Author snowsnowsnow Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 Hi justwhoiam. Thank you for your response. The thing is, I have told him before that I love to travel. He knew this right when he met me when we started dating in high school. I have included him several times in vacations before with myself and my sister. But when I go with my family, they like to keep to themselves, and I don't think they'd allow him until we were at least engaged. I have told him if he has an issue with my traveling that he can leave me, but he refuses too. I have been putting him as a priority for the last 6 years. I lost my friends because of him, didn't go on any trips with my family last year because of his whinyness, so many more things as well....I know that is my fault as well for allowing him to do this to me. But This year I finally put myself before him, and thats why I am really frustrated because I feel that he should want the best for me. We are so young and should be able to travel before we settle down together. I have seen couples go on so many trips without eachother and there wasn't a fuss like this. I will probably have to leave him, because after i look at all these repsonses I realized that a guy I want to marry is going to be supportive of me. I am just really tired of walking eggshells around him.
Author snowsnowsnow Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 (edited) Thank you for your responses everyone. You all are right. A guy I am with should not be jealous of my family. And should want the best for me. I always look at my moms and dads relationship. My mom goes on trips to Europe to visit her family and we live in US. My dad always supports her 100%. I knew if I did that with my bf, he wouldn't give me a break and would continue to freak out and give me a hard time about it. I feel its just super hard to leave him because I have known him since 16 and he was 13....but I know I need to do it eventually. Probably when I move out so it will be easier and not as messy. I just am tired of feeling anxious and scared to make him mad all the time. I keep feeling sorry for him because he does struggle with depression and he always says he hates his life. I try everything I can to make him happy, but it is just not enough. MAybe it will be better for both of us to seperate and focus on ourselves. I have tried talking to him several times about how I am not abandoning him and that he needs to support me, but it has always ended the same way. He says everything is okay, and then a couple days later he is back to the same jealous person. I am enabling his controlling behavior and I need to put an end to it. Edited February 7, 2018 by snowsnowsnow
Author snowsnowsnow Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 Hi! Thanks for your response. If I sent him pictures of me on my trip, or told him how much of a good time I was having he would just get more jealous, even if I stated that i miss him very much (which of course i do) I have tried that before and he just starts getting really passive aggresive. I have instagram and post pictures of just everyday adventures. Like me at the local forest preserve or at my horse riding stable with horses and he has unfollowed me and refollowed me multiple times because he says the stuff I post is annoying. He only likes when I post pictures that involve him and I do post him a lot. I just feel like everything has to revolve around him. And he won't ever be happy for me unless he is accompanying me on this trip. I have tried your suggestion before and it hasnt worked sadly
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