kitkat826 Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 How long did it take for you to get over your first love? (And I don't mean that person you had a crush on and held hands with when you were in middle/high school, or someone you dated for a bit and were infatuated with. I'm talking about real, significantly-long relationships). Do you ever get over your first love? How are subsequent loves different? Whats a girl who DID indeed get "over" him and move on supposed to do when she realizes that she hasn't had a relationship that's even come close since in terms of communication, trust, and respect? Just keep on chugging knowing that she will eventually find those qualities in someone else because it happens all the time? Enlighten me, folks.
dd1463 Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 Hmmm... I wonder why no one replied to this post. Sounds like a really interesting post to me. I am currently still very much in love with my first love
JS17 Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 I've never gotten over anyone that I was in love with. That's why I can't talk to them anymore. It's all very sad really.
animo Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 hmmm intresting question... I did get over her and moved on... That being said, i haven't met anyone just yet who compares to her and i still love her. Although when i say i still love her i mean that in a non passionate way. I'd put my hand in the fire for her any day but if she were to maybe want to 'try again' i don't think i would agree to that... I traded in a broken relationship for a great friendship. I think i made a very good decision there and i'm not going to come back on a good decision I guiss, when i really think about it, i want something different in a woman now then i did back then, and that's the main reason why i'm not finding anything 'comparable'. Simply because i'm not looking for that type of woman anymore. The fact that i've not had a serious relationship since then is i think more due to the fact that before her i spent 5 years as a single not looking...now i've spent a year as a single on the prowl...so i guiss meeting more plp's does not equal meeting the right one faster
noname Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 i have always had the ability to let go rather quickly. when i move on, i simply move on. i close that chapter of my life. no regrets, no spilled milk. if i am hurting, i say tops... about a month or two. doesn't mean i don't care about her, i just let go of the part of me that had romantic interests. i might occasionally remember a good time we had together, but i have never longed to have anybody back in my life. i always have a little love for everyone, but it is more like the kind of caring that you do for a family member. and i NEVER spend even a minute trying to recreate a past relationship. everybody starts off with a clean slate. from the bottom up. personally, i believe that comparing someone to a past love is just bad news. it is unfair tho them and expectations have a propensity to leave you longing...
AmberAriesMom Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 kitkat, are you talking about 'getting over' him or 'fogetting about' him? You'll never forget about him! We can't undo our memories, so I'm assuming you mean you still want to be in a relationship with him?
elijahBailey Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 yup, I've long gotten over my first. But I don't think I'll ever forget her. After all these years, I still find myself thinking about her, pondering over the what-ifs. She'll always have a special place in my heart.
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