JJ89 Posted February 5, 2018 Posted February 5, 2018 Ok, so I sound like one of those immature middle school, “omg does he like me??” Girls, but I promise you I am not. I am realistic and have enough self confidence to just straight forward come out and ask if he’s into me or otherwise take initiative in that direction. However the circumstances are unique. So we met on Craigslist under personals if you get my drift....so it was kind of assumed that casual is what we’re looking for. And honestly it was, I know for me at least, but then I actually met him and right away I was interested. We had AMAZING sex, and it was surprisingly intimate. So anyway, post coitus, we cuddle a little and talk. He inatiated the cuddling and this leads to a convo about cuddling preferences where he specifically uses the phrase “if you” to describe the other person. So while we’re cuddling he grazes his hands on my arm as we lay there. We talk about everything, religion, interests, views of the world, our childhood, our flaws and strengths. We talk about our “type” and every time I mention a characteristic he compairs himself to it and asks further questions related to it. Like I said “I’m into Jewish guys” and he says, “I kinda have a Jew fro.” Then he asks if I’m into mediterranean men and when I say yes he tells me his ethnic background and compares it to Mediterranean. So before I know it it’s 4 am, not once during this time we talked for 4+ hours did he once even indicate he wanted me to leave. I actually asked if I should and he seemed like he wanted me to stay, so I did. By this time I was really comfortable with him and honestly kind of smitten. So I kind of noticed his body language, lots of big smiles, some adorning looks when we talked about the kind of person I was, and this adorable dopey smile he got when I was cuddling with his dog, plus he always leaned in when I was talking and faced tward me. And as I was leaving at 4 am, he said “text me when you get home.” Then like 5 minuets before I actually did he texted me and asked if I made it safely. So I admit, I’m most definitely into him, I know this. And I wouldn’t even begin to think that he was either if it was just one or a few of these things, but everything combined. I kinda think he may? What do you guys think? Is he just a really nice chill person, or are these things you don’t just do with someone you’re not interested in? I will talk to him eventually but right now, I just can’t stop thinking about him, I need advice. Lol
ExpatInItaly Posted February 5, 2018 Posted February 5, 2018 It's impossible to say right now; it's too early and you haven't really spent time with him outside the bedroom yet, if I understand the situation correctly. I would advise you not to get ahead of yourself at this point. You had a nice night together but he is a stranger. A few fun hours together isn't enough to go on. See if he takes the initiative to meet for more than sex.
justwhoiam Posted February 5, 2018 Posted February 5, 2018 Right, don't get ahead of yourself. Did you put an ad on craiglist? What did the ad say?
heavenonearth Posted February 5, 2018 Posted February 5, 2018 I remember Craigslist from when i lived in NY and i feel it definitely is one of the more shady places to find people for casual sex. He could be just a needy guy who wants sex but can’t get it otherwise. He could genuinely like you, but that would be quite a Hollywood film... I find this super weird, sorry. Offer to see him again outside the bedroom and see how he responds...? 1
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2018 Posted February 5, 2018 He liked you well enough to have sex with you & talk for 4 hours. Get back in touch with him & arrange another date. See what happens. Do not initially give your heart away because the circumstances of your 1st encounter indicate that caution is the watch word; his post coital politeness may be just that & he may have no interest in a relationship
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