Sdives Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 How valid is blushing as a sign that some one might be interested? or is she just shy? I talk to this girl at the gym she seems very shy most of the time. Some days she’s more talkative. Just tonight I talked with her and she got blushing and red twice during out conversation. Sometimes she looks away when won't look at me directly. Or is she not interested? She seems so shy sometimes and timid. Some days she’s pretty out going it varies. But how reliable is the blushing? I want to make a move on her but it seems too soon to do so. She also doesn’t’ seem too bothered to keep the conversation going. I’m about 99% sure she’s single. My next step is too keep the conversation going longer and not cut it short. also her face went bright red when I said I had talked to her dad a couple times. I just small talked with him that was it. generally speaking does it mean attraction? whats the consenus? any insight? Link to post Share on other sites
act00 Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Blushing is just a response. It's not necessarily an indicator of attraction, but it most certainly can be a component. It sounds like she blushes very easily to all forms of emotional stimuli. I wouldn't use blushing alone as any kind of indicator. If she's shy, she responds to anything that makes her nervous, excited, embarrassed, stressed, and some people blush very easily and skin color can make blushing more apparent. You should probably not use blushing as a tool to determine interest, particularly with a lady who blushes so easily. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Yosemite Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Please don’t make a move on a 20 yr old girl. Aren’t you in your 40’s? If you do try to date her, be prepared for her father to be pissed at you and to lose his friendship. A lot of women don’t like to be hit on at the gym, she may feel that way as well, but she may be too inexperienced with shutting men down to get you to leave her alone. Also, since you know her father she may feel obligated to be polite to you. A lot of people that age are quiet or “shy” around older adults and their true personalities come out around people their own age. This is especially likely to be true since you know her father. She may have been flushed from working out, the redness/blushing may not have had anything to do with you. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Blushing is not a reliable indicator of romantic interest. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 You've been hitting on girls at the gym (trainers, employees at front desk and training customers alike) for at least 2.5 years. Anyone who's been there long enough must know that by now. It's likely you burnt your bridges there. You don't know what's the talk in the women's locker room. Maybe it's time for you to look elsewhere. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 I talk to this girl at the gym she seems very shy most of the time. Some days she’s more talkative. Just tonight I talked with her and she got blushing and red twice during out conversation. Sometimes she looks away when won't look at me directly. Or is she not interested? It could also be anger, nervousness or embarrassment. Is she actively approaching you even if you don't make contact first? A gym is somewhat of a captive environment, and she might simply be uncomfortable with the situation. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Blushing is not a reliable indicator of romantic interest. Agree. I have always been very very prone to blushing. I blush at the grocery store if I run into someone I haven't seen in a while, not because I'm interested, but because it's a "surprise"....something unexpected, I'm taken off guard. It's actually an embarrassing problem to have and the biggest reason I hate public speaking. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 it doesn't mean anything Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Agree. I have always been very very prone to blushing. I blush at the grocery store if I run into someone I haven't seen in a while, not because I'm interested, but because it's a "surprise"....something unexpected, I'm taken off guard. It's actually an embarrassing problem to have and the biggest reason I hate public speaking. Yeah, it's a weird (and aggravating) physiological thing. I'm fairly salty and not shy at all, and I'll blush at the drop of a hat. Who knows why, but it's a nuisance for sure. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Maybe she farted just before you approached her... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 do black/brown people blush? Link to post Share on other sites
olivetree Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Agree. I have always been very very prone to blushing. I blush at the grocery store if I run into someone I haven't seen in a while, not because I'm interested, but because it's a "surprise"....something unexpected, I'm taken off guard. It's actually an embarrassing problem to have and the biggest reason I hate public speaking. I have the same problem! Having to introduce myself to a group is the worst. OP, if you are twice her age as another poster said, then she's probably uncomfortable. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sdraw108 Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Please don’t make a move on a 20 yr old girl. How do you know she is 20? Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 How do you know she is 20? You're the one who referred to her as a "girl", so maybe Yosemite is trying to be optimistic. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Maggie4 Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Maybe it was just flushing from exercise. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 You're the one who referred to her as a "girl", so maybe Yosemite is trying to be optimistic. lol, put your glasses on . Not the same poster . 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Just ask her out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 Blushing means nothing. But not being bothered to keep the conversation going speaks volumes. Why exactly are you chasing a girl who isn't so interested in talking with you? Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 lol, put your glasses on . Not the same poster . Oops. Sdraw vs sdive. Sorry, sdraw. Smy sapologies. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Yosemite Posted February 7, 2018 Share Posted February 7, 2018 How do you know she is 20? From his last thread a couple days ago, he was analyzing all the guys on her Facebook to see if she had a boyfriend. He said that she was 20. Maybe it’s a different girl, but the fact that he knows her father and that he describes her behavior as “shy” makes me think it’s the same 20 yr old girl. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/651323-generally-speaking-would-there-some-signs-so-facebook-social-media 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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