your buttons to get a re-action from you?!?
Maria46 Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 Sounds like he was trying to get a reaction from you.
Author dgiirl Posted September 13, 2005 Author Posted September 13, 2005 Maria, possibly, I did not respond to it, I simply ignored it. Barby, I'm sure I mentioned it at one point. But it wasnt an on going issue. RecordProducer, You're absolutely correct. It's obvious I'm not over him. How can i? 8 years of marriage and it's down the drain without even a fighting chance. It'll take time for me to recover, but I am getting stronger each day. RP, you are an inspiration. We have very similar stories, and you seem to have moved on very well and I hope that will happen for me. It's just very surprising. You think you know someone so well, and then they abandon you, saying they never loved you as they walk out the door. But the less I have contact with him, the better I do. Thanks girls
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