Addison Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Does anyone else feel unusually jealous when their ex is around someone of the opposite sex after you break up? I've never been a jealous person but now when I see girls that I know he would never in a million years be intersted in, even so much as standing near him I feel this huge rush of jealousy. I hate that feeling. I'm just wondering if I'm alone in this.
Tiggerlove Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 I'm currently going through a similar situation. My boyfriend, (who I've dated for 4 years)and I had a 2 month separation. We just got back together this last weekend...and I'm having a horrible time coping with my jealousy of the girl he went out with a few times in those 2 months. I trust him when he says they didn't do anything sexually (which, I wouldn't have a right to be upset if he had, except that he get tested for std's before we did anything), so I thought I'd be cool with it. Well, he keeps mentioning things about the things they had done...or talking about her. I told him I didn't want to hear about her anymore. Well, come to find out, she's been outta town this whole weekend until Weds...so she had no idea he was back with me. She's been calling him Weds and Thursday like a million times a day. I told him it has to be taken care of the next time she calls. I can't have another woman assuming he's her man...when he's mine. I'm not mad at her..she doesn't know any better..he is the one being the bad guy, not her. So, he's suppose to talk to her tonight about it. I hope its taken care of..she quits calling, and we can get on and work on our problems again. I had a hard time when we broke up that he might date...but I had to deal with it. You'll get past it eventually after time goes by. Just keep your mind off of things, and try to avoid being in the same place as him.
vix Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Jealousy is a crazy emotion & hard to control. I wouldn't say that i'm a jealous person but i've had my moments!! And what i find even stranger is that my ex recently ended our relationship & a month after he walked away, became jealous, reckoning i was seeing someone else. Nothing prompted this but why? He walked away, knows i didn't want him to go & more importantly, knows i wouldn't do that.
Author Addison Posted August 30, 2005 Author Posted August 30, 2005 Well I'm glad to know that I'm not alone in this. (Not seeing him isn't really a good option right now since we're working things out and working on getting back together.) We just spent the weekend together and I finally got to meet some of these girls that I hear him mention in conversation. Now that I've put faces with names and talked to them I'm not really jealous anymore. Well, atleast not just out of the blue. I still trust him and there's no reason that I shouldn't. Sometimes I just let my mind run wild.
Zaira Posted August 30, 2005 Posted August 30, 2005 I've been apart from my ex for months now and I still get jealous if I think about him with someone else. I think it's only natural if you have some sort of feelings left. It does get easier over time.
tolongaway Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 I am apart from the woman I hope to be my wife. We love each other but for various reasons the relationship hit a major rough patch and we separated. Neither of us new wether we would get back together but we did talk and decided there was still hope. During this converstion I assured her that I had no intention of dating or seeing anyone else. She did not, at that time give me that assurance. I later found out her friends had told her she should date other people and try and have some fun after the previous months hardships/ I was a mess after finding this out. I did not want to ask her not to do this as it would seem manipulating. However, if she dated there would be no way for me to talk her back. If she was actually intimate with someone it would have destroyed me. In the end I just had to tell her that I could not work together toward a reconsiliation if she was out shopping for a replacement. I told her that this was in no way meant to control her I was just letting her know the concequences of such a thing. This is not exactly what you ask but if she had dated someone else and we got back together that person would always be between us. So being jealous of what happened on your break is natural I think. In effect you are dealing with your partner being with someone else. I could not deal with this which is why in the end I made it clear. Now that it is in the past you should talk about it and get your feelings out there before they interfear with your reconsiliation
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