darkmoon Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 (edited) So he literally caught my eye It was not a situation where the eye-catcher turns away on being noticed on the understanding that it is rude to stare. It was more penetrating and lasting, and my response was to stare back, for a couple of seconds, in the hope that he sees honesty, just my spontaneous reaction. Then I had to join a meeting (not with him) so not much more could happen. I have never spoken to this man. He seems aloof generally speaking, not friendly to anyone. He indeed has an air of mystery. We are both over 50. Any thoughts? Edited February 10, 2018 by darkmoon
Chilli Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 Well , got one , if l had a dollar for every time that happened with a women l'd be a millionaire. Still , it might've meant something , or maybe he was thinking about what he's gonna make for tea. And some mystery and aloof eh, ya don't think you been reading to much internet maybe ! Anyway , see what happens next time ya see him, all ya can do for now. 1
act00 Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 I wouldn't read much into it, but I would enjoy the idea that he might be attracted to me, particularly if I had a little secret crush on him. Even if there's something there, office romances, as we know, are not the best idea, so there's no saying he would want to pursue anything. You have no idea if he's involved with someone if he's that much of a mystery. You might have looked particularly attractive that day or his mind was wandering. In any case, little crushes can make the work day a little brighter. Don't get invested. Just enjoy. 2
gone_girl Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 Eye contact is quite a powerful thing; we are designed to be affected by eye contact (or the lack of it). Some people also use eye contact to make you uncomfortable. But its quite obvious when this happens, as their eyes aren't soft and lack emotion. If the eye contact felt good, he probably thought you look beautiful, interesting or both. We don't tend to gaze at things that are unappealing. An alternative explanation is that maybe you reminded him of someone from his past (I think this is less likely though). Finally, he may not be used to women looking at him and he wanted to absorb the feeling. If you see him again say hi and go on your way. Maybe at some point it will build up and you'll get to look at each other more, during conversation this time! [something similar happened to me last year. It was my first day at work and at some point a colleague entered my vicinity -- I don't think I've ever seen someone so handsome. He caught me looking and I looked away immediately because I felt embarrassed. But when I looked up again he was still looking at me, and seemed as if he froze there. Who knows what he was thinking? One year later; we talk sporadically and there's very good rapport. He's a good reason to go to work every day. But he's taken, so I'm being respectful regarding that. And he seems to do the same (which I respect even more).] 1
smackie9 Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 if you like him, you need to interact with him...introduce yourself. Yer over 50....this is something you can handle no? 1
olivetree Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 Being aloof and unfriendly is not really a good sign of relationship material. 1
kendahke Posted February 10, 2018 Posted February 10, 2018 Did his looking at you make you uncomfortable? Any chance you'll run into him again? Perhaps when you have more time and aren't going into a meeting, you'll be able to speak to one another. I don't know--generally speaking, we women over the age of 50 are by and large invisible, in my experience. When someone notices me with interest, I'm more inclined to be curious rather than repelled as I would have if I was in my 30's or so.
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