Chabela Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 Hi Guys, Would you be bothered if your boyfriend of four months friends your single girlfriends on Facebook? I don't see the need for him to do that, I haven't friended any of his male friends. What do you guys think?
basil67 Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 Has he met them in real life? How does he know they are single? Has he friended your friends who have boyfriends too? Has he friended your male FB friends? More context required.
heavenonearth Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 Seems shady. Weird guy. I only befriend people on Fb that I have met in real life. Been with my boyfriend for 8 months and only this week added his sister, brother and brother's girlfriend. He has not added anyone of my friends or family, even though he met a lot of them. Your boyfriend has some weird priorities....
Kentucky Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 Hi Guys, Would you be bothered if your boyfriend of four months friends your single girlfriends on Facebook? I don't see the need for him to do that, I haven't friended any of his male friends. What do you guys think? It may be a little early for that. But, I'd think somewhere down the line that's perfectly acceptable. If y'all had been together for six months, I find that very acceptable.
Author Chabela Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 Hi, He has friended my closest male friend and 3 of my female friends and he has met them all, we've hung out with all of them. But none of my friends that have boyfriend's although we've hung out with them as well.
kendahke Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 I'd be more concerned with these so called friends accepting his friend request.
Michelle ma Belle Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 I'm going to guess you're young (early twenties) which means social media is your life as is accumulating 'friends' and therefore 'likes' on whatever platform you're into. Does it sound out of the ordinary for this age group? No. Does it seems suspicious? Unless you have reason to believe he's looking for more than just a record number of friends, then no. Is it appropriate? I too would say that three months into a relationship and your man is already sending out a slew of friend requests to YOUR friends seems a bit thirsty but then again it seems to be par for the course for young people today. If he doesn't have a track record of being shifty or hasn't given you reason to think his agenda is shady then I think you need to stop reading too much into it. The fact that you all have hung out does make his actions seem justified to some extent. Had you never really met or hung out, I'd definitely think this was a lot weirder than it actually is. Bottom line is how do YOU feel about this? If you don't like it, then figure out why and then share your concerns with him otherwise let it go. 1
Author Chabela Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 We are in our forties with me being 5 yrs older. 1
Miss Spider Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 (edited) Weird move. Perhaps innocent, but weird nevertheless. Edited February 7, 2018 by Cookiesandough
Michelle ma Belle Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 We are in our forties with me being 5 yrs older. Wow. Wasn't expecting that at all I don't know many forty year olds that do this so I'm not sure what more to say apart from what already said. Sorry. 1
smackie9 Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 I really wouldn't worry about it...they are not strangers, and you will all be hanging out together in the future...not really a big deal. He must really like you to want to be invested in your friends too. 1
dumbass2 Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 As long as he has been hanging out with them and knows them now I don't see why not. If he was a lot younger and not much relationship experience I might keep an eye on it, but I would hope this man is mature enough to know better than to starting flirting with his girlfriend's friends. Just see how he acts in person with them when you guys hang out. As long as he's not doing things with them by himself I think it's all fine. Assuming since they are friends that you do trust them. 1
ShyLove Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 Some people just like to add Facebook friends. It may be bc he wants to have his number of "friends" higher or he may be trying to find out more about you through their pages in some strange way. Who knows... I have a friend who has requested every single one of my friends from other hobbies if they have been in the same room. Even if they didn't talk at all. Some people are just like that. However, if your gut just won't let it go I'd say there's a reason for that. Good luck!! 2
Author Chabela Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 Thanks guys, I really appreciate the responses. Everything with him is good, he treats me really great, always out to nice dinners and always includes me in his plans when he goes out with his friends. And he behaves appropriately when we are out with my friends, I do trust my friends. This is just something which made me uncomfortable, he spends a lot of time on Facebook and although I don't post alot it seems that he doesn't see alot of my stuff because he doesn't like it. The other day I saw that he liked something one of my friends posted about football and that just set me off. I will see how I feel going forward. Thanks.
smackie9 Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 What do you mean he doesn't like it? not like what? He doesn't like what you post or he doesn't like you posting on FB? Doesn't "approve" of what you post?
Author Chabela Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 He doesn't "like" ? some of my posts, pics, etc because he doesn't see them, but he's on Facebook alot.
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