woninnok Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 So last week I was at a prom of a younger generation and I meet this girl again, whom I almost hooked up with last year, but refused as my buddy was crushing on her at the time. We started talking and dancing and at one point I went for the kiss, but she stopped me and said that its too early and too public to kiss and we both enthusiastically agreed to a date. She couldn't stop staring at me for the remaining of the night and looking for ways to start a new conversation. So I texted her the next day, saying whats up and that and proposing a date on wednesday, but to my astonishment she said she is not sure as she already has plans for wednesday(presumably she meant a date) and she has to think about it. I was initially upset, thinking she is playing me or something and I didn't text her back after. So what should I do? Did this girl just play me for attention or something? Is she playing hard to get? What should I do? I am kind of bummed out because I really clicked with her.
d0nnivain Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 Young girls are historically flakey & unreliable. In the magic of the dance she liked you well enough in a public space but perhaps the idea of being alone with you scares her. You were bold enough to try for a kiss before you even dated her. She may be terrified of what you expect once you get her alone. You can negotiate with her for a date / time / place that makes her comfortable but if she's giving you vague answers & not telling you when she is free, she is really not enthusiastic about going out with you. The more you push, the more reluctant she will be. 2
smackie9 Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 She was just having fun in the moment and you took it as interest. If you get rejected for a kiss...it's ain't gonna go anywhere. She agreed to date to pacify you. Once she was safely away from you, she had np dodging going out with you. Girls do not like confrontation....that's why they have a hard time saying NO to a date right to your face....they rather flake in hopes you get the hint there is no interest in that. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 I'm going to second that young girls are historically flaky & unreliable. I have teenage boys so I've got front row seats to this show almost daily. Looking back at when I was a teenager, I may have tried to play it cool but if/when a guy I was really interested in asked me out on a date, I would have definitely found time for him. If not, I would have made up the same excuse this chick did with you. I'm an old woman now, so maybe things are different these days but there you have it. Personally, I wouldn't give her a second thought. She knows you were interested and she effectively blew you off. Why waste anymore time trying to convince her? Maybe it's a 'guy thing' to pursue a girl until she caves or gets a restraining order. Her loss if she's playing you. Good luck. 2
Miss Spider Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 (edited) She doesn’t sound interested. Sorry. Edited February 6, 2018 by Cookiesandough 1
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