Girl720 Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 From the very first time a guy meets a girl, (I'll say after meeting from a dating website), can he tell right away if the girl can be relationship worthy? Or does it take a few dates to figure out??
she'stheone Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 Hi Girl720, Guys don't think about relationships in that way. If we like you, then we want to see more of you. If we're meh on you, it will be obvious in our low interaction rate. Just remember... (from my blog) …let’s face it… …men and women are just wired differently. We act differently in a relationship and neither men nor women, seem to understand the number one difference at this stage. When a woman meets a man and feels a spark, chemistry, connection, for her… …it’s usually an emotional experience and she begins to become attracted to him. For men, it’s a bit different. With us, the spark, chemistry, connection is almost completely physical. When a man feels a strong physical chemistry with a woman, he will do almost anything to be with her, make her happy and impress her. Unfortunately, most women confuse this for affection or love. It is not… …as men, we can feel strong passionate desire to be with a woman, without ANY consideration of who she is as a person. Because again… …for men, it’s physical chemistry first. When we feel it, we will show you our attention, interest and attraction. Please understand, most men are NOT trying to trick you. Yes, there are some “players” out there but, most men ARE interested in a long term relationship… …with the right woman. When a man shows you his attention, interest and attraction, he is truly interested in you… …it’s just too soon for most men*to have developed deep emotional feelings or at least similar feelings to the ones you have at this stage. (end blog post snipet) Always remember a man wants sex. If he likes you he will wait, if he doesn't like you, but he's attracted to you, he may wait a little (different men different wait times) but will not be willing to put in the effort for very long. Hope that helps. Sending you much love and light 1
kendahke Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 From the very first time a guy meets a girl, (I'll say after meeting from a dating website), can he tell right away if the girl can be relationship worthy? Or does it take a few dates to figure out?? I don't think so. It takes interacting, at least once, to get a sense of the person by how they answer, carry themselves, how they treat with you. What probably is taking place right away is him projecting what he wants out of the interaction, not necessarily that he thinks a stranger is the missing cog in his romantic wheel. 3
Jj66 Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 I often knew after the first date that she was NOT relationship material. I couldn't tell yet whether she definitely was. That required at least 4 or 5 dates and also being physical. 7
winny Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 even if someone sees potential still after one date it would be too early for jumping into conclusions about someone. 2
d0nnivain Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 It's usually easier to figure out if somebody is definitely not relationship material. However, somebody can be relationship material & still not be a compatible match with the person they are on that first date with. Using you as an example, you are a quality, honest, loyal, kind, intelligent person, right? At ground that makes you "relationship material." You are not an angry substance abuser with a criminal record & no morals. However, let's say for the purposes of this example that you are conservative & religious. But you are on a date with somebody who happens to liberal & agnostic. You love slap stick physical comedy but he prefers more cerebral jokes. You are both "relationship material" but you may have a hard time making an LTR work with each other 5
TheFinalWord Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 From the very first time a guy meets a girl, (I'll say after meeting from a dating website), can he tell right away if the girl can be relationship worthy? Or does it take a few dates to figure out?? No, all he can tell is if he is either mildly or strongly physically attracted to her. Until he interacts with her from a reference point that does not include physical attraction, he will never really know if she is relationship material. 2
SevenCity Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 I often knew after the first date that she was NOT relationship material. I couldn't tell yet whether she definitely was. That required at least 4 or 5 dates and also being physical. Same here. I can definitely tell on a first date when she is not rl material. But it takes me about 1-2 months to determine if she is as well as several times having sex. 3
Sunlight72 Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 Hi Girl 720, it depends a lot on age. Some teenagers, or some guys in their 20's might be ready to commit to a permanent relationship, including marriage, within perhaps 90 seconds of meeting a particular woman if she returns interest. And it will take (nearly) the end of the earth to change his mind. I did that. Older or more experienced men are less likely to do this. But, of course, everyone is different. Some guys in their 30's will basically commit to a relationship leading up to and then including marriage based mostly on a first impression, if nothing really major comes up to knock that off course. But in a healthy relationship, I agree with the posters above who said that a woman or man being relationship material does not indicate if they are or are not a good fit for a relationship with any one other particular person. Most of the time, two decent humans are decent but do not make a galaxy-spanning perfect romantic partnership together. Figuring out if they are a good pair takes time. 2
Shining One Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 From the very first time a guy meets a girl, (I'll say after meeting from a dating website), can he tell right away if the girl can be relationship worthy? Or does it take a few dates to figure out??I can rarely tell if a woman is relationship material on the first date. I'd say it usually takes me 5+ dates and sex before that happens. However, I can sometimes determine a woman is NOT relationship material on the first date. 1
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